help with pisces friend...being ignored

my very good pisces friend has done so many wonderful things for me. i did something very irresponsible and hurt her. she was worried for my safety and thought maybe something terrible had happened to me. well looking back i see my irresponsibility many times and my selfishness too. but she never said anything to me about any of that...its just a feeling i have.

i apologized and she sent me an email and said she needed some space but lets get together the following week. the beginning of that week i texted her a friendly hello and she never responded. i'm a cancer...i didn't know what to do so i backed off. we are friends on facebook and i have been trying to be upbeat on there but also reflective about my choices in life. i always write a lot of inspirational or philosophical quotes. i am trying to continue as normal but i miss her very much. this last week i just took a break from facebook altogether. its the only way we have contact right now so it feels overly important at the moment. and i see she is spending time with other friends and seems happy. i sent her an email today and asked her to get together. i tried to positive but i am hurting inside. i haven't heard back...not sure if i will.

does she just need more space? i can do that. would she just end a friendship by ignoring me forever? it seems crazy but i guess its possible. i wrote her a long email pouring my heart out about my life right now and the reasons i did the things that i did. but i just couldn't send it. i thought maybe it would upset her. anyway, i guess i put myself out there. all i can do is sit back and let her come around. i even considered sending a gift or card to her. any word from the pisces out there about what she might be feeling and what i can do? thanks.

thanks piranha. wow thats a long time to forgive but i guess all i can do is wait it out. i am loyal and i didn't lie. i just made some stupid choices. friends are so valuable, i can't imagine letting something like this be tarnished and stay tarnished. i'd like to polish it up and move on. we all make mistakes. and i never intended to hurt anyone who cares about me. i will stay quietly in touch as i don't want to be cut off.

I just keep thinking about a card she gave me that said she loved me and don't ever forget that.

Love is forgiveness. And we can never trust 100% anyone but ourselves. Losing in faith in someone permanently seems so tragic. I didnt cheat with her man or talk about her behind her back.

I don't want to push her. I know in my heart I'm a good friend. Loyal to the end. I can only hope she realizes this. It would be a great loss for both of us.

Update! I heard from her and she was very nice 🙂 funny too because I had a dream we were running through a field holding hands haha not kidding.

Hey, I have a similar story, But with a twist. Well, I have a friend that's a Pisces. I'm a Scorpio girl. I have not seen her in many years. We finally reconnected. When we first reconnected she called me all the time' Morning, noon, and night. We had so much to catching up to do, that it was ok with me for her to call that often. When we reconnected was the week of my BD, so she asked me to come see her which was out of town. I agreed with no problem. The first day we talked she suggested that we should move in together. I said, well I'm thinking about moving so "MAYBE". But we hadn't seen each other in about 20years, so that was strange for me. Once, in the middle of me telling her stories about my past, she cut me off and asked me if I looked at her "Like a friend, like a woman, or like a sister?" caught me off guard. At first I thought it was because I had told her that had been with women b4. I felt highly offended because I hadn't seen her in 20 yrs. and still she think I want her.

When I was going to visit her, I asked about any near hotels and she suggested a stayed with her. I asked if she had a spare room, and she said NO you can sleep in the same bed with me. BUT WE HADN'T SEEN EACHOTHER IN SO LONG.....Anyway, I went to visit her I absolutely hated it. I told her that we could both another choose different state because I hate it there and so does she, but she won't admit it but she does express it in other ways. HERE'S THE PROBLEM... I sensed lots of negativity coming from her, while I visited her. Like she was hiding something big; which made me want to be even more careful about moving in with her...

After I returned to my home out conversations changed. I felt that everything out of her mouth was a lie. We ONLY spoke when she called me. If I called or text her, she would never pick up or reply. She started to flirt with me by saying little things that could be taken in more than one way. I finally got up the courage to ask her why she asked me if I looked at her like a woman, and she said that "if I did look at her like that, she wouldn't share any of her boyfriend stories with me for me not to get jealous. I did not believe she insulted my intelligence with that answer. Well I started to flirt back. When I did I asked if it offended her, she said "why? no!" whenever I said something flirty-ish, I would text. and when I did she would call me right away and wanted to get more into that suggestion. I'm kind of shy so I never did. In fact, I didn't mean anything that I said when I was flirting. I asked her if she ever been with a woman, she said "no! and if I did I wouldn't tell you." STRANGE ANSWER coming from a grown woman. last time we communicated she all of a sudden was offended by what I said, because I accused of her probably being gay. She discontinued all communication and deleted me as a friend from the social network. it has been about a month. Oh! did I forget to say that the very last thing I said to her was that I didn't mean anything about having those feeling for her. It's just that I didn't like her answer to the question about why she asked if i looked at her like a woman or a sister? She doesn't call, answer her phone, or reply to my text. I've haven't had any contact with her since. ARE WE ANEMIES FOR EVER? what ya'll think?

