Random Question # 6570847659879877586

How many dates do you have to go on with a guy before you're considered "going out"?

I'm going to avoid the whole relationship discussion as I know how much they hate it.

3

I disagree 1,204,331 is the number.

Oh man. . . Only 3? Yeah, I asked my friend and he said 3 or 4 too... Damn. . . That's not enough, that's like settling so early. Especially cause I use that up in like a week and a half. Do I move to fast? LOL. . . *sigh* Oh well. . . It's just hard for me to comprehend why after three dates you shouldn't be allowed to date other people too.

What about if you just have sex and don't go out is that dating?

Um cause sex wasn't the point.

uh, i da'd say when u both agree that ur going out officaly. becuase u could be seeing some one else on the other days but be dating but not going out. i've learned from my sister's love relationships w/ out ever being out on much of any date. what great luck.

Oh well forget it. He asked me out anyway. At about the worst time in the world.

MY LIFE REVOLVES AROUND BAD TIMING AND INDECISIONS.

I'm so very very very. . . I have a stomach ache.

I dont know what I'm going to do about him. Poor Nick. I like him but we really dont' have the same ideas about relationships, he demands commitment. That and the fact I like Tim wayyy to much. treetrunk it. I'm never going to get Tim. He's a player and a joker, sure we just happen to have about the same exact ideas about relationships and err yeah everything else. But whatever. I'm so pissed and I don't know what I'm going to say to him. He knows I think that we should take things a hell of a lot slower. But he's like I just really like you and want to be in your life, I'm not asking for marriage. Ugh. He is the sweetest. My stomach hurts. Yeah so why am I afraid of commitment? Oh man. . . Tim. . . *Sigh*. . . Nick's 20, taking a semester off of college to work. Tim's going to be 22 in november, going to graduate in 15 days. Going to be home for a month, and then go to some certificate program in pensylvania, wont' be back until march. I'm here until may. very unhappy summer, and who knows what will happen between now and then. GRRRRR. Come on now. I have too much on my mind to think about this nonsense. That's why I like Tim, he knows that too. Nick, I dont think he understands. OK. So. I should just tell Nick no right? Ack. I'm so lonely though. Damn it. Tim's not going to be here. Grrrrrrr. Should I just throw everything back and start again?

Hey Morg....come on......you are thinking yourself into a crisis here when really there's none.....OK on one hand, we know you have the hots for hunky Tim and fair enough we know he's a player and a joker - so that's Tim for you. He's probaly not going to do a "copernican" change at this stage in his life so that's the way he will be for the foreseeable future. On the other hand, we have sweet, adorable Nick.....so sweet and wholesome that he's nearly too good to be true - he proabaly ain't gonna change either in the foreseeable future - but he doesn't exactly light your fire now does he!! But you've got to keep your options open missy.......If I was in your shoes, I'd have as much fun as possible with hunky Tim between now and November before he leaves for PA til next March. He will then be out of the equation from November till March (out of sight out of mind maybe!!!). Now you can have Nick.....but tell him from the start - listen Nick....I've lots of friends that I need to see occaisonally. He's gonna say - are they boyfriends?? You say I have a wide circle of both male and female friends that I socialize with. Because he's so into you, I think he will settle for this scenario - he's not going to want to lose you completely and by you taking the pressure off by not saying the "boyfriend" word...it will be fair enough. Am I making sense or am I off on an aquarian tangent as usual.....then you can have Nick as a good pal and maybe meet more hot hunks a long the way........Listen you are only a nipper....life is for living, experiencing, tasting, teasing, meeting, sniffing:-), having every experince under the sun...don't get tied down at your freakin age:-)
Alana x

I don't want to get tied down which is the problem because Nick does want to get tied down and he doens't understand the concept of why you shouldn't.

Then Nick in not on your same page.....you got to drag him on to your same page...if he don't understand...it's up to you to MAKE him understand......
Got to go now Morg....weekend is calling and I don't have a PC at home😢- don't take everything I say for granted thought!!....Me and Mr. virgo are not talking so...I am not in good form....he is the most frustrating, infuriating, insulting, narrow-minded, opinionated, criticizing guy I have ever met "in my life" but he's got me hooked.....but let it be known....if he doesn't come round to my way of thinking by tomoro - there's always Mr. Cap I can return to and return to I will....make no mistake about that.....I fell in love in the click of a thumb...I can fall out again in anoer click....click...click...click.....

Aww I'm sorry, hope you work things out.

I just really hate humanity *sigh*.

I was thinking that hmm. . . The two of them together make the perfect person. Oh well...

morgan did you kill gwen, we have not heard from her for awhile now, what gives?

Gwen is alive and well, however is far too preocupied with the real world at this moment.

lol... the real world?

by the way, i find this all rather interesting, since you CONFIDE in the internet-anonymous but when trying to explain something to me, you like to leave out a number of things.

WHOOOOOOOOOo cat fight.

Simply Gwen because when I need to talk to you I can never get in touch with you, and then when I finally do get in touch with you, I've already spent all my energy explaining it here and don't care to restate everything.

There are complications that can not be explained directly anyway.

We may have to resort to nude mud wrestling to settle this.

I think just fully clothed mud slinging will settle it.

I have just one word from the males on this board, DISAPPOINTMENT.

Any way it's all working out, incase you're curious... I'm technically "going out with nick" whatever that means. But Tim's just too damn good to let go. So we remain close friends. Basically I'm just pocketing him for future use. I'm sure he knows that as he knows me rather well by now. lol... much better than nick knows me.

i'm going to back away.

It's not how many, it's how often. It the guy wants to see you 3+ times a week, he wants YOU.