What Makes You Run?

There's so much cryptic talk on the Pisces board. It's like having a conversation under water 😛

Everyone seems to speak of the manner in which Pisces will get close only to run/swim away as soon as the relationship becomes grounded. I know that each situation is different but it's kinda weird how most of you seem to agree that leaving is what you all do well.

So I am wondering what triggers or causes Pisces to bolt?

What about the relationship results in such an abrupt departure? Is it truly abrupt or is it that your lover didn't pick up on your "one foot out the door" signals?

Also, does anyone have any links to Pisces info online that they feel nails this whole "swim away" thing?

yeah, what a bitch.

Posted by seavixen2
IMO Tubby, we aren't quick to quit a relationship at all. It's usually after every conceivable thing has been tried to fix whatever the problem might be. Some of us don't "swim away" soon enough:/ And the reasons we do swim away vary. There is always a reason and that reason is almost always communicated in some shape or form loud and clear. Why people are shocked, I just don't know.

YES.... its EXACTLY how seavixen2 said it.

then what some of you say in the threads isn't making sense. you make it seem like it's abrupt and that people are left devastated and blindsided by the departure.

also that whole thing about trying to catch a fish. well if the relationship is going well, the feelings are mutual, what's so wrong with expressing feelings?

i guess i'm confused because the impression i get from reading is that one could be in a relationship with a pisces, think things are going well, then *poof*...he's gone and he took the silverware too.

post hider 😛

Posted by katica
I was a bit mean because I just stopped
talking to him as usual [after we were saying I love yous already} and let him figure out it was over.
for e.g flowers every time he saw me [too much it doesn't feel special anymore like eating toast for breaksfast]...lots of I love you texting...once a day is enough...but 10 or more ?

He was an Aquarius...it was only a 3 month relationship but it was a rebound for me unfortunately for him...

That's so cold... especially to an Aqua. It takes a lot for them to act that way and you probably fucked him up for life.

Where's the compassion? jeez...

Hey katica... if you claim you "just know" .... why didn't you see your babies Daddy leaving you with 4 kids after 12 years?

you didn't hide it quick enough...

ack!

what/how does pisces react to a partner that is not very forthcoming in the feelings department? as a taurus, ain't no way in hell you're getting an "i love you" out of me first. in the past, they guy would say it first and i'd get around to be able to express it myself a good 3-4 months later.

given that pisces is supposed to be sensitive and overly touchy, how does that translate when you have a partner who is more cautious when it comes to expressing feelings?

are you looking for a partner who is equally sensitive and cuddly?

Posted by seavixen2

^^It can be like that...BUT only if the person is blind,deaf, or dumb. A person that is really into a Pisces will have to become proficient in every sense possible. If a Pisces can't verbally express it..you'll see it, whether in something creative, body language or lack there of, tone of voice, lack of eye contact..etc

^i can see that even from a distance. something about a pisces "thinking" that doesn't set too right with me. not sure if it's because i'm more comfortable working through the maze of what's in my head aloud OR if i'm not trusting what's going on in the pisces' head. it's like, what i'm being told has been "filtered" vs. laying it all out there.

i'm not sure if this filtering is more about the pisces being guarded and not being ready to discuss whatever it is yet OR if there's something "bad." like, is he worried how i will see him? is he worried about hurting my feelings?

i feel if me and dude do clique i will be saying "spit it out" a lot.

HA! probably.

for taurus, at least for me, it's not really being in tune with the emotions as far as the words/feelings are concerned. like i might feel strongly for the person but i don't take words lightly so i won't say something if i'm not 100% sure...that and he has to go first 😛

it's always awkward cause if a guy does say it, my response is always something like "oooooh. wow." then silence.

ok, then unhide it for about 10 min so we can read and then hide it. i doubt if he's searching for you at this very moment.

unless shellshocker was right?

*coughs*

awwwwwwwwh, mike tyson's punch out!!!!

