Feel abandoned

I am a Scorpio and he is a Pisces (from the US). We met a year and a half ago on my last week in Indonesia. I had quit my job to return home. Having been in this city for a year and although we hang out at the same places, we never met. One week before i was due to leave we met. We felt an instant connection and fell in love very quickly. When i finally went home to Malaysia, he visited every month, and finally, i made that decision to move back to Indonesia 3 months later to be with him.

We had a great life together in the beginning - built a home, adopted our cats etc. then his drinking habits became intolerable. He was chasing the drinks rather than enjoying them. This is the only problem we had which we had many arguments about. Other than that, no other big issues except that he was getting very sick and depressive of his work place and Indonesia and decided that he wanted to move back home to the US.

He is now back in the US for a holiday to get a clear head and now, decided that his decision is final, he wants to move back home, but not take me with him, saying that the past few months have not been great between us and that he realised he had not treated me right, from all our arguments and his drinking.

I feel horrible - how could i have moved back to be with him, build a home together, adopt our cats, and think that this is the one for me, and within a matter of a month, his drastic decision to move home, to break up, to leave us all.

When we met, he was so sweet, all the text messages were always about how much he loves me, and one month ago, he stopped telling me that he loves me. But he continued being loving, and cuddled me as usual all the time, texted me to ask what i was doing, what we were going to do after work, and now he is back home, his decision is made, and i don't hear from him anymore.

I am getting stronger by the day, and he is due back from his holiday over the next couple of days. We are still living in the same house and i dont know how i will feel when i see him. I was feeling so hurt and so lost that i didnt even want to live anymore, but strong as i am , i think i am on recovery stage, but when he comes back, i will probably fall back to the ultimate phrase of hurt and disappointment again.

Can someone please advise why a Pisces could do something like this - have it all and then over night, break it all down. 😢

Ian is right... the guy wasn't happy. The drinking back to back is a clear sign of this. I dunno what the root cause of it was but him being in the US has helped him. It's good he still in contact with you. I dunno if that means he wants to work it out or just remain friends. He could of been unhappy for a plethra of reasons or multiple reasons but it just seems he had a lot to deal with.

I'm sorry to hear about your plight.

"I was feeling so hurt and so lost that i didnt even want to live anymore, but strong as i am , i think i am on recovery stage, but when he comes back, i will probably fall back to the ultimate phrase of hurt and disappointment again.

Lostscorp,

My heart is breaking for you. Some of this sounds like typical Pisces behavior...initially smothering with affection and compliments. It wanes as if the "new" aspect of you has lost it's luster.

It's not you it's him. Whatever you do...make sure you look amazing and busy...don't make yourself too available or burden him with your emotions (how we handle our emotions is really a reflection of us). If it's meant to be...it will.

Take lots of time to focus on you...be a friend to your Pisces and be bigger than he has been to you. I don't think overall they are bad guys, just a bit complex.

Typically Scorpios and Pisces are very complimentary of one another. If he ultimately loses you...it's his lost. Though he may never admit it, he will recognize the loss in time.

Posted by lostscorpio

We felt an instant connection and fell in love very quickly.

i made that decision to move back to Indonesia 3 months later to be with him.

but when he comes back, i will probably fall back to the ultimate phrase of hurt and disappointment again.

Can someone please advise why a Pisces could do something like this - have it all and then over night, break it all down.

Correction: YOU fell in love very quickly. If he were in love with you then his actions would represent that. You deluded yourself, you still do.

You say that you made the decision to move back to be with him. You didn't say that he made the decision, or was a part of that decision. You say it now that I've pointed it out to save face ... but the fact is, when you pulled this out of your mind, you said that YOU made the decision to move to be with him.

That's pretty pushy. Any guy, regardless of sign would likely have a similar reaction to a woman who has fallen in love with him quickly, and then moves herself to be with him .... all the while, thinking that a more serious relationship is suppose to happen.

Your situation is typical, and describes 99% of the females problems in here. The scenery has changed, but, the plot remains the same = you chased a man to whom didn't love you, and you deluded yourself into thinking he did because you wanted him to.

Posted by ninalove

Whatever you do...make sure you look amazing ...

What rubbish. When all else fails, tap into a persons ego to make them feel better, as if that doesn't aid in deluding the person even further.

Posted by ninalove

If he ultimately loses you...it's his lost. Though he may never admit it, he will recognize the loss in time.

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You are nothing but an ego, then. What the hell kind of Pisces is nothing but ego, is my question.

No, it's not his loss .. it's his gain. It would be his loss if she left him while he still wanted her.

She is the one wanting him, while he left, so she is the one experiencing a loss.


jesus christ .... people are so fucking backwards. I guess due to that ego.

Typical Pices behavior, Im sorry you are hurting, he is an ASS

Posted by piranhaparadiise
He may seem like a jerk but he is trying to save himself...have you ever felt the lowest of low ?? where there is nothing but darkness and no alternative ? then I don't see him as a jerk I see him as trying to survive...sure it may seem selfish but if he doesn't save how he feels he would end up suicidal I can guarantee that...

Yep.

Hmm ians right he was unhappy. When we are unhappy booze or any distraction really will do. Its really difficult to fight with us. Youve got to pick and choose your fights and words carefully. No answers are going to be good answers here im afraid. Your better off ignoring him and paying him no mind. As hard as it sounds it will make sense eventually.