could you handle a open relationship??

i think the world would be such a better place if people was more accepting of it..

too bad most women are too insecure thou..

lets talk about it

I don't think it's about insecurity. It's about mutual reciprocation. I'm SURE there are women who love open relationships. Few and far between maybe. But it doesn't mean the women that aren't open to it are insecure. Insecure would be saying "Ok let's have an open relationship" and then creating drama from then on out due to the agreed upon circumstances. Knowing that they don't want an open relationship and standing by it, is anything but insecure.

If a woman isn't able to 'give' an open relationship, why would she want to 'receive' an open relationship.

Conclusion: Reason #267 why men and women were never meant to work.

"Knowing that they don't want an open relationship and standing by it, is anything but insecure."

^ okay, but what is the reason WHY they don't want an open relationship??

Absolutely not. It is honoring someone with my care, my time, my body. And I fully expect the same in return. It has nothing to do with insecurity, and everything to do with self respect and demanding that someone is mine alone. Because I am certainly theirs. An open relationship isn't one at all. If you'd like that remain single and shag whomever you please.

If you want to stir the porridge after everyone else has had a go...that's your choice.

General consensus here and most places are for fidelity!

But there are women out there that share your view, you just have to find them...try swingers parties. But good luck on that cos one night while my friends and I were out there was a national swingers convention in town and they had to walk past us to get to and from their venue and hotel rooms and there are some NASTY looking peeps!!!!! lol

Most fun we ever had watching & laughing as they walked around half naked, going in with one and walking out with another for a romp!!!!

LOL ^ I think I'd need another drink to blur my vision properly.

I'm a man and even I wouldn't want an open relationship. What kind of a man lets others touch his girlfriend??

^ Exactly.

Posted by enfant_terrible
I'm a man and even I wouldn't want an open relationship. What kind of a man lets others touch his girlfriend??

And what kind of a woman lets others touch her man?

Not this one, he's mine god dammit mine!

😛

^ Oh am I feeling that one. Mine, mine, mine, mine, MINE. Oh yes, did I mention? MINE. Now STEP, why? Cos he's MINE. And he's bringing that on home to Momma ( Oh Momma Mia! ) and NO OTHER, cos that is exactly what *I* am doing. I'm his, his, his, his, and oh yes, HIS. And there ain't no one else, so bounce. No, you do not see a ring on this finger, you see his arms round my heart, and there's no more room for ya. So play on playa, and keep on boogying down the road for an easier bit of female. I take no prisoners save one. 😛

Haha VB yep that's how it is.

Besides, he's not likely to have the energy to even think about entertaining anyone else. 😉

Damned right he won't. 😉

To be honest... I played with the idea when things were going down, down hill with my Aqua ex. I wasn't getting what I needed, but didn't really want to end the relationship because i'm a crab and letting go is like detaching a body part. I have a few friends who live this way so I was 'open' to considering it.

Turns out, it's only something I could do if I'm completely emotionally unattached to my partner. That's not really an open relationship... that's dragging out a dead one. So I cut the ties and we went our separate ways. If I'm in love with someone, there's no way in hell I can share.

My question to you Damen is... a 'open relationship' must be a two way street. You may want to get physical with other women... but how will you feel about YOUR woman being with other guys?

Interesting topic...

Exactly. 🙂

Posted by aPiscesPrincess

I wouldn't want an open relationship, but it doesn't have anything to do with being insecure. To me it's more a matter of respect. I think a guy respects me more if he cares about me enough to only want me, just like it means I have a lot more respect for him if I only want him and don't want any other guy.

But I guess if someone just wants a sexual relationship and they don't want anything serious, then whatever, they can do what they want.

why do women equate "having sex" with "respect" thou??

is it impossible for a man to TRULY love their girlfriend and still have sex with another woman??..and vice versa?

and i notice some of you seem to want to completely OWN your spouse..smh

you don't own the person your with..his prick is attached to his body and your cooch is attached to yours..in an open relationship, i think as long as the couple are secure with each others love, then something as meaningless as sex wouldn't affect them..

If I wanted to be in a "not" relationship, I would have just stayed single and continued dating.

Posted by shellshocker

My question to you Damen is... a 'open relationship' must be a two way street. You may want to get physical with other women... but how will you feel about YOUR woman being with other guys?

Interesting topic...

well, the woman im with right now would NEVER...EVER,EVER,EVER, be cool with an open relationship(cancer too btw), plus i've been with her for awhile now so i know i wouldn't feel right having that type of relationship with her suddenly..

but if we broke up, and i met a woman that i grew to care about on a spiritual and mental level, and she was down for that type of relationship?? then yes i would do it and be fine with it..

i also think that if she was connected to me on a deep level like that, then i probably wouldn't be out and about having sex with other women as much as i think i would anyway..

Posted by aPiscesPrincess

I think for most women sex is more meaningful for us than it is for men. Because we are literally allowing him inside our body. And I would want him to respect and appreciate me first for me to allow him inside my body like that. And vice versa, I need to appreciate and have respect for him too.

I don't know if it's possible for a guy to truly love his gf if he has sex with another woman.. because he's risking bringing std's back to her, and risking the chance of getting another woman besides his gf pregnant. And if he truly loves her to me it seems like he wouldn't want to take those chances.

Would you care if your gf who you truly love was having sex with another guy though? Especially because women are usually more emotional about sex and she might start having strong feelings for the other guy she's having sex with. She might end up falling in love with the other guy.

i don't think most women get that deep about sex as you may think..i think women just have been programmed to believe that they're whores if they sleep around..which is true but still, if you want to just have sex with some guy then you should..and a lot of you do it anyway..

and as long as a man is having SAFE sex, then i really don't see how he's disrespecting his spouse..because i equate "just having sex" to "getting a body message" honestly..both of'em require physical contact,is pleasureable and theirs no emotional attachment..why does is become an issue just becuz i put my penis inside this woman?

and im not trying to brag, but im very secure about what i do sexually, so i really doubt that she would leave me based off of sex only..

