Confused—? space or no space...which one is it!

I have read that many Pisces go through spirtz where they need space. Then I read that they cheat if you dont give them enough attention. Under one particular topic a girl said she was in a long distance relationship and her boyfriend constantly needed to hear her voice and she needed to send him pictures because he needed a piece of her with him at all times. Confused! which one is it.........attention or space?

I ask this because I am involved with a Pisces that confuses the HECK out of me.....I dont much understand his wants. He can spend an entire weekend with me and then I dont hear from him for days....maybe a text here and there but a phone call is just asking for too much.......ha! He claims he hates talking on the phone....give me a break! I cant figure it out.....not sure if he likes me or if hes just killing time till something better comes along. I have convinced myself that he is just taking things slow...what a way to make myself feel better right? Anyway I am rambling on...venting out is what I call it 🙂

i was with a pisces for 3 years and it was taken very slow in the beginning

sinder,

Are you guys still together? What is ur sun sign?

Obvisously not.......sorry! How was the relationship...a good one or bad one? If not too personal why did it come to an end?

Lv24

You hit the nail on the head.

You are pefectly right. There is a contradiction between those two. And the reason is not in you. It's in Pisces. Have you ever heard about Pisces addictive personality? This is it. Pisces either wants things on the level of addiction (attention wanting) and then, when it starts troubling their freedom, they disappear. I think this is a sign of immature Piscean. I'm really sorry that you ended up with such Piscean.

Perhap you could show him some wisdom, but I think he wont accept it. Or at least wont stay up with it.

Wait and see what happens...

Haffo,

Thanks, I was hoping you would respond but not sure if I wanted to hear what you had to say due to dissapointment...ha! Anyway I spent some time with my Pisces guy last night and we had an interesting conversation a conversation that he brought up because some chick put a profile of him up on dont date him girl .com. Some of the remarks were that he was afraid of commitment and that he puts his business first and hes a mommas boy (spell check). He then explained to me that it wasnt that he couldnt commit its that he likes his freedom. He doesnt want to feel like he has another job a 9-5 as he put it. He doesnt want to feel that he has to put in a certain amount of days a week because thats what is expected. He has his own business and he supports his family (mom, sister, and two brothers) he has a lot of responsibility and many women cant deal with that. I some what understand and at no point have I ever pressured him for commitment I just sit back and analyize him to the point of craziness. I try not to show it all though I think he knows....he has a degree in Psychology and hes a social worker so I am sure he sees right through me. Any way now that I have talked your ear off my question is.......do you think its worth sticking it out? He shows much interest and plans things with me in future. I dont want to pressure him...I want to be understanding, but there is one thing to be understanding and then theres just being a fool. By the way I am 25 and he is 31. I feel like I am falling in love. The chemistry is out of control but I am not sure if its chemistry or if its just me feeling the romantic side of a Pisces........he never strays too far thats what confuses me........if i stray he seems to want to get closer to me. 🙂
Im one confused chica!

I always seem to want what I cant have.......thats what it boils down to.

Starfish225...I am an Aries. Not supposed to be campatable with a Pisces.....I know every one tells me. I cant help it........I enjoy his thoughts and his company. His Intelligence gets me going. The love for his family attracts me to him even more. This is the 3rd Pisces I have been involved with and for some reason I get burned by them. Never been in love with one though....till now. My experience with past Pisces men is whats giving me the patience for this one. I understand him more because of it. What is it about Pisces guys that I love so much...dang! Lol!

I have in the past tried to talk to him about my feeling but he just shuts down and calls it drama....or me being dramatic. So now I just keep it in and hope that he will one day want to talk about it. I am getting to the point where I may just give up.....I dont want to be one of those girls that hangs on to the hope of what if...

Very accurate post lv24. Pisces can certainly be a dichotomy. needing both...'attention and space.' i think it's all about striving for that healthy balance. Even more so if he has that extra aquarian influence ..mercury, moon, etc. Generally speaking pisces would rather not follow the stricter 9 to 5 daily grind, or have (too) many other added responsibilities all at once. For the most part the picean mind and attentions do need to explore freely & fully their own unique modes of reality, & yet still, for sure they need to know that someone loves them deeply and unconditionally, and is there ...It's a good sign that he does show much interest and is planning for the future. Go with that...more talking too when he is in a receptive mood, keeping it light; baby-steps.. i would (surely) stick with it a lil longer...'good luck..

Thanks so much for all your feedback. You guys have been great! HAPPY HOLIDAYS 🙂

lv24,

To make it even more unfair, the Pisces expects you to be able to determine without communication, which way it's going to be. Definitely, a down-side to the nature of the Fish.

