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have you ever been so depressed at one point of ur life that you didnt wanna socialize with ppl anymore when you sucha social butterfly before? Have you ever been so down on yourself that you just couldnt face even yourself or anyone? Your friends are calling you trying to reach for you, your man/woman is trying to cheer you up but nothing seems to work...

when you were sucha social*

Wow Luz, you just described the last, hmm...three years of my life. lol. I used to be very social, always at parties, blah blah blah...I just kind of grew out of it. It's normal, in fact you'll probably bounce back and forth between being social and not being social until you figure out how you really prefer living your life. For me, I just realized that the whole getting drunk every weekend thing wasn't who I was deep down, and that if that was the only way I could feel connected to my friends then I only had superficial friends. I also go through stages still to this day where I totally avoid people; I just don't want to be around them. I don't think that signals any large problem, as long as you still feel like you're you...as long as you don't feel like you've slipped into a DEEP depression. Our society puts such a weird emphasis on being happy all the time and social all the time. That annoys me, because humans are so much more complicated than that. It's okay to have moods, it's okay to want to be by yourself, it's even okay to be depressed. Don't worry, just let yourself feel what you need to feel...otherwise it will fester and then crop up later in a bad way.

Sending positive thoughts your way! 🙂

Heather

thats what im saying phoenix, how society wants you to be SOCIAL and ACTIVE all the time, damn, some humans arent like that ok? and they dont have to be cus thats just how they are, haha... yeah... but i know that i love socializing, just been really distant from everyone these days, i feel like i need to do something for myself just dont know what, i'll figure it out.

well i was never a big social person but i do understand the feeling wanting to avoid contact with people because of how you feel. whats wrong luz? for me this is normal, my emotions run very strong, i go up, i go down. when a certain person or event or situation is causing intense depressive feelings the most effective way i can bring myself back up is to cut off all incoming energies and isolate myself from everything and let my feelings subside and get back to even keel. i think your a gemini, i could be wrong. my mom is a gem and i have a good friend who also is gem. when her or my mom are smiling it makes me feel good inside. they love talking to people and communicating, thier presence alone can brighten up a room. why do you feel down? im sure there is alot for you to feel good about, try focusing on the all the wonderful things that are around u. i know you are young,(and that doesn't affect the respect that the people here feel for u) i have been through some pretty tough times, in retrospect alot of these things times seem small, or better yet have turned out to be a blessing in disguise. i dont smile as much as i should but i bet that your face is a beautiful sight when u do.

sometimes spending time by yourself is a good way to reflect or learn more about yourself. and this is a good thing.

haha wow cj7..you figured me out, i AM a gemini 🙂 and yeah, i dont know, just things have been getting to me lately, i've been trying to bring myself back up but nothings been working as much, its like im waiting something so big and interesting to happen that nothings really happening cus im expecting too much =/ and i've been trying to somehow fix myself, not the person i am but just redeem my confidence again, i dont know how im going to do this because i know that i need to go out into the world and do it but lately, i feel like i need to be by myself just like you said so i can learn more about myself and see where that takes me. And you should smile more cj7! you make a person feel nice inside just as you cheered me up lil more ^^ thanx, you are a good person with a big heart which i admire.

kindness is sucha unique trait in ppl these days

Luz,
I still do what you're talking about! I can be really social ...even witty and entertaining! LOL! But, there are times when I want to be a hermit! I have ups and downs...
it is normal...
Take the time to do what you need to do...
Of course, I want you to be happy...but, you are right. No one is happy all of the time!
Maybe something big and interesting will happen! But, try to curb your impatience waiting for it!
Love you Luz!

Luz, I don't remember who wrote this...but, I always liked it!
"Happiness is as a butterfly, which, when pursued is just beyond your grasp; but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."

I had a butterfly land on me once! That's when I knew I was "charmed"!! LOL!

haHaAha xD yes, i can be very superstitious too LOL hehehehehe 🙂 luv yaz star!

love the quote ^^