"is it impossible for a man to TRULY love their girlfriend and still have sex with another woman??..and vice versa?"

of course this isn't impossible, people do it all the time... still pine away over ex's, sleep with nameless faces to forget someone...
Sex without emotion is everywhere - even in 'committed' relationships.

The peeps I know with open relationships have been together for a loonngg time and they are not going anywhere. They are committed to each other. I think you have to be REALLY, REALLY secure in your relationship to go this route. That's why I thought it could work with my ex, i knew he wasn't going anywhere. (still can't really get rid of the man, haha!)

You open up the possibility of becoming emotionally attached to someone else in this kind of relationship and I think this is the most difficult part to deal with. The 'what-if' factor could play on the most confident person's psyche.

You'd also have to triple the reassurance with each other. "Don't worry baby... no one else could ever take your place" over and over and over again.
Just thinking about the emotional input required is making me tired...

"i don't think most women get that deep about sex as you may think..i think women just have been programmed to believe that they're whores if they sleep around..which is true but still"

To me, a ho is a ho is a ho. Male or female. I don't want a cock in me that has been in more pussy than my Gyno's speculum. That's disgusting! I have standards, and I ain't gonna apologize for it. If you and your woman don't mind making the town bicycle your wife/husband, that's your business. You're gonna find that this is not a very large pool of people, however.

"and as long as a man is having SAFE sex, then i really don't see how he's disrespecting his spouse"

Because if she's his spouse, then he has taken a vow to be faithful to her FORSAKING ALL OTHERS. That used to mean something.

I think the biggest killer of long-term relationships is living together... or marriage! Knowing everything and sharing everything is not a good way to keep the love alive, imo. may not work so well if you want kids and family and all that 'traditional dream' bull... i just don't buy into that stuff.

I know this couple who have been together for over 10 years. The lived together for maybe 2 years. He cheated. They got their own places and they have been together and faithful to each other ever since. This might not work for everyone but it aloud them to be their own individual selves within a relationship.

I know i probably won't live with a man again until i'm old and wrinkley and can't wipe my own butt.

Even then...i'd rather have a roommate.

For the most part, women are extremely insecure about their own value if they don't feel loved.

They get this feeling of being loved and being special by their man (partner).

And you are right about the insecurity .. however, again, it's not about open relationships .. it's about feeling like their man loves them.

Women HAVE to be loved ...... period.

So, if their man loved them, and only them, then they could probably handle a fuck around once in a while, even if they are in here now screaming about it ...... because I know more women who have kept thier man after he has cheated, then I do women who tossed the man after his discretion.

She would ask ... do you love her?

Love her? .. he comments ... it was just a fuck, I don't even know her name.

Her reply .... what do you want for supper.

Posted by Sea Siren
"i don't think most women get that deep about sex as you may think..i think women just have been programmed to believe that they're whores if they sleep around..which is true but still"

To me, a ho is a ho is a ho. Male or female. I don't want a cock in me that has been in more pussy than my Gyno's speculum. That's disgusting! I have standards, and I ain't gonna apologize for it. If you and your woman don't mind making the town bicycle your wife/husband, that's your business. You're gonna find that this is not a very large pool of people, however.

"and as long as a man is having SAFE sex, then i really don't see how he's disrespecting his spouse"

Because if she's his spouse, then he has taken a vow to be faithful to her FORSAKING ALL OTHERS. That used to mean something.

Slam dunk.

Hey Damien...lets say youve got this great connection with some woman and you agree to an open relationship, dont you think there is a greater chance that your relationship could be threatened? Just being physically close to someone else could easily breed emotional intimacy.

Youd be playing with fire, in my opinion.

Posted by Shadows
Hey Damien...lets say youve got this great connection with some woman and you agree to an open relationship, dont you think there is a greater chance that your relationship could be threatened? Just being physically close to someone else could easily breed emotional intimacy.

Youd be playing with fire, in my opinion.

yes i believe you are taking a big chance with an open relationship, but you're also taking a chance with falling in love with someone,period..

and 40% of people who are in these non open relationships end up divorcing anyway..and usually its over infidelity..

a lot of these marriages could've been avoided if the spouse was more upfront about wanting to "just have sex" with another person instead of going thru all that bullshit

Posted by P-Angel

She would ask ... do you love her?

Love her? .. he comments ... it was just a fuck, I don't even know her name.

Her reply .... what do you want for supper.

lol..

thats a real woman

I think there are many reasons people stray. And for whatever reason i feel like 'just sex' is actually the least of it.

Posted by P-Angel
For the most part, women are extremely insecure about their own value if they don't feel loved.

They get this feeling of being loved and being special by their man (partner).

And you are right about the insecurity .. however, again, it's not about open relationships .. it's about feeling like their man loves them.

Women HAVE to be loved ...... period.

So, if their man loved them, and only them, then they could probably handle a fuck around once in a while, even if they are in here now screaming about it ...... because I know more women who have kept thier man after he has cheated, then I do women who tossed the man after his discretion.

She would ask ... do you love her?

Love her? .. he comments ... it was just a fuck, I don't even know her name.

Her reply .... what do you want for supper.

Word.

Posted by aPiscesPrincess

see..thats another thing i don't understand about women..why would you have "revenge sex"??

what if the sex you have with that person is horrible? would you still feel like it was worth it?

sex should only be done for pleasure, not pain..unless you're into that sadistic stuff