As I searched within me to see how this feels when commiting the act . . several things come to mind . . there are two safety zones for us to find to feel protected, and "protection" is the hugest issue of all. One in reality, one in the surreal and both fall into this category of "space".

First - attachment - there has to be security attached to knowing that I am safe within my partner, yet, it doesn't have to be in his presence, it can be in spirit . . until a time comes when I'm feeling misplaced, then the strengthening or re-securing of the protection within his heart draws me to him physically, or in voice, email. This attachment must always remain with my partner to continue loving him, but, it can be in spirit, on the conscious level.

Another thought that appears when feeling this situation . . there's a sensation of feeling hidden inside, not a thought, rather, an awareness of self that outshines everything else and it has to remain a mystery . . I would want my lover very close to me all the time, every second, yet, my light or energy might be seen, or taken away . . it's mine, it's my soul that lingers within my touch . . the connection with self is so blended with the whole being that even a touch emits and recieves . . to stand away while the energy runs fiercely is my only way of keeping it contained . . at these times, I will back off from my man and take space to plunge into the intense illusions of fantasy, while still energized . . at this time, I can be with another, such as a friend, or family . . but, NOT my lover . . for to him and because of him . . it ignites even mightier. To be with him at this time, I would become addicted to his passion.

Don't worry, lv24 . . he'll return in the physical form . . this is where we find our strength . . our internal determination to push forward . . it's in ourself, in the solitude of our internal furnace . . once it's contained, he'll be back. Rest assured, for there is no reason to doubt this . . if a Pisces loves you, it is to their core because we know no other way.

I know for myself, if I am connected to a person, my thoughts are on him more so in his absense than they are in his presence, my love for him grows stronger while I'm away nurturing my existence with him, within myself.

Just for your info, and anybody else's who is reading . . we feel different from everybody else on this planet in the aspect of sentience, though, many Pisces may not realize it - yet - they will. We feel evolved, maybe we are, maybe we're not . . however, we FEEL as though our subconscious and consciousness is continually mixing together . . what does this mean in reference to this thread?

lv24, even when you are with him in the physical form, he is still alone. What people see as "needing attention" isn't what is appears . . we don't need anybody's attention, for we are already aware of your presence, we can feel you inside, even when we're parted.

When we need our partner close to our sides, it's because we need to know that you are protecting our hearts, both in reality (you standing next to us), and in fantasy (that you understand that we co-exist within a world of illusion) . . when we are close in body to our partners and we give those long, drawn looks of searching and peircing into you . . we are looking to see if we're still safe, if you still understand that within our fantasy, our love flourishes.

The key to the Piscean is simple:

Within our fantasy, our love grows stronger . . fantasy sets us free. In there, the path is made clear and our subconscious gives us directional images.

In there . . is where you'll find us . . we're not on the outside. Even in physical form, or, on the phone . . we're not there, you still are not with us. You have to come into the dream to find us.

Once we realize that you'll share the experience with us and that you'll take care of us and protect us while we are away . . we are safe . . we are looking for safety! Only then . . will we live primarily in reality for you because with you we know we can "live" and not stay hidden, for in fantasy is where we have to live when another isn't aware of our existence. And with you in reality, our other existence doesn't need to be fed, you've lassoed it and you accept it and you understand that it is always there while you guard it . . allowing us to dive in when we need to energize our soul.

That is what the Fish is looking for with a partner . . one who not only understands about our existence, also, protects it and allows us the privacy while we need to feed.

I have read that many Pisces go through spirtz where they need space. Then I read that they cheat if you dont give them enough attention. Under one particular topic a girl said she was in a long distance relationship and her boyfriend constantly needed to hear her voice and she needed to send him pictures because he needed a piece of her with him at all times. Confused! which one is it.........attention or space?

I ask this because I am involved with a Pisces that confuses the HECK out of me.....I dont much understand his wants. He can spend an entire weekend with me and then I dont hear from him for days....maybe a text here and there but a phone call is just asking for too much.......ha! He claims he hates talking on the phone....give me a break! I cant figure it out.....not sure if he likes me or if hes just killing time till something better comes along. I have convinced myself that he is just taking things slow...what a way to make myself feel better right? Anyway I am rambling on...venting out is what I call it


this guy is complete like me. I never say this, but it can be 3 reasons:

1. I use this girl only for my needs. Life beck up or whatever... I will keep hear for long or short time... it doesn't meter. I don't care.

