FirstDecanTaurianWoman0428
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Have enough friends?
Having a lot of fiends, of both sexes, is a positive. What matters is if they still have enough time and energy for you. If they did not have any of the previous, it is a red flag.
The answer is a mature answer above.
I believe you are asking the question can guys and girls be friends. Is it ok for the person you date to have a lot of friends of the other sex. May to a point it is important for them to have a good number of same sex friends.
I was going over this with a friend of mine not to long ago. She stated that her bf has 2 best friends that are girls. He grew up with them and sees them as sister nothing has ever happened and nothing ever will. She has major issues with this because she constantly wants to know she is the number one priority in his life. This is not healthy... I have had girlfriends in the past try to tell me I can't be friends with girls... and normally I don't develop alot of close relationships with friends that are girls... However my best friends is a girl... I also did alot of yoga and do have some surface level friends that do yoga as well... Some of which are extremely attractive even models... however most of them have boyfriends or even married. I have an x that got on my face book and deleted every girl on it and numbers out of my phone... included my sister number and blood cuz... People I worked with that are way older as well.
The plane and simple fact is yes guys and girls can be just friends... Normally friendship develops from a common interest such as my yoga class. I have also noticed that many of the males seemed to be extremely threaten by me as I am not a bad looking guy with a good job. When it comes down to it... you don't have to trust the people around your gf or bf you just have to trust them. If they are any quality of a bf or gf... they will set boundaries with their friends... I would think as long as they did not step to far out of line maybe just a comment that went a little for it is ok to warn them... However a simple compliment should be just fine. I mean really how can you be friends with someone and not beable to give them a compliment. However there is a fine line between a compliment and hitting on someone... It is also different if they don't know you are with someone. In that case many men these days are of the school hit on everything that moves or try to hang around until she is single again. The truth is if you relationship is long term and they are only interested in you sexually or physically they will stop being your friend eventually. If they are real and share a common interest or ideas or something and make an efferent the frien
I believe you are asking the question can guys and girls be friends. Is it ok for the person you date to have a lot of friends of the other sex. May to a point it is important for them to have a good number of same sex friends.
I was going over this with a friend of mine not to long ago. She stated that her bf has 2 best friends that are girls. He grew up with them and sees them as sister nothing has ever happened and nothing ever will. She has major issues with this because she constantly wants to know she is the number one priority in his life. This is not healthy... I have had girlfriends in the past try to tell me I can't be friends with girls... and normally I don't develop alot of close relationships with friends that are girls... However my best friends is a girl... I also did alot of yoga and do have some surface level friends that do yoga as well... Some of which are extremely attractive even models... however most of them have boyfriends or even married. I have an x that got on my face book and deleted every girl on it and numbers out of my phone... included my sister number and blood cuz... People I worked with that are way older as well.
The plane and simple fact is yes guys and girls can be just friends... Normally friendship develops from a common interest such as my yoga class. I have also noticed that many of the males seemed to be extremely threaten by me as I am not a bad looking guy with a good job. When it comes down to it... you don't have to trust the people around your gf or bf you just have to trust them. If they are any quality of a bf or gf... they will set boundaries with their friends... I would think as long as they did not step to far out of line maybe just a comment that went a little for it is ok to warn them... However a simple compliment should be just fine. I mean really how can you be friends with someone and not beable to give them a compliment. However there is a fine line between a compliment and hitting on someone... It is also different if they don't know you are with someone. In that case many men these days are of the school hit on everything that moves or try to hang around until she is single again. The truth is if you relationship is long term and they are only interested in you sexually or physically they will stop being your friend eventually. If they are real and share a common interest or ideas or something and make an efferent the frien
If they are real and share a common interest or ideas or something and make an efferent the friendship is healthy.
I however worry about girls these days because you often see them think just every guy is trying to hit on them... which is not the truth... girls should not be so full of themselves. However I will say men need to tone it back these days a little with hitting on anything that moves and respect relationships. You will see a fair amount of girls who if they think there is a better deal they jump ship.
If two people are in love and respect eachother they will set healthy limits with there friends because they don't want to make there bf or gf jealous and nor would they want to give any hope to someone that something would never happen with. Girls these days however will except drinks from guys, they will dance well a little to interestingly with men, and more... So it is a two way street and women need to work on that.
If anyone wants to have a real relationship they have to trust the person they are with... that is all that matters... I have slept in the same bed as my best that that is a girl because I had other friends sleeping out or all over my place but not in my room. She did not like 2 of they guys as one was a real creepy type... I almost kicked him out... At that time I had a girlfriend... I told her the situation and she said she trust me... other wise why would I tell her. Any other time I would not sleep in the same bed and most likely room... But it was silly to sleep on the floor... when she is like 90 pounds and it was a really big bed. After all It is not like I was 16 but like 25...
I have given advise to a fried that is a girl that is have major issue like I was talking about above... and I told her how would you feel if I got a new girlfriend... and she felt threatened by you because you are a good looking girl and demand I can't be friends with you... Me knowing it will never be like... and we both mutually know and agree. Even though she does think I am not a bad looking guy... She said oh I would be pissed... and I said I don't know if I would want to be in such a controlling relationship.
Bottom line if people are done playing high school games it should not matter.
