confused, dreamy and lonely piscean

i am a single 21 years old male from australia. not sure how i will go with advice/replies here, but if anyone out there would like to read a bit about me, here it goes:

first of all i am just gonna put out there that I am a virgin, girls tend to intimidate me yet i fantasize about them all the time. i sometimes have realistic dreams where i have risky sexual encounters and end up waking up before anything exciting happens or my dreams just change as soon as I get into action.

i find myself to be a creative person, id rather be alone and let my emotions come out in the form of music and just write about whatever I am feeling, usually it will be about how sad and dull my life is, even though i am a genuinely happy sort of dude to be around if you know me.

i dont like the idea of the working world. i tried working in retail for 6 months and even though it wasn't too bad, I still didn't feel like it was the right thing that my heart truly wanted. i've recently become unemployed from the job and before that i was unemployed since the beginning of 2008.

sometimes it feels as if i don't even fit in. its a struggle trying to just be myself with people i dont know because i feel i have so many different sides to me. i can't even figure myself out most of the time. i believe i have got so much potential to show people who i really am, but because i dont believe in myself and i've never met anyone who really believed in me, i just hide and hope that one day everything will all come together and i will somehow be as confident as i dream myself to be.


my mind is thinking about too much stuff right now, so i'll just leave it at that!

thanks!

Awwwh 😢

Yea, I'm thinkin bout going back to my zombie baby. She's cuter and I miss her face already.

Funny, I was talking to my pisces male this morn and he was really emo too. It took forever to understand what the hell was wrong...I'm not even sure he knew. I think this sign FEELS so strongly that separating from the emo is downright impossible. Conversely, as a taurus, putting the feelings to the side so that I can git er dun comes fairly easily.

I think it's ok to dream and aspire for something other than the mundane but you have to ask yourself...what's the point of dreaming if they never manifest? Sometimes you gotta put in hrs at the day job so that at night you can work on your dream at night.

The pisces male, is often overwhelmed by what to do with his life. The more choices he has, the more difficult it is to focus in on one dream. His mind is littered with what if's. I have to ground him so that he can figure out how to accomplish one dream at a time.

Make a list of your dreams, things you wish to accomplish. Then one by one, outline what you will need in order to achieve each. Try getting out of your head long enough to be practical and when you set a goal, stick to it. Its all about fulfilling your dreams.

thanks for the replies.

i do have goals. fulfilling them has been a long process. my efforts, i feel have gone pretty unnoticed which can result in a lack of drive to succeed and push forward. i keep telling myself that it will all be worth the wait, but i always seem to find a way to be hard on myself and put me back to my lonely reality i currently dwell in.

One foot in front of the other. When u accomplish a step toward your longterm goal, pat yourself on the back in a major way. I don't care if u just go to dinner and buy dessert. Just because u don't have a cheerleader doesn't mean u can't reinforce yourself.

Also, your not bad looking. Try putting your profile up on a dating site. You don't have to meet the chicks right away or at all for that matter. Having conversations with chicks in an environment where you're removed and relaxed might help you realize we don't bite...unless you're into that kinda thing.

Ack! Jinx

And thanks sea. You can thank my pisces bff for that. Whodathunk I've been breathing underwater all these years and never choked

do you reckon i will find her or she will find me? most of the time i find myself passing up opportunities to talk to girls i find attractive. but thats mainly because ive been in the wrong environments to really just be myself and talk to them. one girl came into my workplace earlier this year and i literally could feel our souls connect and my whole body froze with butterflies inside. her eyes were smiling at me and mine were smiling at hers. she gave me one last look as she walked out. she was probably too young anyway, but i think it might of been some sort of sign that someone is out there for me.

the type of women i crave are the ones who make me feel comfortable being who i am, who can really inspire and motivate me to be more open, to let loose a bit. im not your typical manly dude, quite feminine but i think my sense of humour and dreamy nature can attract women. it's finding them, which has been the hardest part.

thanks for your input so far everyone.

oh yeah and illusion, i was born 25th of feb 1989 apparently around 11pm at night.

Try swimming in familiar waters.

Getting my pisces bff to date was darn near impossible. She's gorgeous and yet, she spent many years alone and I don't mean alone and dating...simply alone.

