Am I on the right track?

Hello, I'm a 50 year old taurus about a year and a half out of a 26yr marriage. So I really haven't dated since I was about 22. I've been working with a 46 year old pisces and have for several months had this feeling she had some interest. Our desk are next to each other and we probably spend about 10 hours a week in meetings together. For a long time when she would speak in the meeting she looked at me the whole time as if I was the only 1 there. She's always been very nice, sweet lady. She has asked other coworkers about my feelings and shown concern in that regard. I had for a really long time tried to keep it totally professional as a) I feel like I haven't the slightest idea how to date now (lol) b) in today's cultures I don't want some sort of sexual harassment type of thing. About 3 weeks ago I just had this undeniable feeling we had a really great connection and communicated very well. And I asked several female friends and they all suggested just asking her to go to lunch sometime. So I did just ask if she wanted to have lunch sometime. And she responded with "Always, put something on my calendar 🙂". Admittedly we hadn't really talked about personal things, I really enjoy her as a coworker and really wouldn't want to jeapardize that unless I thought something really wonderful would come of it. But it feels like she's been avoiding every since... I guess this is sort normal pisces behavior. I really just want to take my time with her and not screw it up.

I'm very romantic and was really dealing with holiday blues so I sent her an email (haven't asked for her number yet) that just said merry Christmas and a picture of a little boy giving a flower to a little girl (yeah the 1 on every love related card). Did I move to quickly? I honestly wasn't even thinking about anything or even trying to make a move, I was just feeling romantic and wanted to warm her heart a little...

"She has asked other coworkers about my feelings and shown concern in that regard."

What sort of feelings @ConfusedBull, and why are they a matter of concern?

'Did I move too quickly?"

With an working lunch and a merry Christmas email after "several months"? I don't think you moved at all! Are you sure she is single? If yes, ask her out for a couple of drinks during the evening and get to know the person, not just the co-worker. If you get rejected, you get rejected! She probably made her mind up already, about whether or not she would like to go on a date with you. You have nothing to lose if you ask her sooner rather than later! Or are you waiting for a promotion first :-)?

She told you to put something on her calendar. Have you? That could be the reason for her avoiding you, if you haven't set up the date. What's the point in asking and not having an action or intent behind it.

You asked, she answered so make it happen, captian! You guys are both around the same age/generation. I don't think sexual harassment would be a big deal since she agreed to lunch. Just be friendly and NOT TOUCHY TAURUS 😛 and see where it leads. Pisces women are super flirty when interested, you just have to move fast once they give you the green light.

Just know that if a woman starts being friendly and touching/caressing you, that usually means you can do light, friendly, flirting touching as well.

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I don't want to be a wet blanket but "put something on my calendar" sounds to me like a passive way of dealing with a professional colleague. That's how we tell each other to schedule a meeting around here. It doesn't strike me as romantic.

I could be wrong, obviously, and she could be playing it very low profile, but I wouldn't get my hopes up.

Damn, Pisces are too nice! lol I just give a flat NO. Hahaha!

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I don't want to be a wet blanket but "put something on my calendar" sounds to me like a passive way of dealing with a professional colleague. That's how we tell each other to schedule a meeting around here. It doesn't strike me as romantic.

I could be wrong, obviously, and she could be playing it very low profile, but I wouldn't get my hopes up.

Damn, Pisces are too nice! lol I just give a flat NO. Hahaha!

You don’t ever go to lunch with coworkers? I don’t usually either except in groups, so I’m not a lot of help. This just sounds friendly to me.

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No, not of the opposite sex by myself. For this exact reason. I don't want to give off the wrong impression. I would do a group setting but not one on one with the opposite sex or a lesbian (basically anything that could be considered or misinterpreted as romantic.) I don't put myself in awkward positions when I'm not interested, but I am also direct too. I would've said "sure, who else we going with?" or something like that to let him know that just us, isn't gonna happen.

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I don't want to be a wet blanket but "put something on my calendar" sounds to me like a passive way of dealing with a professional colleague. That's how we tell each other to schedule a meeting around here. It doesn't strike me as romantic.

I could be wrong, obviously, and she could be playing it very low profile, but I wouldn't get my hopes up.

Damn, Pisces are too nice! lol I just give a flat NO. Hahaha!

You don’t ever go to lunch with coworkers? I don’t usually either except in groups, so I’m not a lot of help. This just sounds friendly to me.

No, not of the opposite sex by myself. For this exact reason. I don't want to give off the wrong impression. I would do a group setting but not one on one with the opposite sex or a lesbian (basically anything that could be considered or misinterpreted as romantic.) I don't put myself in awkward positions when I'm not interested, but I am also direct too. I would've said "sure, who else we going with?" or something like that to let him know that just us, isn't gonna happen.

I would feel rude saying anything that might embarrass him, so I don’t know what I would do.

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Damn, Pisces in your chart is strong lol He said she was giving off "vibes of interest" so maybe he is right. It's nice to have the guts to check out a possible interest.

I would go for it if I was interested in the person, he asked and never set a date. So he just needs to see if she meant what she said or was just being nice.

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I don't want to be a wet blanket but "put something on my calendar" sounds to me like a passive way of dealing with a professional colleague. That's how we tell each other to schedule a meeting around here. It doesn't strike me as romantic.

I could be wrong, obviously, and she could be playing it very low profile, but I wouldn't get my hopes up.

Damn, Pisces are too nice! lol I just give a flat NO. Hahaha!

You don’t ever go to lunch with coworkers? I don’t usually either except in groups, so I’m not a lot of help. This just sounds friendly to me.

No, not of the opposite sex by myself. For this exact reason. I don't want to give off the wrong impression. I would do a group setting but not one on one with the opposite sex or a lesbian (basically anything that could be considered or misinterpreted as romantic.) I don't put myself in awkward positions when I'm not interested, but I am also direct too. I would've said "sure, who else we going with?" or something like that to let him know that just us, isn't gonna happen.

I would feel rude saying anything that might embarrass him, so I don’t know what I would do.

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Let me take you out BAAAABYYYYYYY!!!!!! 😄 Now that I know you're too nice to tell me no! 😆 😛

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I don't want to be a wet blanket but "put something on my calendar" sounds to me like a passive way of dealing with a professional colleague. That's how we tell each other to schedule a meeting around here. It doesn't strike me as romantic.

I could be wrong, obviously, and she could be playing it very low profile, but I wouldn't get my hopes up.

Damn, Pisces are too nice! lol I just give a flat NO. Hahaha!

You don’t ever go to lunch with coworkers? I don’t usually either except in groups, so I’m not a lot of help. This just sounds friendly to me.

No, not of the opposite sex by myself. For this exact reason. I don't want to give off the wrong impression. I would do a group setting but not one on one with the opposite sex or a lesbian (basically anything that could be considered or misinterpreted as romantic.) I don't put myself in awkward positions when I'm not interested, but I am also direct too. I would've said "sure, who else we going with?" or something like that to let him know that just us, isn't gonna happen.

I would feel rude saying anything that might embarrass him, so I don’t know what I would do.

Let me take you out BAAAABYYYYYYY!!!!!! 😄 Now that I know you're too nice to tell me no! 😆 😛

Excuse me...just lacing up my running shoes...

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Hahaha!