Can you help?

Hello there,

I've decided to post this mesage to you Scorpios also, as I feel you are
good advice givers.
I am a Pisces with a problem! I hope someone can help.
I have just read this description of
Pisces

Pisces, when active in the chart, is loving, caring, communicative, easily influenced,
easygoing, dreamy, pleasant, comforting, philosophical,
idealistic, creative, volunteering, contemplative, spiritual, reverent,
empathic, devoted, unpretentious, visionary, romantic, versatile,
musical, open-minded, gentle, polite, charming, gracious, lucky,
enthusiastic, prosperous, tactful, healing, trustworthy, psychic,
and tolerant.


Unfavorable Pisces can be manipulative, passive-aggressive,
timid, helpless, degenerate, psychotic, ungrounded,
have poor concentration and follow-through, procrastinating,
bad with money, lacking in goals, undefended emotionally, lazy,
indulgent, gullible, tearful, impulsive, unreliable, airheaded,
unsettled, indecisive, confused, superficial, melancholic,
inconsistent, addictive, overzealous, a loner, uncommunicative,
bad with details, and misplaces trust.

Unfortunately, at the moment, the 'unfavorable Pisces' description
applies to me.
I think I may at one stage have been of the former description. In fact
I know it was. The biggest thing I had, was that Piscean hope and foresight.
I was optimistic about what I wanted to do and what came natural to me.
But being a Pisces ( although I never realised it at the time and that it
would bring me to this point) I lacked the practical skills to put
my dreams in motion.

I was naturally very quick and bright,and funny - with lots of ideas
bouncing around.
A few months ago I moved back in with my parents - and as
they are quite straight, cynical 'down-to-earth' insensitive ( I don't mean that
disparagingly they are just like that) people who don't go in for anything
ehtereal - I have found myself being so influenced by their attitudes,and getting more
and more discouraged and sinking deeper and deeper, that I am ending
up once again doing things and jobs just to please them at the end of the day
that I feel I am my losing my own identity.
When I came back to live here I thought they would help, but they don't want to
help, because they don't believe in the things I do, and are not so open-minded.

All I want to do is go to drama school. But they have trampled all over my
dreams and feelings long enough already, that I don't want them to do it to
my one true dream. But I am finding it harder and harder to help myself.

I am slipping in to unfavorable mode more and more each day due to
these difficulties.

Not to blame them or anything - but I didnt realise it would affect me so
much, otherwise I would have avoided coming here.

I need to ask anyone out there, who might have a little expertise in
Astrology ( or psychiatry!)- will I be stuck in this mode forever??
I am doomed to be the Pisces victim, failure?? What can I do to help myself?

In astrology terms my father is a Leo, my mother a Capricorn. My
father is so typical Leo, in that he is self-centred, bossy tyrannical. He is
not the evolved Leo type at all.
He doesn't listen to me, he doesn't even know me. He thinks he is best at
everything, that he has the answer to everything and that his way is the ONLY way.
I can't even have a conversation with him, because he is aggressive
and accusing. He condescends me ideals and wishes, when what he could
do is offer help in me getting them off the ground.I can't take it. And when I back
away from him, he just acts like a big child. He is so-self-centred
and can only think of himself, and how it affects him. I am finding it so hard - because
the

My mom's kinda like your dad, except not as bad. I quit telling her anything I wanted to do when I was seven. I just never ask anymore, I just tell and do.

What I would do if I were you, is write a very long letter to your dad about all the problems you have with him, then explain your dream, and explain that you do not need him controling your life. Then make sure he gets it while you're ON the plane.

It so hard to explain. Because he has been like that from day one, its not like there was ever a time that he did listen and then suddenly stopped. I just know no different from other people who have great dads.
People just have to be so gentle with me, and he is the complete opposite of that, and always as been. I know not all Leos are like that!
I feel so stupid, because after living away from home for a while, everything seemed fine. I kind of forgot how things were, or thought they might have changed, and I feel stupid for knowingly putting myself in this position. Naieve or what.
The most difficult thing I have to do I guess, is face up to him. I guess I prefer to just slip away from that kind of ugliness.
I don't know, maybe I should just go with the flow and see what happens.
Thanks for your advice

I think you really should face him... You're going to have to do it eventually, you shouldn't have to live your life in his shadow.

True don't live ur life in his shadow. I have a mother who is just like ur dad even though she's an Aquris not as concideted but just as more controlling or life running as urs. Maybe u could cook a big dinner nice and confterbale to where u can explain and confront him on this entire matter. U know to ease him in to the situation. I just fiquire it would be messier to have sudden confrontion. Be careful. Go out if u need some air. Vist a cafe or stop by a play or a musuem or a libary. I don't know the city u live so I fiqure u may just little of open minded places there's always the woods.

If i were you i would keep my dreams to myself. If i were you i would save my money and leave as soon as i could. I don't think you should go with the flow, and i don't think you should stand up to him yet. Do that when you have left home and you feel strong enough to do it. What are you going to do? Live the life of mediocre or get up and follow your dreams?

Hmmmm...any mutable signs in this discussion? With the exception of Morgan, I believe Ellie just stumbled upon the perfect board for her needs: Cardinal-Signs-R-Us! Talk about your motivational speaking...but kick some A(ss?) Ellie! Go to a play tomorrow night and just plain depose the lead female-- or if you like Shakespearian acting, even the lead male-- and work your magic. But, this brings up a crucial point of interest: How much acting experience have you had? And how many times have you successfully led a revolution to get what you wanted? After all, it sounds like both are in the grab bag to me.

hahaha Josh... a pisces leading a revolution? coming from a fellow posces, I know that leadership is very very difficulta and it is instinctual to want life to go very smoothly with no rumples and the I dread the day rumples happen. But ellie, you are headed right for them which makes your situation very..err...rumpled.

Allow yourself to dream (and don't let anyone take that away from you) and work toward that goal but always remember that if (and I'm not saying its so) you can't find a consistent acting job, know that, if it is your love, you can always volunteer your time at smaller theatres or community centers or such-nothing wrong with that.

and whatever you do put down boundaries and don't let your father cross them.

I belive Gwendlyn sums it best put down lines. and don't losse ur dreams then agian itsn't that a lesson we all must learn and use?..........

Ellie, i would like to tell u that u are not alone. There are people in the same situation as u.

All the best!!

yes, good luck.