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I however worry about girls these days because you often see them think just every guy is trying to hit on them... which is not the truth... girls should not be so full of themselves. However I will say men need to tone it back these days a little with hitting on anything that moves and respect relationships. You will see a fair amount of girls who if they think there is a better deal they jump ship.
If two people are in love and respect eachother they will set healthy limits with there friends because they don't want to make there bf or gf jealous and nor would they want to give any hope to someone that something would never happen with. Girls these days however will except drinks from guys, they will dance well a little to interestingly with men, and more... So it is a two way street and women need to work on that.
If anyone wants to have a real relationship they have to trust the person they are with... that is all that matters... I have slept in the same bed as my best that that is a girl because I had other friends sleeping out or all over my place but not in my room. She did not like 2 of they guys as one was a real creepy type... I almost kicked him out... At that time I had a girlfriend... I told her the situation and she said she trust me... other wise why would I tell her. Any other time I would not sleep in the same bed and most likely room... But it was silly to sleep on the floor... when she is like 90 pounds and it was a really big bed. After all It is not like I was 16 but like 25...
I have given advise to a fried that is a girl that is have major issue like I was talking about above... and I told her how would you feel if I got a new girlfriend... and she felt threatened by you because you are a good looking girl and demand I can't be friends with you... Me knowing it will never be like... and we both mutually know and agree. Even though she does think I am not a bad looking guy... She said oh I would be pissed... and I said I don't know if I would want to be in such a controlling relationship.
Bottom line if people are done playing high school games it should not matter.
PM
Posted by CluelessCancer
1) I don't like popular people. Like lots of friends suggests to me that you're a partier and love to always mingle with people. I want to be around someone who is selective in their friendships and has a few good friends (
I like your honestly CC... I can understand how people thing people are social it is the sharing deep inner thoughts that you don't do... There for you can be around people even talking to them but few will not find your depth... You should take a personality test... You may be a INFJ... Most people would think that same as me at times in my life... but when people get to know me they understand I really live in my own head then out in the open.
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I get what you both are saying. My ex bf never introduced me to his friends...so I became this chick I never wanted to be and that is being jealous all time..I hate being like that and I have to question every fucking thing you do. But I did this for 6 years... I on the other hand.. don't have that many friends.. I keep myself content.... I also want that person to trust me as well..so I do homebody things and I want to spend my time with you.. especially if you are the type to gain friends.. Gemini, Sagittarius, Aries all feel they need many friends even in a relationship.. I don't care that you have friends.. I do my own thing too.. I need you just to be honest and trusting first.
The more popular you are to me.. I feel that I would never match that level. The more sexy a guy is to me.. the more I think bet he'll never give me the time of day..or bet he has alot of women after him... I would rate myself a 8, only because no one is perfect. I meet people every day...but I pick my friends and lovers wisely.
Rabid- what if one is opposite would you accept it? Would you always be honest and let that person know heads up you have a lot of friends and will always no matter how that person may feel?
If someone got married I hope that this topic changes to.. having friend is ok in a friendship, then once you get married it should cease slowly.. because now you need time and energy to focus on the family part.. that is marriage and kids...haha
Oh pastel yeah I am very skeptical about people...I see and been in some shady life experiences..I don't have many female friends.. and many guy friends I've had... turned into husband material and no longer friends. So girl and guy friends are for so long until someone moves on.. cause I know how it feels to be home wrecked..I am not a home wrecker either..I will leave my friends until they need me but once taken.. I distant myself..
Oh pastel yeah I am very skeptical about people...I see and been in some shady life experiences..I don't have many female friends.. and many guy friends I've had... turned into husband material and no longer friends. So girl and guy friends are for so long until someone moves on.. cause I know how it feels to be home wrecked..I am not a home wrecker either..I will leave my friends until they need me but once taken.. I distant myself..
FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428,
what if one is opposite would you accept it?
Yes. Everyone is their own person, it being a red flag does not disqualify.
Would you always be honest and let that person know heads up you have a lot of friends and will always no matter how that person may feel?
Only if they asked why I have XX amount of friends, I probably wouldn't make it a conversation topic. I went out with a taurian who was extremely social whereas I am a huge introvert. She had waay more friends than me and tried to be friends with everyone. She was into networking and tried to build as many business contacts as possible. It was a great relationship because I let her handle the "social" side of things and I took care of everything else.
Having a good social circle and network of many different people is a sign of having good balance in your life. It's definitely a positive to look for in dating and in a mate. Early on in dating, it should just be you two, on dates, not groups. The many friends thing is only if you are worried about this person cheating or not paying enough time or attention to you or something else, these are really different issues than having too many friends.
what if one is opposite would you accept it?
Yes. Everyone is their own person, it being a red flag does not disqualify.
Would you always be honest and let that person know heads up you have a lot of friends and will always no matter how that person may feel?
Only if they asked why I have XX amount of friends, I probably wouldn't make it a conversation topic. I went out with a taurian who was extremely social whereas I am a huge introvert. She had waay more friends than me and tried to be friends with everyone. She was into networking and tried to build as many business contacts as possible. It was a great relationship because I let her handle the "social" side of things and I took care of everything else.
Having a good social circle and network of many different people is a sign of having good balance in your life. It's definitely a positive to look for in dating and in a mate. Early on in dating, it should just be you two, on dates, not groups. The many friends thing is only if you are worried about this person cheating or not paying enough time or attention to you or something else, these are really different issues than having too many friends.
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