Bad experience dating a Pisces man

I'm an aries,21. I met an older Pisces man in his early 30's in late January. I met him on a on-line dating site,he gave me his number and we started texting everyday for about two weeks,during this time I was not looking for a relationship really, I wanted a NSA. As I had just gotten out of two serious and emotionally draining relationships. He knew this but expressed that he wanted to be my boyfriend anyway. I found that odd. We continued to text without meeting each other until one day he just disappeared. However I contacted him a month later and we started dating, we went on two dates both of them which ended great. We had alot of attraction and chemistry and would always end up making out in his car. Weeks went by after our second date and we planned to meet again, he was suppose to pick me up from my house one night but ended up not showing up! The next day he apologized and said he was busy with work. The next week comes up and he does the same thing, this time no apology, no text, no phone call nothing. I got upset and texted him a huge text explaining how I felt, and that I didn't want to date someone who cancels on me twice, and that he was clearly just trying to sleep with me or must be attached. A couple days later he texted me back telling me he wanted more with me and that he didnt have a girlfriend. I forgave him. Big mistake. We than started to talk about being together and what our relationship would be like.

Long story short we were supposed to hang out at his place last Saturday night, he texted me that morning saying he couldn't wait until tonight, I told him the same. We decided we wanted to be intimate, I told him I will only be physical with the condition of monogamy, he agreed. That night comes and no text, no calls nothing. So I call him, no answer. I sent him a text asking if we were still on? He replied with " i didn't receive your last text, I thought you ditched me." After receiving that text, I knew what he was doing he was the one who didn't text back to my last text, he was dicthing me.I ended up getting upset at him, I asked him why he was leading me on and playing games with me. And that If he didn't want to be with me he should of ended it, instead of dragging it on and "ditching me" three times! He lied to me about wanting monogamy and wanting to be my boyfriend,babies, fantasies only to ditch me. I broke up with him after that.
I couldn't believe a 34 year old man, would play such mind games.

that's because you my dear... met a 34 year old boy. Big difference.

Trust your gut, and stop trying to convince him - because he doesn't wanna hear it. Just wash yourself of the whole thing.

I am sorry it is so long, I had to leave things out lol. Throughout our dating he pulled multiple disappearing acts, and I ignored all the bad signs because he was so good looking, successful and affectionate. However any time I called him on his bullshit he would clean up his act. Once I gained feelings for him, I constantly asked him what he wanted and that if he didn't want a relationship, to just leave me be. But he refused and lied and said he wanted more with me and that he didn't want to just sleep with me.

Even though we didn't end up sleeping together at all, I am confused to why he acted like this and didn't just sleep with me and than leave. Although I am glad he didn't do that beacause my sensitive self would of been crushed. His behaviour confused me though. He acted like he didn't care yet, said he did,and that he needed a "bestfriend, lover and partner" and wanted me to take care of him. Yet he ditched me so many times, and came back after I broke up with him twice, because of his irrational behaviour.

Im sorry for the spelling, and grammar. I'm just confused to why someone would behave like this. Being honest is so much easier for both parties. Regardless of his sign, his behaviour is odd.

You're right deezie, he was a boy.
I am trying to wash myself of him.....he was just so darn dreamy gosh

Posted by deezie
that's because you my dear... met a 34 year old boy. Big difference.

that's it. that's all you need to know to answer your queries.
not everyone is a good person, and means what they say, and acts in genuine fashions.

@sizzy... you're reading my mind about the entire world my dear 😉

you can't be taken in by looks alone.
you will get there, you're young.

is his dreaminess worth being treated the way that you were?
are you willing to settle for that, just because you like to look at him?
get a picture of him. you'll find more depth in the paper.

and it's true.... what sizzurp is saying.
this wasn't some significant character in your life. Just a passerby.
people generally feel owed explanations for everything that happens to them, and sometimes it's not worth the effort based on the lack of foundation of the event.

sizz - glad to see you poking your head in here a little more!!
you're missed!

Well,I now that I look back on it, he wasn't that great of guy. Which is probably why he is still at 34 and has never been married.

He was definitly a lesson learn, on what I do not want in a man.

All I want is for him to not treat another young women that way. And that is what I told him.

I'm an aries but for some reason you damn water signs intrigue the hell out of me, and that is what he did, which makes me question and wonder about the possibilities of the whole thing.

We both fantsized about it, our dating was more of a fantasy.....

I have a venus and mars in pisces,... I am always drawn to pisces and scorpios

Posted by deezie
and it's true.... what sizzurp is saying.
this wasn't some significant character in your life. Just a passerby.
people generally feel owed explanations for everything that happens to them, and sometimes it's not worth the effort based on the lack of foundation of the event.

Just another passerby I guess......

My aries sun, cant help but want to hunt him down, and tie him to my bed smh.....but I won't I've met a scorpio who is brutally honest and doesn't play mind games. I like scorpios they tell me what they want and they control everything. My venus pisces needs that.

With that Pisces man, I had to make the plans and plan everything and he would either show up or ditch me smh lol

Posted by Sizzurp
*now* that you look back on it? So why the revelation? Is 'heads' not being judged as hard as you hoped, 'tails?'

