are pisces superficial?

I was chatting with my pisces yesterday and he mentioned that he's superficial. It's an interesting enough issue (for me, at least) that I thought I'd toss it out to the community at large in the form of a question.

Are pisces superficial?

*giggles*

Its not necessarily superficial, its just something else....
hmmmm, they dont like to really tink about a whole lot of other things that might bring their mood down. Anything that caus3es cognitive dissonance is a no no.

Here's an example... Mr. Pisces and I are talking about a woman he dated. He said she had just broken up with a boyfriend and didn't know what she wanted. He "didn't want to play therapist" and stopped seeing her. Certainly it's a fair enough point to avoid people sucking you dry emotionally, but... Is it superficial?

I dont think thats superficial at all v-lady. If it was b/c she was brunette or summat...thats another story

but then again that does fit into the cognitive dissonance file...

He was right. she shouldnt be rebounding with him, he's smart for letting her go and giving her time to reflect and let go.

hehe....

not neccessarily, thers always that one person in the sign that claims to have "never".

I'm leaning towards what LM has been saying about cognative dissonance. In essence, I think my pisces in particular avoids people and situations that could be considered metaphorical buzzkills. And I don't blame him for not wanting to be a therapist, either. I think starfish is right on target with that.

Mr. Pisces labeling himself superficial came in the context of a conversation about sex (in a sort of non-seedy, non-vulgar way). He called himself shallow, I asked him why he would say that, and he said that he spent a lot of time thinking about sex.

LOL @ v-ladys guy friend.
The 'buzz kill' theoory is correct.

I think branh has a point, they tend to be passive aggressive. Leading them to run from the issue than solving it.

I'd prefer to say that some Fish wont look for the hard answers in life.'... but yes some can certainly appear superficial.

...and others appear may Superficial because they fear delving any deeper.

I can see how my question about pisces being superficial was a bad one and I'm sorry for the error in judgment on my part. I think I had hoped to spark a discussion on the whole how pisces appear versus what they are on the inside, but I can see how what I wrote was simply an invitation for a broader critique.

Do I think that pisces are superficial? No. Do I think that they enjoy being pleasant and among happy people? Yes.

And again my apologies for any insult that my post may have implied!

"I can see how my question about pisces being superficial was a bad one and I'm sorry for the error in judgment on my part. I think I had hoped to spark a discussion on the whole how pisces appear versus what they are on the inside, but I can see how what I wrote was simply an invitation for a broader critique."




The topic was fine. You aren't liable for the fact that some people have emotional baggage which causes them to stick their oar in.

I am not superficial and I despise it in others.

v-lady .. let me ask you?

Are you unsure of yourself?
Do you feel that are lacking in common sense?
Do you think you are superficial?

Of course not, to those, and any other self-proclaimed flaw that would assault your sense of self-righteousness and self-worth .. that is the way human nature works. We believe (all of US) that we are deep, we are caring, we are compassionate.

He was looking for attention .. he was looking for you to pet him sympathetically and say, "Awww, no you're not, ___, you're very conscientious." And that's all. His aim was pity strokes .. it happens all the time in here. Someone will say they have a horrible quality like: I'm unorganized, or, I'm a freak, or, I'm a pussy .. they don't really feel that about themselves, v-Lady .. they are simply looking for attention, someone to say that they aren't those things.

As for the problem issue .. from my experience of living with a Virgo for 25 years, I would have to say that they freak the fuck out over the tiniest, little things .. to fret, worry, pace .. practically lose thier minds. Mine would have much the reaction as Branh about problems and the thing is ..

.. it's not a fucking problem and when one exists, it will be addressed. For the Virgo to be panicking, doesn't constitute a problem that needs to be addressed by anyone other than themselves.

Hopefully, v-lady, this will help to clear up this whole issue. 🙂

So, is he superficial? Yes

Not because he didn't want to play doctor ..

Yes, he's superficial because he was looking for pity strokes.

