Escapist tendencies

The Piscean men I've talked to seem to live in a bubble. My bro is one, and we are cool, but I can't help but notice how he goes into his own dream world, where the girl he likes actually likes him back. She's been taking advantage of him. It took him quite a while to realize it, and he still finds excuses at times. He'll concur then later go back to the girl, hoping she'll come around. It seems to me that the Piscean guys I've known prefer to fantasize and when faced with reality, they go "fishing". I know yet another Piscean guy who likes having options; he loses interest if things settle down. They like the whole mystery/challenge bit as these prompt their imagination.

To give a recent example, my Piscean ex made empty promises to me. What he said and how he behaved clashed. He told me before we met in person (we met online first) that he was not looking for a good time. Apparently he was in for the long haul. I remember telling him that we should see how things go first, after we meet, and also after I'm back. It was a long distance thing. Sigh. I was being practical about it but then, I got pulled in, and he made me dream too. Funny how when we had that conversation, he stopped cam on me and told me I was not his type of girl because he wanted long term. All I said at the time was "we cannot force such things". I wanted long term too, but I was being cautious. Funnily enough, we met, we had a great time, we got physical, and then he was less and less available once I was back. I took it to mean he played me. Before meeting, we agreed that if things went fine, we would find a way to make things work. I find it very pathetic that he couldn't confront me at all about it. He pulled out the "let's be friends" bullshit to me. I was also told by him that it was unfair to me because he's busy (He's a flight medic in the military). He was busy before we met too, but he made time... What's one text message to let me know what's up...

So, I didn't buy any of that. It took him a whole month of going away and coming back to finally give me that bullshit excuse of why we should be friends instead. Let me just say I saw through the whole thing, and later just blocked him and cut any ties I had with him. All the issues that might crop up with this kind of long distance relationship...I brought those up before we met. We discussed those... After dealing with a few Piscean men out there, it made me wonder. Can they actually follow through?

Hey, thanks for the reply. As for the sex, if it were not so good, I wonder how we ended up doing it every night. Just cause? Would you personally keep having sex with someone if it weren't that great, because she happens to be around? Just wondering.

Are you a dude, dressed like a girl?

Um, very funny, not? Anything constructive to say?

Posted by Dammit45
That is a good point Sandee, I think he was milking the situation if he did stick with it that long, but with my most recent ex, i did have 2 or 3 sexual encounters before i left, and they were within the week. Maybe he was just after something physical?

That's what I think too, but part of me wanted to see him under a better light; all i can say is that he is good at acting (the whole "I'm not in for a good time", inquiring about my family, etc). It's how he ended things that got me wondering, how he told me it was unfair to me, him being busy, etc. However, all this was discussed prior to meeting. Hence, why I was wondering why he couldn't confront me earlier, either there on the spot or right after I came back. It took him a whole month of disappearing and reappearing, being hot and cold and what have you to finally tell me this. Being a Cancer, with Capricorn rising, I do not like to waste my and his time this way. The problem is he didn't want to come off as a player, and thus, fed me that. I could pick on the lie. Trying to let me off easy? Why try to pass for a good guy? He should just have vanished...cut ties, and be unavailable. Heck, I'd prefer a blunt "I cannot see myself with you in the long run." to what he told me. Do Piscean men lie, so as not to hurt the other person's feelings? My bro told me he finds it hard to be direct, and same with a few other Piscean men I've talked to. I was close to ending it myself as it is, and I believe he was waiting for me to do it, but I was being patient, giving him time, just in case he needed to be on his own a bit. He wanted us to stay friends, but I decided to part ways. I have had breakups before, but this guy confused the hell out of me with his hot and cold behavior (texting me in the middle of the night, that's post-meeting too, then disappearing, then reappearing, etc).

Posted by sandee


So, I didn't buy any of that. It took him a whole month of going away and coming back to finally give me that bullshit excuse of why we should be friends instead. Let me just say I saw through the whole thing, and later just blocked him and cut any ties I had with him. All the issues that might crop up with this kind of long distance relationship...I brought those up before we met. We discussed those... After dealing with a few Piscean men out there, it made me wonder. Can they actually follow through?

I follow through with no problems... so let me ask you how do you know for sure he was playing you? What did you see through? I personally tell the truth to the women I'm with, even with a two-faced moon (gemini). Maybe he doesn't give a shit about you.

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Posted by sandee


So, I didn't buy any of that. It took him a whole month of going away and coming back to finally give me that bullshit excuse of why we should be friends instead. Let me just say I saw through the whole thing, and later just blocked him and cut any ties I had with him. All the issues that might crop up with this kind of long distance relationship...I brought those up before we met. We discussed those... After dealing with a few Piscean men out there, it made me wonder. Can they actually follow through?

