Problem with my parents

I got furious at my two parents lately. I was telling them the reasons why I didn't make it last year's bar exam. I wasn't in my best condition and I made several wrong decisions... but my mum would just tell me back, "forget the past" and then makes this facial expression I couldn't even tell what it is.

Whenever she does this, I am offended/hurt because it makes me feel that they don't believe in me. It makes me feel that they think I'm just making up excuses.

It hurts me because I have never failed a major exam to this day and the people who should be there for me at my loss are giving me added pressure to what I'm currently aiming for.

But they keep on telling me to forget about it. I was like, I don't want to forget because remembering it makes me happy since it reminds me that I'm on the right track and the conditions I had last year are gone, which only shows that I'm so much closer now to my parents' dreams.

To be honest, I just want this to end because if I were only given the privilege to chart my own destiny, I would've chosen a different path.

Anyway, I think I understand why my parents don't want to hear me say the same thing again. I thought they don't believe what I'm saying. Maybe they just don't want me to say it again. But seriously? What if I want to say it again? And my mum makes another quip? What if I tell them that saying it makes me happy because it only means my failure was beyond my control?

I need advice so I can better understand my parents.

Posted by firebunny
...I just want this to end because if I were only given the privilege to chart my own destiny, I would've chosen a different path.

I don't understand.

Aren't you following the path you choose?

Did your parents choose a career for you?

They have support you all this years not to get near the end and you said you weren't at your best conditions?

Are you out of your mind!

Do you know how much cost to your parents to keep you dream alive?

Focus!

Posted by nando2002

Posted by firebunny
...I just want this to end because if I were only given the privilege to chart my own destiny, I would've chosen a different path.

I don't understand.

Aren't you following the path you choose?

Did your parents choose a career for you?

They have support you all this years not to get near the end and you said you weren't at your best conditions?

Are you out of your mind!

Do you know how much cost to your parents to keep you dream alive?

Focus!

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Best conditions? I was referring to the medications I was taking that impair my memory and comprehension. My mother shakes in disbelief every time I say this. But it's true.

Posted by Impulsv
Also follow ur own path! What kinda of life is it when ur living for other and never you. What a betrayal to self.

Thanks. Honestly, I just want to make my parents proud and happy of me. But later on, I'm going to follow my dream, with or without their support.

After the Bar, I'm planning to take up Master of Arts in Economics or similar courses. Then probably take PhD after. I want to start a local newspaper business, focusing on economic issues.

Not yet. I have to pass the Bar first. I don't quit what I've started... especially since I only failed by 0.35% .

Cool good luck. Keep studying. Most RN students don't pass the boards first time either. Most lawyer students don't pass the bar example. A guy I knew didn't pass the first time either.

Ands called the exam jury and he told them you were a crackhead, he was joking about that on lindaland