I think that you act like a teenager in high school

chusma: well to your question pisces don't have enemies for life. That requires too much emotion to hate and that would be draining. Now we can not like a person...find them iriating and grating and then we will just avoid them like the plague. I think you're guys problem is you weren't on the same page at all and kept missing each other. Reading into what's not there and making assumptions and then reacting on such assumptions which equaled hurt feelings. She may or may not have swam away. She obviously thinks of you highly to suggest moving in together.

okay I know scorps aren't really trusting of others and you're on high alert majority of the time esp after not seeing someone in a long span of time but with merfolk if we leave a friendship on good terms when we see each other it's like no time has past that relationship hasn't faded in one iota. If anything it could have grown cause in that time you both have grown and matured and have many different life experiences to bring to the friendship. Now her asking you how you seen her might not of been flirting it could of very well been her way of asking you how you think she has matured and how you see her in your eyes. Also thing about merfolk is with when merfolk are friendly or playful it is often perceived to be flirting. But we aren't neccessarily doing so. My dear friend is a bi scorp and when we reconnected after 2 years apart I was being playful and touchy but it's how I am I meant no attraction to her. Honestly I love men. She took it as such and asked me if I was bi and I had to tell her no I love men. So now she knows when we talk or hug I'm just being me and it shouldn't be read into that much. She could of been seriously flirting but honestly it's hard to tell with merfolk. We are extremely playful in everyway even sexually. We could tell you oh my god I love you so much I could kiss you and actually have no intentions of kissing you it's our way of showing you how much you mean to us. Does that make sense?

Now she most likely have caught onto the fact that you guys just aren't connecting properly and disengaged from the friendship. Only time will tell if you will become in contact once again. I would just give her space just like you would want my dear scorpio. But if you want to still keep in touch a email or message once in a blue moon will let her know hey I'm still thinking of you mermaid and I value our friendship which would mean a lot to the mermaid. Even if she's not ready

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to talk when she is she knows that channel of communication and reconcilation is still available to her. Believe it or not merfolk are deathly afraid of rejection just like you dear scorp. So when she does reach out don't slap her hand or bash her for her untimely reply it will only hurt her and make her swim away.

I do hope you guys reconnect I can tell you do value her frienship and I know how hard it is for a scorp to EVEN get to that stage of trust. Once again I have a scorp friend and she tells me everything and cherishes our friendship as do I. lol She asks me to go to any and everywhere and esp if she knows she will be alone or uncomfortable she invites me and begs me to come along and I always do because I will always be there for my scorp. Mermaids and scorps have an unshakeable bond if you scorps will allow such a bonding. Don't be so quick to call her an ememy for life hun...she hasn't done anything that bad (from what you described) to be bestowed that wrath from you.

Good luck my dear scorp. 🙂

@mad: I'm happy that you and your mermaid had reconnected. Cancer and merfolk do make great friends.

Strange thing about merfolk and I've read this because I've been hitting up a lot of horroscope sites for the last hmmm months or so states that merfolk get along and makes great connections with everyone. We are mutable and hold all 12 zodiac signs. So it's not hard for us to connect with people and value our friendship. BUT not every sign is compatible with merfolk. I thought that was so interesting, intriguing and very true. A lot of people and signs truly do not understand merfolk. So when merfolk do establish a relationship that transcends to normal status quo for us we will keep, cherish and nurture that relationship forever. We know how rare it is for someone to truly understand us and love us for whom we are at our core.

Just something to get. They say being with a scorp (friend or otherwise) is not for the faint of heart. I say being friends or otherwise with a mermaid takes a honest, understanding and sincere soul. That's my 2 bits. Cheers luvs.