When I think about the relationships she eagerly engaged in, that she didn't find something wrong with dude, they were both guys she knew from school. One of them she'd previously dated, the other she knew of him, he had the most awesome crush on her. Point is, she felt comfortable with them and their desire seemed genuine.

So my suggestion would be to get in contact with some of your old school mates. See if they have kept in touch with people you haven't. Are any of those chicks single? Ask for the hook-up.

This also is one time FB might help. Think of some chicks from that you might have known and liked but didn't act or that you liked but didn't know.

We all tend to mature with age and who knows, one of your old mates might hold the key to happiness. Send her a friend req. She might think, oh, that's that guy from school and accept. Even if she doesn't recognize you, the fact that you went to school together might be enough to open the door.

Thus no, your ideal woman is not going to jump in your lap. If being aggressive when you see fleeting eye candy isn't your style , start thinking of passive aggressive ways to get noticed.

Posted by shun
oh yeah and illusion, i was born 25th of feb 1989 apparently around 11pm at night.

lol did a synastry reading 🙂 we're not half bad as friends 😄 i'd be glad to talk with you if you feel like it 🙂

i think she'll find you 🙂 but you need to be open to be accepting and smile back 🙂 i know sometimes it feels out of place, but if she gives you butterflies 🙂 embrace it and smile back because that is all it takes. enviornments are annoying at times but you need to go against the grain and just flash that amazing smile and you give her the message through your beautiful eyes (which all my piseces friends have) --- is she picks up on your signals - you know she is just as sensitive as you 🙂 which would make your interaction a lot easier. BUT you need ot be open to it 🙂 yeh? sometimes, a simple hi leads to love.

definitely a sign. you need to simply love. romance, is everywhere, not just between people it is the first breath you take when you walk outside the door, the crunchy leaf you step on, the first droplet of rain that falls on your nose 🙂 smile and you will attract them like moths to a flame.

definitely a person you need to feel comfrotable with - normally water signs will do this for you - sounds like you enjoy understanding and sensitivity in a person 🙂 definitely a cardinal sign (as they tend to inspire) ie. cancer or scorpio (fixed - to ground you and sexually make you work it a lil 😛)

honestly pisces men have the whole animalistic mysteriousness already. you are all soooo sexy. be open and find your passion, love everyone and you will attract her! she maybe there already you just haven't sent her the right 😛 slightly forward signals.

to tell you the truth, my bf had been in my circle of friends in a while, i'm naturally an extrovert and didn't realised him, until right before a party he looked at me and we made eye contact, for 30s. he took me to another world, i can't even describe it. i've dated a few people before him, but his look stole my soul. afterwards we met at another event i could tell he was nervous but he said hi, and smiled - i fell for him then. sometimes that is all that it takes.

🙂

@illusion, whats a synastry reading?


sorry im so new to astrology and stuff.

only pretty recently have i become interested in star sign stuff.


i did smile at the girl i mentioned in my previous post. she smiled at me too.


i am impressed you read me like a book, literally.


now dump your bf and go out with me! haha i kid i kid. thanks


@tubbyscubby -

I dunno i have some weirdness about dating chicks i've already met before in my life

it's like i need to meet completely new people in order to try and get myself to like someone, it's like they dont know me at all and i have a fresh start to just be my real self. I don't know i probably sound weird as hell.

I get it. It sounds like you're not to happy about who you were back then...or how u were perceived. Even given what illusion said though, she met he r pisces among friends. She didn't notice him butt he obviously noticed her. I think you need to decide which makes you least uncomfortable. You can't have it both ways. You can't be both non-aggressive and non-passive aggressive. You'll end up alone.

Posted by shun
@illusion, whats a synastry reading?


sorry im so new to astrology and stuff.

only pretty recently have i become interested in star sign stuff.


i did smile at the girl i mentioned in my previous post. she smiled at me too.


i am impressed you read me like a book, literally.


now dump your bf and go out with me! haha i kid i kid. thanks

synastry is relationship (any form) reading 🙂 all good! haha, i've always been curious in psyc so this kinda worked well with it 🙂 well there we go 🙂 next time a wave and a hi 🙂 aw yay 🙂 well comes with dating someone 🙂 plusi did my research. my close friends tend to be pisces 🙂
teehee 🙂 i'm not the one for you but i'm sure she is out there. like a lot of crabbys like me who act all tought with our outer shell but we're sooo marshmelly on the inside and want someone who can handle our intensity in love (i tend to smother people with affection) 😄 hehe