2. I have my yellow days. I don't need anybody. But I want you more than anything.

3. I am broke. Don't have money to make phone calls. So I must think reasonable.

---- you must discover which one is it ---

"I try not to show it all though I think he knows....he has a degree in Psychology and hes a social worker so I am sure he sees right through me."

lv24, a Piscean can "see" from the time they're born, regardless of their education or life experiences. If you are: "I just sit back and analyize him to the point of craziness." . . he knows this feeling is welling up inside of you because he can feel your emotions, your moods . .

. . there are times when we pull away from our partners because we can feel that we are causing them pain . . this could be the case in this situation. Our aim is to make you happy . . if we're making you crazy instead . . we'll back off for a time until we make you happy again . .

. . there are times when we pull away from our partners because we can feel that we are causing them pain . . this could be the case in this situation. Our aim is to make you happy . . if we're making you crazy instead . . we'll back off for a time until we make you happy again . .

nice, there is some true here. we are very human.

lv24
Run....and dont look back.
Give him freedom....
Give him space.....
Bull!
Even if he does fall for you he's not going to change his ways

lv24
Run....and dont look back.
Give him freedom....
Give him space.....
Bull!
Even if he does fall for you he's not going to change his ways

-->True. bring him a million $ , maybe he will change his manners.

what about me. Pisces in western astrology and a horse in a Chinese: Your freedom is most important in your life.

I think the problem is that non-Pisces people HAVE to be with their partner when they love the person, and we don't. So, when the Pisces goes out of contact for prolonged periods of time and only texts, it leaves the other person confused and thinking that there are mixed messages .. when in reality, the Pisces love for the other person can be in "spirit" and still remain just as fulfilling.

We take the feeling of being loved and embrace it within our dream-world, this way, we carry it with us all the time .. it doesn't HAVE to be in physical form. That's not to say that we don't WANT to be with the other person physically because we do and we will fantasize about the physical aspects .. but, it's not necessary to maintain the feeling. In the Piscean dream-world .. it's as clear and defining as it is in reality. It's not fuzzy and vague like everybody elses day-dreams .. it feels just as real as though the person is standing right in front of us.

People have a hard time with this, and I'm sure it is difficult to understand for the non-Pisces .. but, that is the way it is .. we can love from afar and it feels just as intense as being in your arms.

So, to us .. space .. has a different meaning than others.

Others think, giving us time alone is giving us space .. where to us .. alone is where we are anyway, because our love for you is nurtured in the illusionary world.

We are ALWAYS alone, always in our "space" .. we just occasionaly come to you for attention. It's NOT the other way around.

We don't seek space from others .. we are already there .. what we seek from you is attention, occasionally so we can re-engerize the loving feeling we carry around for you.

We're not easy, solitas .. probably the most difficult of all.

Please don't judge an entire sign by your own personal bad experience(s) in life that you had, solitas. i sure wouldn't. That would be the biggest travisty for any sign. If people kept doing that, soon there would be (no) signs left to love or care about, because (every) sign has their challenges, it just depends on what road you are drawn into travelling. People may think differently or behave a certain way, all signs are different, that's what makes life interesting, and yet people are not the (very) same in the same sign, if catch my drift. Meet a person first, get to know them well...'don't worry about what sign they are. The 'person' should always come first before (any) sign.' Otherwise you will always be second-guessing yourself.

*sometimes in life the deepest wells may be the hardest to draw, yet in the end can also be the most rewarding.* ...Keep the faith, and luck to you wherever you go in life.

I think the problem is that non-Pisces people HAVE to be with their partner when they love the person, and we don't. So, when the Pisces goes out of contact for prolonged periods of time and only texts, it leaves the other person confused and thinking that there are mixed messages .. when in reality, the Pisces love for the other person can be in "spirit" and still remain just as fulfilling.

We take the feeling of being loved and embrace it within our dream-world, this way, we carry it with us all the time .. it doesn't HAVE to be in physical form. That's not to say that we don't WANT to be with the other person physically because we do and we will fantasize about the physical aspects .. but, it's not necessary to maintain the feeling. In the Piscean dream-world .. it's as clear and defining as it is in reality. It's not fuzzy and vague like everybody elses day-dreams .. it feels just as real as though the person is standing right in front of us.

People have a hard time with this, and I'm sure it is difficult to understand for the non-Pisces .. but, that is the way it is .. we can love from afar and it feels just as intense as being in your arms.



INTERESTING, U SHOULD POST THIS SOMEWHERE TO MAGAZINES.