@ P-Ange....Don't we all?
Now, to reply to the intellectual comment of tbird.... I really like the way you put words together. To comment about what you said in regards to how I see her, I think the question was inappropriate at an inappropriate time. If we've always been just like family, it was just weird that she would ask me that. I was even calling her sis, and telling her she was like a big sister to me. But you're almost right about everything else. Like, why didn't she admit to being uncomfortable when I asked her? and If I made a sexual comment, she would ask me to be more specific. I just thought it was weird, and felt like why do every woman think that because you've been with women you want them. However, I will take your advice and not bother her forever, or until she contacts me. AND if she does, I will be nice.
Gracias

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@ P-Ange....Don't we all?
Now, to reply to the intellectual comment of tbird.... I really like the way you put words together. To comment about what you said in regards to how I see her, I think the question was inappropriate at an inappropriate time. If we've always been just like family, it was just weird that she would ask me that. I was even calling her sis, and telling her she was like a big sister to me. But you're almost right about everything else. Like, why didn't she admit to being uncomfortable when I asked her? and If I made a sexual comment, she would ask me to be more specific. I just thought it was weird, and felt like why do every woman think that because you've been with women you want them. However, I will take your advice and not bother her forever, or until she contacts me. AND if she does, I will be nice.
Gracias

Why thank you my dear. I can understand that you being uncomfortable and the wrong timing of such a question. Well it could of been a test or a way for her to feel reassured. Sure you must understand testing and the need to feel reassured you are a scorp are you not? Btw I'm not being a smart arse. lol

Oh well to her not commenting on being uncomfortable is a merfolk trait we usually keep such thoughts to ourselves to avoid confrontation. Also we know whom we are and that the strangest things get to us and if we let others know hey this comment bothered us we are often scolded for being too sensitive and our feelings are usually tossed aside as being caddy (for a lack of a better word). So we usually keep that to ourselves and work it out internally.

lol we are playful...we do that at times. Also it could be a way to gage if you were being serious. She could or could not be flirting with the idea of there being something more. It's hard to tell with a mermaid. I would take it with a grain of mortons. lol I understand a lot of my friends are bi, gay, lesbian and transgendered...they run across that assumption a lot. It's what society has been feed through troth that all people who are such as stated above are rampant sex fiends which of course it not the fact of the matter and very ignorant.

De nada my dear.

U R SO SWEET, and I mean that in a good way. lol.... Thanx again. You calmed me down, because I was going to chew her up if she dare called me. But you talked some sense into me. I guess you know your Scorp people.

Because a person had to show you how to behave.

Posted by Chusma
U R SO SWEET, and I mean that in a good way. lol.... Thanx again. You calmed me down, because I was going to chew her up if she dare called me. But you talked some sense into me. I guess you know your Scorp people.

Aww it's my pleasure to help hun! Mermaids are not easy to understand. I know that lol so I'm happy to shed so light on the subject. I had a lot of interaction with my scorp friend...so thank you for saying I know scorp people! I take that as a huge compliment cause you scorps also belong to the misunderstood bunch like us pisces with a sprinkle of other signs.

Thank you for calling me sweet! It can lead to issues at times. lol You are a dear. 🙂

So here is an update....A few days ago I received a silly text from my old friend. I say silly because it was as if we were talking all this time and she had something to tell me. I thought about it for a while, but I text back. But I'm a lil annoyed because what am I suppose to do now. I'm a Scorp. so you know I almost need to know what happened and get to the bottom of whatever it is. But if I don't talk to her I would never know, and if I talk to her I will feel stupid.

I'm no longer interested in a friendship, however I just neeeeed to know what happened. I tried asking but she won't comment back and I refuse to call her. whateverrrr. AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

ONE MORE THINGS....
All of a sudden, since we have not been talking, I'm getting all these telemarketing calls. One was from the city she lives in. STRANGE!.... and also I've received calls after 12am, which I know the numbers are from calling cards.

She's just too weird for me (and like all Scorps, I Know am weird.

thanks for reading

Hey I just re-read what you wrote before, in terms of her just asking me how she has matured. Well, that's how I took it. but NO! She asked "do you see me as a sister (I always called her sis), a friend, or a WOMAN. I thought she meant that if I see her as young as we use to be when we last saw each other. I said "like a friend". Then I asked why, and she said that "o because if you saw me as a woman, I wouldn't talk to you about my boyfriend. That's when I knew what she meant. I was shocked she even asked that because we good friends. She lived at my house. I'm explaining this, so that you don't just think that I'm a nut case. I am a nut case (lol), but not that nutty.

"i did something very irresponsible and hurt her."


She is hurting and trying to move past the hurt. The deeper Pisces care for someone the deeper the cut.

Its gonna take time for her to come back around. If she really loved you like she said, she will be back. Meanwhile
go on with yourself and don't push.