How judgmental are you?

I would like to ask questions, however, I am holding back because I feel that they would be judged instead of answered. What is the general feel for things around here?

ask away.

Everyone is judgemental no matter what they try to tell you. The problem is that "judgemental" has gotten such a bad rep...it's just a state of mind, there is nothing inherently negative about being judgemental. It's a necessary human trait to judge; if we didn't have it we wouldn't survive.

That being said, here's how it is around here...

if you put your personal life out there for other people to read about, you need to be prepared for the great comments and the stupid insensitive comments. Respond to and learn from the former and totally dismiss the latter whenever possible, as these boards are much like the world at large in that there are some diamonds in the rough, but all too many piles of shit to avoid. 🙂

"I would like to ask questions, however, I am holding back because I feel that they would be judged instead of answered. What is the general feel for things around here?"



Depends on who's answering and from what mind-set they process information. There are some people who will solely nurture your emotions without really approaching your problem .. others who will be diplomatic but reasonable .. others who will solely look at your role that you played within the scenerio ... others who will take sides with the person to whom you have an issue regardless of any deeds .. some who will crack jokes .... everybody responds differently.


Shoot with the questions .. if a response comes you don't like, you have the option here, as within every aspect of your life, to regard at your own discretion.

I'd like to add that when we feel that someone is "judging" us, it is us who is usually judging others. When we do not judge ourselves and accept ourselves for who we are, we will also accept others for who they are. We learn to take NOTHING personally for it is not about us, but rather the other person.

* We live in a world of "projection."

Would the board take on a discussion of a woman having an affair, and help her figure out what is what? Or would that person be strung up?

Both .. depends on who responds.

Why are you afraid of other peoples perspective?

Is this still referencing your Virgo friend, to whom you two are just supposed to be regular friends .... however, apparantly now with sexual benefits?

So, what is the issue? Is he married, or something? Or, you?

Something I find really curious here ... and by saying this, it's likely you'll clam up and not say anything more ....

You say, "and help her figure out what is what" ..... while obviously having a fear of hearing what really is what, for to hear it is what is causing you to "fear", and say "strung up".

Furthermore, for you to say, "strung up" .. suggests that whatever role you are playing within this situation, is wrong in your eyes .. for if it was right, you wouldn't be able to even grasp that you might be strung up for it. When we aren't feeling wrong, or guilty about something, we have nothing to fear about getting into some kind of trouble .. yet, you say, "strung up" .. so you know. You know that whatever you've done, is fucked up.

So, in reality .. what you are fearing here is .. hearing any kind of truth about whatever role you are playing within this scenerio.

Likely ... the only person you have to worry about pointing this reality out to you ... is me. So, if you come on here, state your situation and say .. PLEASE DON'T RESPOND, P-ANGEL .. then I won't and likely nobody else will string you up.

Give it a shot .. there's many people in here who will be sympathetic.