I need your insight, Lunar Scorpios!

I had an awful falling out with a person I had a relationship with about, say, two to three years ago. It lasted for about three years (on-and-off), and I eventually initiated the NC process (quite poorly I might add). It was my first time falling hard for somebody, and also having to be the one to walk away--so naturally it was incredibly messy. To be frank, the entire relationship was a bit of a roller-coaster that I eventually couldn't keep up with.

I want to reach out to her by email, but I'm not entirely sure if it's a good idea. I wouldn't mind if she didn't reply to my message, in fact, some part of me would like her not to. The reason(s) for this message is to provide some sort of comfort in the fact that I don't carry any harsh feelings towards her (anymore), by wishing her well and I'm not going to lie--I am also naturally curious about her well-being, because she was quite ill when we were together. The thing is, I have this feeling I would be putting a damper on her by sending something like that out of the blue, and I don't want that either. I could be wrong though, she could be completely indifferent about it by now.

My questions to you are:
How would you react if a long lost lover came around wishing you well?
How would you feel about it?
Should I even bother?

If you're curious, this is a sneak peek of her chart:

Sun in Gemini 18.05
Moon in Scorpio 14.53
Mercury in Cancer 11.45
Venus in Taurus 27.51
Mars in Cancer 12.31
Jupiter in Aries 22.24

We had a VERY strange chemistry together, to the point where the intensity drove us mad, I think. 😐

Posted by aero
I had an awful falling out with a person I had a relationship with about, say, two to three years ago. It lasted for about three years (on-and-off), and I eventually initiated the NC process (quite poorly I might add). It was my first time falling hard for somebody, and also having to be the one to walk away--so naturally it was incredibly messy. To be frank, the entire relationship was a bit of a roller-coaster that I eventually couldn't keep up with.

I want to reach out to her by email, but I'm not entirely sure if it's a good idea. I wouldn't mind if she didn't reply to my message, in fact, some part of me would like her not to. The reason(s) for this message is to provide some sort of comfort in the fact that I don't carry any harsh feelings towards her (anymore), by wishing her well and I'm not going to lie--I am also naturally curious about her well-being, because she was quite ill when we were together. The thing is, I have this feeling I would be putting a damper on her by sending something like that out of the blue, and I don't want that either. I could be wrong though, she could be completely indifferent about it by now.

My questions to you are:
How would you react if a long lost lover came around wishing you well?
How would you feel about it?
Should I even bother?



If you're curious, this is a sneak peek of her chart:

Sun in Gemini 18.05
Moon in Scorpio 14.53
Mercury in Cancer 11.45
Venus in Taurus 27.51
Mars in Cancer 12.31
Jupiter in Aries 22.24

We had a VERY strange chemistry together, to the point where the intensity drove us mad, I think. 😐

I say go for it..

With her being a Gemini Sun if it's been over a year since you two have had contact I am sure she will be different. We do struggle letting go but once we do we can be civil and friends with someone that hurt us or whatever in the past. If you are clear that you are wanting to see how she is doing and that your intention is purely out of care, she will think that is nice. Just send it don't over think it!!

I have Sun in Gemini, Moon in Scorpio, Venus in Cancer.. I say DOO IT!! You two might be able to find some peace and closure.

What's your Sun, Moon and Venus?

How would you react if a long lost lover came around wishing you well? if i still harbored feelings, id be nervous and excited with a pinch of hesistation.

How would you feel about it? see above

Should I even bother?

She is a watery gemini. truly has to be in the mood to do anything. I say send it. And put something in it that relates to the past. watery people loving living in the past especially cancers.

venus in taurus is a secret romantic. if you want her back, you must be 100% honest and genuine. I can feel through your writing that youre sincere abut her.

be like, "remember when we did such and such." put her moods/feelings back into that memory. be careful that said memory doesnt lead to a bad one. tell her how you FEEL. water signs dont think or say, we feel.

Posted by MissFisk

Posted by aero
My questions to you are:
How would you react if a long lost lover came around wishing you well?
How would you feel about it?
Should I even bother?

How would you react if a long lost lover came around wishing you well?
I'd be like, go fuck yourself.

How would you feel about it?
No feels. Please refer to first reponse

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if i still disliked you, id think this and respond with silence.

Posted by DMV
be like, "remember when we did such and such." put her moods/feelings back into that memory. be careful that said memory doesnt lead to a bad one. tell her how you FEEL. water signs dont think or say, we feel.

that's good advice, DMV.

put her in a good/happier mood, lift her spirits.

Wow! I didn't expect so many replies. Thank you to everybody that has replied thus far. 🙂

@MissFisk I appreciate your directness, thank you.

@WateryGem I have, Sun in Gemini; Moon in Virgo; Venus in Cancer. Heh.

@Nemesis Drawn to each other, despite not having many similar interests, and the mind games... It was weird. I look back and think we just weren't right for each other at the time. She was ahead of me in life, if that makes sense. I often felt like a burden, to be honest.

@cheekyfaerie I have this feeling the reason she hasn't contacted me is because I never gave her the chance to. I had blocked/deleted her from everything abruptly, which was very hard for me. I'm not sure if she was aware that our —friendship?? (shortly after the relationship) had deteriorated quite quickly. We both sort of hurt each other badly. I'm certainly not looking to open any wounds, I??ve just overcome a lot of hurt I went through from her and realize that people make mistakes during circumstances in life. I know I made mine, and I guess part of me hopes she forgives me for being incredibly imperfect at the time. But, considering your reaction sort of hits home with the way she deals with things (or did anyway)??_ Yeah, I don't want to upset her in the slightest.

@DMV You know, I wouldn't mind if she didn't want to get back together romantically. I'm not contacting her for that specific reason really. It is just comforting to know if she is in a good place right now, and perhaps if she has forgiven my actions, we could stay in touch on friendly terms. I have a gut-wrenching feeling this won't happen though. 😢

@DarkFire Dang, really? I empathize, it's not the best of situations. You made a really good point by the way.

Thank you all again for your input, I'm leaning a bit towards not contacting her.