I think DC's last comment really gets to the heart of what I was wondering about. Someone that I am growing increasingly interested in told me that they're shallow (whether in jest or not as even jokes often contain a grain of truth in them). What occurred to me was - is this person telling me this to actually signal some sort of emotional unavailability?

At the end of the day, though, this is soooooo not a big deal for me. It's certainly not something that I'm giving a lot of weighty thought to. I just found it interesting and thought I'd explore it a bit.

PA, I can't honestly say whether or not he's superficial. He very well might be. By the same token, he could also simply be in a situation where he likes me, wants to get to know me more, but doesn't want to invest a lot emotionally because, at the end of the day, we live on two different continents.

I really do have no idea where this is headed. It's so strange to go from chatting almost daily for weeks to chatting every two weeks for a bit and now chatting daily again. He's even mentioned scheduling another trip back to my area in a few weeks. Massive, massive shift in attitude. Still boggles my mind.

v-lady 5/26/2007 5:07:11 PM | ip: xxx.xxx.xxx.8

Argh! I'm so frustrated and so very confused. My pisces is driving me crazy and I have no idea what to do with all of this.

Of course I had developed all sorts of romantic notions towards the man and spent three months (early February - early May) enjoying our conversations and tentatively nurturing all of my little fantasies. About two weeks ago we had a conversation where I directly asked him about the last time he had sex. He said, "6 days ago," and I thought to myself, "Right. Time for me to shelve those little dreams of mine and get back in the game." I met someone new that same night and started exploring all of the things I've wanted to try sexually but never had the courage to actually do.

Yesterday Mr. Pisces and I talked again for the first time in two weeks and I told him about my attempts to give swinging (yes, the sexual kind, not the playground kind) a try. He then started in about how he's always wanted to try that and we talked and talked and talked. We ended the conversation because he had to meet some friends and promised to email me once he got back for the evening so we could compare notes with how we did that night.

Then we begin to talk about what we're interested in sexually (completely intellectual, not the sort of precursor to online sex type conversation). I ask him to tell me what he's been up to because he says he's becoming increasingly adventurous. Before responding with the details, he then asks "am I kinky enough for you?"

I know I'm going on and on in circles about this stupid series of conversations, but I'm at a complete and total loss here. Mr. Pisces is starting to behave completely differently from the norm - talking about how he'd like to see me, expressing some vulnerability, making plans for the future, etc. -

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It's all about sex .. you immediately draw him into sexual conversations. I'm not saying that's bad, you need to do what you feel is right for you .. my whole point is, now, you're worried about him being superficial?

Naw, PA. I think I've only provided a part of the story, so it's perfectly fair to think it's only sex. We do talk about sex and those conversations are pretty phenomenal. Not what we're saying is terribly spicy, but because I have never in my entire life been so intensely, so completely attracted to another human being.

But we talk about lots of things. We talked for a good five hours on Saturday and sex didn't come up once.

::hugs notso:: 🙂

I honestly have the inability to be fake...truly.

Hey, this went from superficiality to hugging...what the— 🙂

I do think Pisces can appear superficial at times, especially when feeling uncomfortable or nervous or stressed. If we fully expose our personality to another and it's embraced, all is good and we'll let you in to the depths. If it's rejected or you've hurt one of us in any way, it's much harder -sometimes impossible- to get too deep with you. Mere protection.

That said, we do like our finer things in life...and maybe that can come off as superficial, as well.

As to using people? Not me. Don't know a single Pisces who does this. We cherish others in our lives for the unique things they can bring to a situation and tolerate a whole bunch of personality quirks if the hidden gems are worthwhile.

Its true, the aqua guys I know are huggers...I know a few....well except the extremely dorky ones who are just entirely socially inept...but if they've been socialized properly they have no problem with hugging women.

I AM NOT A HUGGER.

What a doll! Best to start appreciating the environment at an early age!

Pretty baby....Dave's probably jealous DC...😛


Im not found of touching period. Germs.

*blows DC a kiss*

much better.