Do Pisces men lie about their feelings

Pisces men... if you feel scared of rejection or fear losing the upper hand would you deny your desire to be with someone? Dealing with someone who tells my friends blatantly he wants me back/doesn't want me with anyone else but when I finally approached him he basically denied wanting me back. Lied and said he was drunk 1 of the times he told my friends(I was there, total lie). Said he still has feelings but is too "scared" so I told him to stop stringing me along.

Then after that conversation I woke up to a friend request from him on fb (deleted him off all social media). Every time I try to make a clean break he does little things to fck with my head, even after he SAID he'd stop. Help.

Also: he had a party on sat night(we talked after) & I went because he tried so hard to get me to go, tried reaching out via snapchat(he doesn't know I deleted him) and begged a mutual friend of ours to help him get me to go. his sister was there, sat next to me and tried to make plans to meet for coffee and even go to the hair salon together soon. They have a very close relationship and she is visually impaired so relies on him heavily so I would think she'd want me to stay away. When we were together she never expressed this level of interest in us getting closer. Just thought it was odd being that I'm his ex and she knows that.

Posted by Aquarelle
Maybe you should stop looking into everything and just make up your mind about what you want?

If you don't want him, tell him that and tell him to stop contacting you. Have you tried that and if so, what happened?

If he says he is too scared, but you still want him, maybe it's a good thing to find out what he is scared about and take the fear away. Reassure him perhaps.

I thnk you need to be more clear about where you stand, towards yourself and towards him. I get the idea you confuse each other.

I want him but I want him to open up and admit his true feelings. He's scared because we had communication issues and he doesn't want us to go back to that. But when I try to be direct and communicate, he runs away. When I am vulnerable with him, he receives it but doesn't open up emotionally in return.

He's very confusing. This talk was supposed to be some sort of closure and he only came around to us talking after I gave up and tired of him avoiding and tip toeing around it. He knows where I stand. I told him I still have feelings and don't want him leading me on if he still doesn't know what he wants. He apologized and said he'll "try" not to but denied EVERYTHING our friends told me. I know they're NOT lying at all. So I told him, I feel like you're not being honest. He insisted. I was so turned off and upset that I made the decision to cut ties which I've done. Saw him at work the next day and he was so upset and pacing outside during break looked like he wanted to cry when he saw me. I just still feel like stuff is unfinished but I tried my best to get some closure. Sigh

They lie about everything

Update: saw him at work today and ignored him. Told a mutual friend last week I started dating other ppl again. Then at the end of my shift a friend tells me she saw my ex walking with another girl. I later go to our local bar by work to wait for my friends(he overheard my friend/coworker saying we would be there) and when I get there, he's at the bar with the girl alone talking. I sit alone and have a drink then tell my friends to meet me elsewhere. As soon as I get up to close my tab and he sees me put my coat on, he goes outside. So I walk out, ignore him again, and he says "bye" as I'm leaving. Worst part is, his birthday was at 12 about 3 minutes before I left. What's the point of him doing this. I feel as though he was trying to get a reaction out of me being that he's never done this before in front of me. Also the last attempt he made to get me jealous I asked him to talk and clear things up, so maybe he feels he blew that chance and expects me to do so again?? He admitted later to knowing his actions would make me upset. But after apologizing to me, telling me he would try not to lead me on anymore, why would he now try to do stuff to hurt me? I'm super hurt and not sure if I should keep ignoring him as I have been. Most likely gonna be forced to see him tomorrow as well. So sad and stressed.

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Posted by Libranebulagirl
Update: saw him at work today and ignored him. Told a mutual friend last week I started dating other ppl again. Then at the end of my shift a friend tells me she saw my ex walking with another girl. I later go to our local bar by work to wait for my friends(he overheard my friend/coworker saying we would be there) and when I get there, he's at the bar with the girl alone talking. I sit alone and have a drink then tell my friends to meet me elsewhere. As soon as I get up to close my tab and he sees me put my coat on, he goes outside. So I walk out, ignore him again, and he says "bye" as I'm leaving. Worst part is, his birthday was at 12 about 3 minutes before I left. What's the point of him doing this. I feel as though he was trying to get a reaction out of me being that he's never done this before in front of me. Also the last attempt he made to get me jealous I asked him to talk and clear things up, so maybe he feels he blew that chance and expects me to do so again?? He admitted later to knowing his actions would make me upset. But after apologizing to me, telling me he would try not to lead me on anymore, why would he now try to do stuff to hurt me? I'm super hurt and not sure if I should keep ignoring him as I have been. Most likely gonna be forced to see him tomorrow as well. So sad and stressed.

This guy seems toxic.

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Wanted so badly to believe he isn't, but after trying so hard to be vulnerable with him despite his confusing behavior, opening up to him about being sexually assaulted when I found out he thought I just wasn't "into" him sexually, and told him it's hard for me to move on from him when he sends mixed signals and I'd like him to stop. He does something like this. I know it was purposely. Maybe he thought he was helping me move on by seeing him with someone else

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Posted by Libranebulagirl

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Posted by Libranebulagirl
Update: saw him at work today and ignored him. Told a mutual friend last week I started dating other ppl again. Then at the end of my shift a friend tells me she saw my ex walking with another girl. I later go to our local bar by work to wait for my friends(he overheard my friend/coworker saying we would be there) and when I get there, he's at the bar with the girl alone talking. I sit alone and have a drink then tell my friends to meet me elsewhere. As soon as I get up to close my tab and he sees me put my coat on, he goes outside. So I walk out, ignore him again, and he says "bye" as I'm leaving. Worst part is, his birthday was at 12 about 3 minutes before I left. What's the point of him doing this. I feel as though he was trying to get a reaction out of me being that he's never done this before in front of me. Also the last attempt he made to get me jealous I asked him to talk and clear things up, so maybe he feels he blew that chance and expects me to do so again?? He admitted later to knowing his actions would make me upset. But after apologizing to me, telling me he would try not to lead me on anymore, why would he now try to do stuff to hurt me? I'm super hurt and not sure if I should keep ignoring him as I have been. Most likely gonna be forced to see him tomorrow as well. So sad and stressed.

This guy seems toxic.

Wanted so badly to believe he isn't, but after trying so hard to be vulnerable with him despite his confusing behavior, opening up to him about being sexually assaulted when I found out he thought I just wasn't "into" him sexually, and told him it's hard for me to move on from him when he sends mixed signals and I'd like him to stop. He does something like this. I know it was purposely. Maybe he thought he was helping me move on by seeing him with someone else

Nah, he wasn't helping you.

Focus on moving on and taking that experience as something positive. Dont let it make it harder for you to be vulnerable and to open up in your future relationships!

Wish you luck and love.

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Thank you, truly appreciate this response. I feel much better. I guess there is nothing left I can do on my end to help us be civil and I will have to cut him out of my life.