You sound like my daughter who is 21 today. She is a Leo though with Scorpio rising and Venus in Virgo. She is very beautiful and I see that you are good looking so that is not the problem. She is rather introverted especially as a Leo which is weird to me. I always tell her that she needs to put herself out there and I finally convinced her to join a dating site to at least get a feel for talking with men like tubbyscubby mentioned. Get your feet wet that way. It will help you be more comfortable when you really find someone that you want to pursue. She is shy too and it's hard for her to initiate contact. Don't let the fear of rejection hold you back! We have all been rejected at one point or another and that doesn't mean it's you but can be attributed to that person's taste or where they are in life. Just keep on keeping on and you are so young still so there is plenty of time. 🙂

It will get better with time for you especially when you can start liking/loving yourself. You need to really dwell on your good attributes and talents and realize that you are a unique individual with a lot to offer someone! As you do this you start to emanate a confidence and energy that is felt by others and especially by the opposite sex. You have to try and love yourself for who and where you are to really get that reciprocated in life.

I used to be an EXTREMELY shy Pisces girl when I was in school and up into my early twenties and had an awful time with talking to guys. I started realizing who I was and what I had to offer and gaining confidence in myself and it really changed things for me in such positive ways. Now when people meet me and I share with them how painfully and debilitatingly shy I was they just can't believe it! I know how it is to feel lonely and misunderstood though so I can truly relate to where you are right now and I wish you luck and new insight and discovery in your new adventure!

maybe it's because you're also pisces lol

i am so glad i joined this forum, you've all been a great help!

My gosh I totally understand where you're coming from...Yep definitely Pisces lol.
I too felt lost and alone for a long time. The relationships I had always ended in disaster, to a point I was doubting myself and got really insecure. I knew it wasn't because of my looks, cause Pisceans tend to be goodlooking peeps, but for some reason men wanted to go out with me because of my looks (or so I thought) I never understand why the relationship didn't went further than a fling.

When I did some selfrefelction when I turned 30 and my marriage went poof, I saw myself in the "walk over" "getting used" role cause I was always in pleasing role. I thought I was happy when I could take care of someone, and that person alone, putting myself always last on the list. Didn't speak up, but drowning myself in my own sea. Sure, I could speak, but about my needs and the things I wanted...totally scared me off. I could give advice to everyone but never took notice on my own words.

I didn't change myself, but I did change the way I was thinking, that sometimes you can put yourself first (omg that's so hard for pisceans) that when you give you can sometimes expect something in return, and when you know you can be walked over easily act on it right away.

Shun, I don't think you need to meet a whole lot of new people, but your way of thinking and action. Even if Pisceans are emotional and sensitive creatures, doesn't mean we can't stick up for ourselves. If you feel secure about yourself, and show it through your words and actions....bees on honey 😉

hugs to you!

sorry i dont know much about all this natal stuff. i just did an online natal chart analysis, not sure how accurate it is:

Sun Pisces
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Aquarius
Venus Aquarius
Mars Taurus
Jupiter Taurus
Saturn Capricorn
Uranus Capricorn
Neptune Capricorn
Pluto Scorpio
Lilith Libra
Asc node Pisces

I have no idea what any of this means. but that's just a little bit of what came up on this very detailed chart reading. is this what you were asking for?

You have a predominance of fixed signs: Aquarius, Taurus & Scorpio.

Fixed signs have persistence, perseverance, and immobility, stability and resistance to change. This is a major strength and a blessing at times— fixed signs are reliable and determined. But unwillingness to change can also lead to getting stuck in ruts.

I share mars in Taurus with you. Mars relates to your energy/action. It takes a lot sometimes to get motivated but you can accomplish a lot once you set your mind to it. Mercury rules your thinking which is in another fixed sign, Aquarius. Develop a plan for your life (career first, relationships will follow once you get a sense of accomplishment, you'll be more confident & open for relationships). You're probably interested in so many things but pick one for now. The important thing is to get yourself out of this rut. While taking action, you'll discover more of who you are and what you need. One path leads to many but you need to take the first step.

Hope this helps a little.

@Mistery - what could be the first step? i think that maybe i have already taken that step, it takes awhile to receive recognition for what I do, but once it is recognized it is well received but there are always people out there who like to put people down and not like what they see or hear. if i were to see results instantly, i would be a more motivated person. I tend to thrive off encouragement and praise. Even though it can be hard accepting that praise.