*eeks*

jinx!

don't relate to what?

well i've been with my girlfriend for over 5 years..been knowing each other for over 9 years thou..

but even before her, i never ran from a relationship..i may have lead girls to think we COULD be together, but if i feel it could be deeper then just sex, i won't run..i have no problems with commitment

thanks damen.

ian, shut up! see what i mean about being cryptic? like those damn aquas who play the "i'm weird look at me" game.

you

are

so

fucking

with

me!

and damen on second thought, wtf!? which one of yall doesn't believe in marriage? why the hell are you dragging your feet?

yeah, well your cutting her face out of pictures makes perfect sense now 😛

glad it's worked out for you so far but that shit's crazy.

ian, like i said, i'm happy that it's worked out for the two of you but you both should sleep with knives under your pillow for the next decade or so.

peri, hookers can be charming so eh...

and i guess that what you guys have projected isn't exactly true? when people get on and ask about why their pisces left, the response is almost always a "duh, of course they left...they're a pisces."

i'm confused. this is why you don't trust what you read on the internets.

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WAIT!

i'm private like that. i don't like people i'm fuqn to meet my loved ones. my friends...no biggie but you don't get to meet my parents until you start talking about marriage and shit...and i believe you're not just talking out your ass. so if that's a pisces thing, meeting the peeps, that could be a challenge. then again, given the speed at which you move ian, i'd say you probably wanted to meet her parents after a week and she was like "nooo" and you were like "whaaaaaaaa" and then she was like "dude" and you were like "oh hell no" and THEN you ran.

Posted by seavixen2

Posted by seavixen2
You know, I get what your saying tubby. My Gram (my mom's mom) is the same way. My favorite Tau eva!
She's not a touchy feely, huggy, I love you type of person. She showed her love for us with her actions.
She didn't NOT say I love you. But it was just an understood thing in my family. It was just the way she was...
the way she was raised as well by strict german immigrant parents. But I think the longer someone spends with a Tau
people can pickup those unspoken sentiments

O and her husband dealt with her less than fuzzy emotional expressions well...he is a Tau too.

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i can be warm but i had posted a while ago in the tau forum asking about women's experience with pisces men. ALL of the tau women said that the pisces men were so affectionate that they were clingy. they also said that they had to do a lot of reassuring. in the end, they all said the relationship was good sans the pisces far more prevalent need for intimacy, sensitivity and ego-strokes.

i must say that was damn near a wrap for me. even writing ^that made me feel like i was choking/gasping for air.

this should be interesting if it ever gets off the ground.

it's cause you're a ruffian.

hmm...that's disturbing. sounds like a mrs. robinson scenario. tell your wife to never leave you alone with her mother.

Posted by ianthefish
nahh, im not...

well ok i didnt really move in with her...

i just stayed there... every night..

Then why are you always telling women... "don't give up the pussy so quick" ?

*raised eyebrow*

yeaaaaaaaa, i was thinking the same thing but that would be indirectly insulting his wife. i'd rather keep my insults to him. i feel bad enough for her as it is.

i'm telling you...KNIVES! under the pillow.

Posted by tubbyscubby
and damen on second thought, wtf!? which one of yall doesn't believe in marriage? why the hell are you dragging your feet?

oh she definetly wants to get married..me? not so much,lol..

if it ain't broke why fix it, right?

wow 😢

@peri...

"boy, do you know you have a panty on your head?" -- raising arizona

prince, did you or have any of the others behaved differently when you're smitten vs just fucking around?

i guess my concern would be that i've taken the impression that pisces will "mirror" or be deceptive so that the SO feels as if the pisces is really in to them. so the person is thinking that they're on the same page where the pisces is like "wait? what? out."

What makes me run is lots of interaction. I get bored easily too... I do the mirroring technique too... and it's done to not hurt the other's feelings. I feel like all my girlfriends have been a lot more intrigued by me than I have by them. But it's hard for me to let go because I just can't set them up for that typical Pisces 'walking away' that is so common.

Had to think about this one. Reasons I've taken off:

1. The Bloodbath Premonition: I know this is going to end like the first 20 minutes of "Saving Private Ryan" so I'm gonna save us both the trouble.

2. My Emotional Resources Are on Empty: Someone has sucked every drop of my energy with their constant "crises." I will not deal with high maintenance people.

Posted by tubbyscubby
what/how does pisces react to a partner that is not very forthcoming in the feelings department? as a taurus, ain't no way in hell you're getting an "i love you" out of me first.

