How do the rest of you fish

handle jealousy?

Some fish are cool as a cucumber. My Pisces friend however is rather possessive and I am prettyyyy much the same. Idk if its my taurus mars or my venus square mars or my mars opposite pluto but something in me makes me really cray in this area.

Like if I see that some guy is interested in my gal, i will want to hit him over the head with a shovel and then bury them alive! Now of course I cant do thaaat...buuuut maybe one day i will snap and do so. 😛

Anyway how do the rest of y'all deal with it?

Yesssss dude I am The same. I will analyze the situation to deathhh and hold it in until I have to explode it out. Im not fond of it.

When I was dating online, I tried to date a Fish.
He would ask me what I did all day and who I was with.
He would then create scenario's of what he thought I did.
And each time in his version I was slutting it up.

We were only video caming and he was possessive and jealous.
He was aggressive with it too.
I don't mind some possessiveness and jealousy but that soon?
If he were smart he would have kept quiet about it.
I had to ditch him because after some digging I realized the source of his jealousy was the fact that he was still in a relationship and doing the same things he accused me of doing.

Imagination is our strong suit, but also a double edged sword.

Posted by juke
no matter how calm i act on the outside, things like that can eat me up inside, especially if i really like her. my fiery side always wants a preemptive strike and ask questions later, but then i think of the downsides and resort to passive-aggressiveness. and then i'll be up at 2am thinking how could i have done it differently altogether. that sums up the mind fuckery that goes on.

+1000
I take the passive aggressive route mostly bc I don't want him to think im crsy cray and uber insecure. Which I'm not......much. lol
I try to assess the situation and figure things out before I go sll balls to the wall nuts confronting him. But when I have enough evidence to support the jealously. I usually just leave. I'm not fighting over anyone. It's s choice to me.

I am only possessive and jealous and insecure if the guy i like makes me that way, by playing games and being indirect about playing the mind games. There is a time and place when you can play indirect mind games and playing those types of games in relationships is not a place or one of those times at all.

Sad fact of life is most people do this and thats why i dont even bother with ppl who are like that. Been there done that seen it all before and really it bores the crap out of me, I want someone who is real and doesnt play games like that. Is it so hard for ppl to be real? But then again they are being real and I am the ignorant one that doesnt see this, so really I have myself to blame for other ppl's bs

You can all go get fucked...

Posted by djbuck1
It depends.

The Libra and I were solid in the loyalty area, and I knew she was trustworthy. Heck, no need to ask questions about what she was doing or had been doing. I heard. I know she didn't consort with former lovers, and if she wanted to go out with a mixed group when I wasn't available, fine with me.

With the Virgo, there was no trust. She was constantly sneaking text messages and wouldn't give up her ex (?) lovers as "friends." Of course my imagination ran riot. I gave her a choice, and she made it. No more Virgo!

Yeah, Virgos really come across as duplicitous with me as well. They are usually the ones texting 10 other guys in the bathroom while you are waiting for them at the restaurant, hotel or whatever.

Posted by juke
no matter how calm i act on the outside, things like that can eat me up inside, especially if i really like her. my fiery side always wants a preemptive strike and ask questions later, but then i think of the downsides and resort to passive-aggressiveness. and then i'll be up at 2am thinking how could i have done it differently altogether. that sums up the mind fuckery that goes on.

That night will be an insomnia night.

Jealousy is a horrible thing.To me when i get jealous,its like a bomb planted in my chest ready to explode any second,luckily a resort to passive aggresive mode so nobody knows,just dying inside by myself.sometimes i pretend to ignore that nothing happened,but still deep down its killing me

I used to think I'm a very jealous/possessive person. And I'd always say that to people before even going into a relationship. The reason why I felt this way was because My first serious relationship (with a Capricorn) he cheated on me a dozens of times and each time I spoke up he would make me feel like I'm an insane, paranoid, possessive, jealous person. I was in a very vulnerable state at that time. I had been drained mentally and emotionally and it took me a while to get out of that relationship. However his words kind of stuck with me and I continued on believing myself to be extremely paranoid and possessive. Later on I've noticed I am actually pretty easy going. I also realized it has never been jealousy but feelings of frustration, betrayal, being let down, lied to that made me act crazy. I do not have the highest self-esteem. I'm quite insecure but that does not make me jealous nor possessive. I like feeling free and I want to give other people that freedom as well. I also give my trust to everyone until they disrespect that trust. And if they do that is their own choice and they will have to live with the consequences of their actions. It's just about being truthful and open to me. Like some people here stated before: I don't like mind games. I just don't have the time nor energy for that.

All depends on the other person. If there's genuine trust there then I'm cool.

I have been known to have the odd irrational jealous psycho bitch from hell moment though.

*shrug*

hmmm how do i handle jealousy,?? omg this is something i hate feeling.. im a triple water sign so im very emotional and jealous too (romantically).. when i get jealous esp when im in a relationship, i dont normally tell my bf about it, coz i get shy, even if im dying inside, i project a cool exterior that hey its cool, im cool but deep inside i wanna kill him!.. i just try to collect all the hurt and pain as long as i can and just let it pass.. im not even possesive or clingy, or atleast i try not to, so not to spoil the relationship even though i know i have the tendency to be, but i guess im more passive but if it really reached my limits, i become passive aggressive then i tell also what i dont like, and yeah thats the time i tell that i am getting jealous and its hurting my feelings and would ask if he can be a lil more sensitive of how i feel..

so i think, i handle jealousy quite nicely, i think.. i dont really get jealous in a snap unless i really am into that person or i strongly feel a reason for it.. i know they say when u get jealous its ur insecurities, id say 50/50 coz i think to feel jealous (romantically) is very human.. im just glad that im not the type to go on rampage when extremely jealous even if its putting too much weight on my chest, i still am able to find my way out of it..

I have spent most of my life trying to eliminate situations that would make me jealous. Not that I am really that jealous but I hate having my reputation tarnished by someoene else's actions.
I am actually very easy going and tolerant but I hate when things happen behind my back and I also hate being made fun of or ridiculed.
So I'm not really jealous, it's more pride.
Even though I don't like promiscuity, I think I would accept an "open relatioship " type of thing as long as it would be equitably done. That said I would probably not accept that in a traditionnal marriage situation because of the reasons I told above, and for the sake of children.