Ponn Farr!

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Cortica
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Oh my god!

I realize I'm outing myself as a trekkie, but I need help - desperately.

Is anyone familiar with Ponn Farr? I'm going out of my mind - I can't think of anything else that could possibly describe the situation - I think I've alienated all of my friends by trying to grope them - I've got to lock myself in a room until this whole thing passes - has anyone else had any experiences with overwhelming lust!? (I'm looking for something to make me feel better about my excessive hormonal inclinations) ROFL AAAARRRGHHH!!
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Irony of all ironies!!!

Thanks for all your advice - I seem to have resovled my ponn farr over the weekend, but have created another dilema of which I have no idea what to do......

so...I've found someone who's perfect, incredibly intelligent (which is the most important thing for me and is so rare to find), and we get along really well and there's heaps of chemistry and everything seems to be moving in the right direction however......

and there's always a however......I just don't find this person physically attractive (and I discovered this mid-ponn farr so to speak) - is it possible to be attracted to a person while finding the idea of sex with them really off-putting?
And I don't know what to do - is physical attraction one of those things that develops over time (please say yes lol)? I've never started things this way around either - i've always found someone physically attractive and then got to know their personality - another one of those situations where life tosses you a brilliant situation and a box full of spanners.

So...does anyone have any pertinent advice/chastisings/insults to offer?
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Star
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I have to be attracted mentally before I can be attracted physically. I have learned that I need to get to know the person on an intellectual level before I can even begin to determine if there could be more...but, that is me.

(The agony! I have passed up some very beautiful physical specimens!! Arrgghhh!)

What about the 'heaps of chemistry'? If all of your senses are stimulated except your eyes (visual alone...isolated) then I think there is a good chance. You must allow yourself to get past what the media tells us beauty is!
(I must also like how the person smells! Pheromones matter! LOL!)
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You're f'cken funny Cortica, only you could get it the wrong way around! I'm sure you'll be over it by tomorrow anyway...

In relation to your question, 'is it possible to find somebody attractive but not physically attracitve', i suppose it is. Sex isn't the be all and the end all? I dunno, guess i didn't get enough sleep last night.

By the way, can somebody please tell me what Ponn Farr is?

Thanks,
Libragirl.
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Cortica
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ROFL@ponn farr!

Hello libragirl!!! It's been ages and ages and ages!

Ponn farr is something that Vulcans go through every seven years. As they are a race that uses logic to supress all emotion, the ponn farr is like an eruption of lust where a vulcan must find a mate or die (oh yeah my life is tragic!). It's also referred to as the 'recurring 11 day puberty' (and everyone wants to go through that again!).

LOL - the self respect factor has just dropped down another notch 🤢gt;
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Wow, that's very interesting! I thought it was like yoga or something! I know this may seem a strange question (I'm sure you won't mind, nothing seems strange to you!), but do you take classes to unleash it or does it happen naturally? How did you find out about it? I'm gonna have to do some research on this...

I'm glad you're still posting, I haven't been here for a while. Decided to put some time into my real life! But then i realised this is part of my real life, all things in moderation i suppose. How's it going up in Brisbane? Remember my offer still stands if you ever decide to come to Melbourne.

Seeya,
Libragirl.

PS. Star, how have you been?