I get you're a younger woman, but I don't care. Someone can tell you the same shit, but in a nicer way and it would still mean nothing.

If you aren't as thin-skinned as you seem, and want the truth, message P-angel. Her's is a bitter pill, but you won't find much true-er.
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Yes I am a "younger women", and we all live and learn. I definitely lived a bit, it was fun and exciting dating an older man, but what I've learned is that just because he's older doesn't mean he's mature and know's how to treat a women. I was blinded by his looks, among other things. I also had this whole idea that pisces men and peeople were kind and empathetic boy was I wrong.

Ok.... that's that.....

I'm very tired of people coming here, expecting to feed us crap, and then for us to empathize with them. Doesn't matter what BS they bring, we're supposed to just bend the f over... and FEEL FOR THEM! Fuck truth. Fuck the facts, fuck it all.... we're bashed for being dreamers, and then we're bashed as non-empathetic when we ditch the dreams and fantasies and tell it like it is.

I - a pisces, just empathized with you. So the whole theory is now out the window isn't it?

Posted by ariespiscesgirl

Yes I am a "younger women", and we all live and learn. I definitely lived a bit, it was fun and exciting dating an older man, but what I've learned is that just because he's older doesn't mean he's mature and know's how to treat a women. I was blinded by his looks, among other things. I also had this whole idea that pisces men and peeople were kind and empathetic boy was I wrong.

this ignited my little outburst there.
but rest assured you have had recent company in the form of kindling.

just so i'm not misconstrued here as going off on "you" per se.

Posted by deezie
Ok.... that's that.....

I'm very tired of people coming here, expecting to feed us crap, and then for us to empathize with them. Doesn't matter what BS they bring, we're supposed to just bend the f over... and FEEL FOR THEM! Fuck truth. Fuck the facts, fuck it all.... we're bashed for being dreamers, and then we're bashed as non-empathetic when we ditch the dreams and fantasies and tell it like it is.

I - a pisces, just empathized with you. So the whole theory is now out the window isn't it?

I agree you did empathized with me, and I appreciate it. 🙂...and youre advice to wash myself of him!

Pisces are great empathizers, but boy you guy's can be cold at times.

Sizzerp however, didn't. That's fine. I'll pass on messaging any one on here, I've ghost read this board, people are brutally, blunt, honest, and quite mean on here. (behind the computer screen, may I add.)

Posted by Piscescorp

Posted by ariespiscesgirl

Posted by deezie
and it's true.... what sizzurp is saying.
this wasn't some significant character in your life. Just a passerby.
people generally feel owed explanations for everything that happens to them, and sometimes it's not worth the effort based on the lack of foundation of the event.

Just another passerby I guess......

My aries sun, cant help but want to hunt him down, and tie him to my bed smh.....but I won't I've met a scorpio who is brutally honest and doesn't play mind games. I like scorpios they tell me what they want and they control everything. My venus pisces needs that.

With that Pisces man, I had to make the plans and plan everything and he would either show up or ditch me smh lol

sorry girl. Yes the Pisces man was playing games. no woman needs that.

I am glad you found a guy who keeps his word and likes you more.

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Thank you 🙂 I am glad I didn;t sleep with him 🙂

sizzurp isn't the one worked up.
it's me that is.

and I won't calm down

Posted by Piscescorp
Next time if someone ditches you, and acts like they don't care or have weird excuses like his.

cut them off quickly because they will continue on seeing that you are taking it. kkkkk 🙂

I will, I should trust my instincts more often. My excuse was that he was "busy" he's a business man. He went back to work after our first date...... I thought he was just a workaholic which was attractive to me, I can relate.
He was seeing what I would take from him. SMH

Posted by Sizzurp
I guess that's what I was attempting to lead you to, young lady.

Understand that you have the ability to choose how people will treat you. But, also accept and seek accountability for your own actions. it's super easy to blame another, but true progress only occurs when we accept and know our own role in the show.

You are right....

I know what my mistakes were most definitely, I let that fucker get away with too much! Let's just say the next guy will have to work harder. I am not blaming ot all on him, I just wished he was more honest when I asked him what he wanted with a 21 year old. I am happy he didn;t take advantage of me by sleeping with me.

Posted by Piscescorp

Posted by ariespiscesgirl

Posted by Piscescorp
Next time if someone ditches you, and acts like they don't care or have weird excuses like his.

cut them off quickly because they will continue on seeing that you are taking it. kkkkk 🙂

I will, I should trust my instincts more often. My excuse was that he was "busy" he's a business man. He went back to work after our first date...... I thought he was just a workaholic which was attractive to me, I can relate.
He was seeing what I would take from him. SMH

yes I understand sweetie. now you got your answer, go rest and enjoy the Scorpio guy. leave all this in the past where it belongs. 🙂



NEXT!!!!

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Next indeed, I feel so much better....hmm this board does work

yes, the first time I post on one of these boards and I get awesome responses.
Thanks for all the help, empathy 🙂 and helpful words
special thanks to Piscescorp