I follow through with no problems... so let me ask you how do you know for sure he was playing you? What did you see through? I personally tell the truth to the women I'm with, even with a two-faced moon (gemini). Maybe he doesn't give a shit about you.

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I can tell due to how he said one thing, but acted differently. Empty promises.

See, if he didn't give a shit about me, why not just act like it? I prefer bluntness in action or words myself.

Posted by phooey
true - complete escapists. maybe he just wasnt that into u and probably didnt wanna come out and say it because he chickened out and didnt want to be seen like an asshole (and/or maybe felt bad for u). just a quick warning abt pisces men (im one + from what ive seen) - if they feel that youre not their ideal mate, they will drop u sooner or later. sadly their expectations are too high. yet they flirt whenever and with who ever possible and lead them on. oh and no, if u think the guys are bad, pisces women are far worse in that respect. shell make practically any man believe that he is the only one in her life, intentionally or not. but thats just because we like all that romance and we seek the ultimate experience all the time, cant help it. ofcourse, if we find that special 1 person then we stick like glue... or thats what i believe.

what sign are u?

Phooey, exactly! What I needed to hear from him: "I'm not that into you". I prefer that to the hot and cold attitude he gave me. I know about the high expectations too. My bro is a Pisces! He has very high expectations when it comes to women. That is fine in my books. I mean, why not? I respect that. However, my ex made me think we had something going before, while I was with him also, and after we left, till he started acting shady. The coming and going got on my nerves. Another piscean friend of mine admitted that he does look for something closer to his ideals -- as close to perfect as he can get.

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what sign are u?

I'm a Cancer, with a Capricorn rising and Moon. 🙂

Posted by P-Angel
Are you a dude, dressed like a girl?

Wow... what a bitch! Especially when no one can see what you look like.

Seriously .... are you a dude?

Posted by P-Angel
Seriously .... are you a dude?

Seriously... are you daft? Unless you have anything to add to the topic instead of trolling the thread with ad hominem attacks, I will resort to ignore next. 🙂

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Posted by sandee

I'm a Cancer, with a Capricorn rising and Moon. 🙂

in that case youre probably more capri than cancer... im capri rising too luckily. from what ive read here on dxp - 'tseems that capri guys and pis girls are very compatible but it isnt quite the same the other way around. ud def do well with a scorp or taurus/capri if not pisces.

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Yeah, I am able to connect and get along real well with Capris! I've yet to date one though. I have a lot of Capri friends. So far, I've been with a Leo (Maybe it's that Venus in Leo? I tend to attract Leos), Scorpio, and recently Pisces...

So, by you not answering says that you are male and ashamed to say "yes".


What's up with that?

Posted by P-Angel
So, by you not answering says that you are male and ashamed to say "yes".


What's up with that?

I should ignore; you are just trolling, but let me ask you something first.

Do menopausal or post-menopausal women, like you (51), start picking on younger women because they have nothing exciting happening in their lives? Are you so bored that you have to pick on me instead of saying anything worthy? You and I both know that this is an ego game you're playing.

For a 51 year old female (if that is really your age), you are really immature.

Posted by P-Angel
Are you a dude, dressed like a girl?

HA!

i was thinking the same thing about another pisces member when i looked at her avatar but uhm...yea

And still you don't answer the question.


And then you have the fools who make the implication that you look like a dude, by suggesting the absense of my pic may ALSO look masculine.


The number of idiots in the world is very large ....


So, why are you embarrassed of yourself?

Look at PP, he's not embarrassed ... wtf is your issue?

Pesca, you love making an ass out of yourself, don't you?


Just because you haven't seen me, doesn't mean others haven't ... it appears to me that this making an ass out of yourself by means of talking before thinking is something you do often.


You might want to have that checked out.

What is more likely the truth here ... he realized you had balls, and decided he'd rather stick with women and so broke it off.

to you, since you are in obvious denial .. you think there's some hidden issue here with him .. in reality, it's you.


Dude, if you're gonna try and date men, while being in drag .. you have to tell them BEFORE they reach between your legs.


geeesh

lol .. is that right, PP?

Makes sense now why she's got her knickers up over Sandee being a dude in drag .. it's because she's also masculine.


hahahahahaha

Wow, P-angel. You have no life. I was right. I didn't even bother reading your other posts. I read the one reply after I posted last and I realized you have a lot of time to waste. I have got nothing to hide. Reason I never answered you is because I am not playing by your lame game. You're just trying to harass and taunt. You can try that on someone else. I don't care who's seen your pics or whatever. I didn't come here to have my appearance rated/judged, but for for insight from other posters regarding the situation.

Anyway, my ex contacted me, and we talked things out. He wanted us to keep being friends, etc. Bah. I've pretty much moved on. Thanks to those who actually gave decent replies. Besides, I've got another guy interested in me, and so far, so good. 🙂

She just likes to mess with Cancers, just don't give her fuel.

Lol, okay. I'll keep that in mind.