Earthy vs dreamer

Hello my lil dreamers. I just wanted to ask a random question and try to get some understanding or insight in your world. I have a pisces female friend and she does extreme things when it comes to love. For the past year she was dating this guy who is also my friend(sag) and she follows him EVERYWHERE!! They never became exclusive but she pack all her things away and transferred her job to the city where he resides in. She has children and she took them out of school as well. Anytime he goes on vacation so pops up where ever he is. The major thing is he told her that he doesn't want to communicate with her anymore but she still pops up at his mom house or goes to his house uninvited. I dnt want to be harsh to her but I want her to just let it go. I dnt like watching ppl make a fool of themselves. I dnt understand how u can still be selfless and willing to make a person ur #1 even after they have disrespect u numerous times. I was hoping this is just how she is but I have known a few other pisces who act like this. Even my ex's ex gf was a pisces and she even moved from Cali to louisiana with nothing just to follow him and he has told her she is nothing to him but she still hangs with his fam and befriend his kid mom just so she can stay in the loop with him. My taurus mind just don't understand this behavior

Posted by MsFisk
Oh, I should point out that there's a good chance she wont listen to you.

Okay. I see. I feel like I'm about to become disappointed.

I feel as though situations like this usually do not end well when addressed. The person likely does not have the same values or views as you and many others and may get defensive or mean if the subject is brought up. I still agree with bringing the topic up - I would do the same. But, sometimes people don't listen and they'll continue to make mistakes even after they've been burned. I suppose the most important thing is to make sure you address the issue correctly, as MsFisk has already said.

Posted by Honeybunniie
Hello my lil dreamers. I just wanted to ask a random question and try to get some understanding or insight in your world. I have a pisces female friend and she does extreme things when it comes to love. For the past year she was dating this guy who is also my friend(sag) and she follows him EVERYWHERE!! They never became exclusive but she pack all her things away and transferred her job to the city where he resides in. She has children and she took them out of school as well. Anytime he goes on vacation so pops up where ever he is. The major thing is he told her that he doesn't want to communicate with her anymore but she still pops up at his mom house or goes to his house uninvited. I dnt want to be harsh to her but I want her to just let it go. I dnt like watching ppl make a fool of themselves. I dnt understand how u can still be selfless and willing to make a person ur #1 even after they have disrespect u numerous times. I was hoping this is just how she is but I have known a few other pisces who act like this. Even my ex's ex gf was a pisces and she even moved from Cali to louisiana with nothing just to follow him and he has told her she is nothing to him but she still hangs with his fam and befriend his kid mom just so she can stay in the loop with him. My taurus mind just don't understand this behavior

there is a possibility the pisces in questio might be doing that in order to "get even", like they don't accept to be dumped so they do all the can to reconquer the person enough so that they can be the one doing the dumping, even if themselves aren't even conscious of it. Pisces can be very vindictive like that.
What these women are doing is just trying to sabotage the guys' lives even subconsciously, that's what happen when selflessness is used for harming other rather than doing good.

Some cncers and pisces have relly low self esteems. In these cases there really osn nythin you can do. The rest of u hve alot of self respect.
The est yu cn do is not tell her but distract her from it wih soehig else. much like a todler...or explain how it affecrin he kids n how its affectin him and mkig him feel bad n uncomfortable.

Posted by SuperMissMan
Some cncers and pisces have relly low self esteems. In these cases there really osn nythin you can do. The rest of u hve alot of self respect.
The est yu cn do is not tell her but distract her from it wih soehig else. much like a todler...or explain how it affecrin he kids n how its affectin him and mkig him feel bad n uncomfortable.

Whatever you're typing on is AWFUL...I swear my head be hurting when I read your posts.

She's not telling you the whole story and she's comfortable with it. There's more to what's going on between them and as the relationship outsider, it's better for your friendship if you remember that when two people interact, you don't know the whole story. I'm not saying that you don't know what you're talking about, but I'm just telling you what I do know about these type of things as a Pisces woman. Now, I've never gone to that extreme, but I have done things in/for relationships that my family and friends have dropped jaws over. However, they didn't know the whole story. For instance, with my ex, when our relationship was on the brink of break, I handed him his share of the rent and two nights of a hotel stay so that he could decide whether he wanted to stay or leave. His claim was that he COULDN'T go anywhere and was held hostage to the situation (he created the toxic environment) so I needed to chill in response to his BS. I handed him the money in cash and said, "If you want to leave, here are your resources, but you don't get to pull BS and then tell me to chill." He took the money and left. Now, most people would be like, "Damn...that was STUPID". I knew that he would come back and when he did, I actually got double that amount back from him before we broke up for good. Being a Pisces, it's not that I have a low self esteem, I just don't feel the need to go around bragging about how I had a plan and knew I could get the money back, yada yada yada...that's just petty and what really went on is strictly between him and I. However, until this very day my family members and close friends who know that I gave him this cash don't know that I got it back double. Everything that goes on is none of their business. They're fortunate to know anything at all about the situation in the FIRST place.

Please be a good friend and be just that...HER friend and not involve yourself with her relationship choices.

Another scenario...an Aries friend went all crazy, because she felt like this Taurus guy was treating me like an escort. She was angry, because she felt like all he had to do was spend his money on me, wine and dine me, give me good sex and I thought he was the MAN. Well, he is a good guy. What she doesn't know is that he explained to me in depth how the last relationship love almost killed him upon break up. Yes, he admitted that he cheated on her, but when she broke up with him, he literally tried to hang himself and went through months of counseling in order to stabilize. I understand/understood that. So, I was careful with him and treated him a little differently. I have my boundaries, but I understand why he wouldn't just commit/jump into a relationship with me after seeing each other month after month. When I couldn't take being held at arms length anymore, I met someone else and told the Taurus that I needed to leave town for a couple of months, but would look him up when I got back. Again...there are just things that those two people are aware of and no one else is. I can go on and on and on with these type of severe/extreme scenarios that looked like something else to the outsider, but I'll stop here. lol