@phooey - after initial communication with someone i can get the gist of how someone really is. maybe that's why i have such a small bunch of friends, I have picked them wisely however I feel like it's the right time in my life to meet new people, as my current friends have slowly faded from my life, i am only 21 and 3 of my best mates i've known since the near start of high school, have all decided to go their own ways. I still see my good capricorn male friend a bit, but too much of him starts to becomes a headache and almost a migraine. My other best male friend is an aquarius and he has found a girl to be with for the past 3 months, he hasn't had a girl in a few years and he has completely blocked out all of his friends from his life now that he has found someone to be with, I really don't see them lasting, and I will most likely be right about it since he always seems to be amazed when I can guess the outcomes for him and in the end he always says "shun, you knew all along" yet he still never listens.

A new bunch of friends and allies would be exciting for me, but finding and keeping them has always been a challenge. :{

I agree with whomever said your aqua placements are causing ill-ease on the friendship/romance front. I think the two signs together, pisces and aqua result in your striving for ideals on the friend/love fronts. You need to loosen up and recognize that your intuition can be off at times.

In terms of romance, google mars in taurus. That's another "stuck" sign although the planet is all about movement.

"@Mistery - what could be the first step? i think that maybe i have already taken that step, it takes awhile to receive recognition for what I do, but once it is recognized it is well received but there are always people out there who like to put people down and not like what they see or hear. if i were to see results instantly, i would be a more motivated person. I tend to thrive off encouragement and praise. Even though it can be hard accepting that praise."

Oh are you involved in the arts? Me too. 😉 I know exactly how you feel but when you do it for a longer time, you realize the reviews will always be mixed. I mean, does everyone like Celine Dion? Not me, but she brings in the bucks. You have to be fine with not getting a perfect 100% from everyone. I was just taking a guess it involved the arts, maybe another type of work that you feel judged by, the same applies. You can do great things as long as you don't worry too much about the result as it can paralyze your creativity. We are all a work in progress and sometimes it's the progress that matters more than the work.

@Mistery yeah, i write music, draw, animate cartoons, graphic design, build websites, video editing, basically a lot of media stuff. i was also a good sports player when i was a kid and i really thought i'd become a professional soccer player. i still to this day have dreams of playing for professional teams lol. i dont play anymore these days though, cause i found other interests. i never remember any dreams i have dreams of being well known for music and my artistic side, not sure if i have or not. does that maybe mean that i am actually living in that dream already? who knows...


@Pisco26 - glad i am sharing the pain with someone 🙂

Posted by shun
@Mistery yeah, i write music, draw, animate cartoons, graphic design, build websites, video editing, basically a lot of media stuff. i was also a good sports player when i was a kid and i really thought i'd become a professional soccer player. i still to this day have dreams of playing for professional teams lol. i dont play anymore these days though, cause i found other interests. i never remember any dreams i have dreams of being well known for music and my artistic side, not sure if i have or not. does that maybe mean that i am actually living in that dream already? who knows...


@Pisco26 - glad i am sharing the pain with someone 🙂

From the heart -

Find illusion (member) and befriend her.
KNOW that you will fall in love with her
TELL HER you've been warned about this (not like you don't know)
so that you don't say anything stupid that
will scare her away.

SHE will probably make time for you to
hang with her friends and TALK with females
and work on your game. Her friends MUST BE
OFF LIMITS TO YOU. ( Don't break this rule )

If for whatever reason the above is not possible
find some LESBIAN forums in your area and look
for a Cancer or Pisces or Scorpio and tell them
your situation. Some will laugh at you because
they hate men ( and are not really lesbians,
they were hurt by males in their past ) but
you may find one you can be friends with.

That will help you with your confidence
(mostly by shaking it up so bad that you
learn to deal with the hits )

Best.

And BUMP - because this thread matters.

haha. she already has a pisces boyfriend. she will probably see your post anyway, then if i do say to her what you told me to say, she will know straight away what my plans are, i think it will be kinda obvious. i'd hate to stir up the pot with her current bf, one pisces is enough to handle i'd imagine.

but it is quite bizarre how we're both from the same city, and are the same age.

so the lesbian forum sounds like the next best plan! lmao i probably don't even have it in me to do that!