It really depends on the person. TBH, most Pisces I know are not very forthcoming with their feelings. Especially the men. I'm not either. I have never said the "L" word first. All water signs are terribly frightened of making ourselves vulnerable because we know, on the inside, we're basically mushy-gushiness. For this reason, we often over-compensate by putting up a hard exterior. It's a defense mechanism. I have to be completely comfortable, safe and know that the other person loves me before I can admit my feelings.

I have a theory-

pisces are two fish swimming away from each other so In a relationship...have u heard a saying when two people look inwards in a relationship is bad because the relationship doesnt acheive anything. whereas if they look forward towards a goal together or outwards "like the fish sign" theyre relationship grows more. In a piscean relationship it can feel like ur drowning because at first they can be smothering and intense and passionate about love some people think thats what its like to reciprocate theyre love but u just need to do ur own thing and acheive ur own dreams together.....if they see that ur drowning in love and u stopped swimming theyre gonna leave.

my friend went to a wedding on saturday and the groom said a really teary speech he said something along the lines of "I wanna look at the endless horizon with you two lovers looking in the same direction, but I still want to look at you." I think thats how it should be in all relationships

I think my mindset is still stuck in the 80s or stuck in a future that is fusion of 80s neon and futuristic goodness >sigh< I want now to be there already I cant stand the naughties anymore

LOL @ Flock of Seagulls. I love the 80s, too Vixen. That whole band should have been arrested by the hair police, though. YIKES!

Posted by Pesca
are pisces masochistic? we stay together with somebody out of pity?

reading what others have said, it sounds like the feeling is mutual.

IF pisces is so sensitive and emo, breaking up with this person after a long relationship has gotta be difficult. so i imagine that it'd be two people guarding one another from hurt.

i also have read that toward the end, pisces can become ruthless and uncharacteristically cruel so not sure it's worth staying with them, pity or not.

As a Pisces moon, I will run away or fight anyone who is a hypocrite, someone competing with everything I do, anyone smothering and clingy, or over possessive where they don't want me to even think on my own or tell me how to feel and yes I have had someone try to tell me how to feel, stupidest shit I ever had to deal with. If someone has a bad dating pattern, ex. has a kid from every relationship they had, bad record, abusive in any form. I will most likely just disappear from whoever's life, or if I am faced with this person and they are showing their negative traits to me I will fight.

Meant to add, someone who just isn't motivated with life or doing anything positive. No depth to character, negative, isn't about shit.

What makes me run is when I wake up one day and realise that I've wasted x number of years with a total douche who doesn't understand a god damn thing about me.

I am the eternal optimist so yeah I've hung in there longer than I should have done. And then one day I have a revelation, I realise that I'm not happy, and then I'm like a bullet out the door.

So that's the thing I guess, it may seem like we just up and leave out of nowhere to the other person, but for me personally it's usually been a long time coming.

The man that wrote that is a real schmuck.

Sounds a lot like my Aqua ex, although the list also included telling me how to talk, what to eat etc. and only being allowed to associate with people (friends) who met his approval, which btw was none of em.

Clinical. What a piece of work! And the in flagrante delicto font is that extra touch that I'm sure meant so much. 😛

I should hope MissP that you pointed out the door and instructed it to hit him in the arse on the way out...

Sure did VB. 🙂

Well done! Whoop whoop! 🙂

The word 'steer' comes to mind for that man, for no apparent reason. *whistling and looking innocent*

I'm sure such a stellar model of manhood such as that Val sprung it on her at a later date. And so he did. WHAT a charmer. I don't understand why they aren't just lined up round the block for such a hunk. *shudder* Gives me the creeps is what he does. Depraved tosser.

Posted by Beetleguese
I'd imagine he's had some meat steered up his bum while in the pokey eh?

I truly hope so. By someone quite large. Mmm, maybe there's a "Bitch Contract" somewhere floating about? He should be shaved and properly groomed for maximum effect.

Posted by Beetleguese
Pretty sure that rapists are looked down upon even by the other dregs in prison, karma's a bitch ain't it? 🙂

She certainly is a lovely creature. 🙂

the cops make me run away fast lmfao

ok, that was just AWESOME!

sounds like my leo finally wrote all his rules down and now there's a point-system 😛