How to deal

My Pisces man is in a lull so to speak right now. Things seemed so hot a week ago. I am giving him his space, I don't question him nor do I act jealous. I just let him be. What can I do to bring him around? I've tried the fun loving stuff, the affection stuff, to which he doesn't seem to reciprocate. I just am a bit confused. Have I already lost him?

Unm not all of you at once please—

I am by far the world's worst at this. I do remain consistent I give and I give and I give until I give out. I don't know how to correct that behavior because I am the most selfless person I know, while I see some selfish qualities in him. On very few occasions he has rubbed my back or shown some affection without me initiating it but it seems to become less and less. I just wonder if he is losing interest or if he is in a funk for a bit. I'm hoping the latter.

@jessejames

I've been dating a Pisces for 4 months. The first 3 months we saw each other every weekend, went out, stayed in, dance, drank, played cards etc. I got the rub down massage twice without asking one in the morning and one was at night.

Today, I have not seen him for 2 weekends in a row, mainly because we both know that we can't see each other during the week it messes up our work week and we both are tired the next day, so this is a mutual decision. The 1st weekend (Saturday) We got into a argument behind a personal issue I was having, and he gave me an ultimatum if I came over so I didn't go. Sunday I moved, he helped me, and when we were done he wanted me to come over and I told him "no I was tired and wanted time to myself" and told him I will come over on Thursday before I leave to go out of town on Friday he said "no he has to work in the morning", so I said "ok" I've notice after that things have gotten a bit distance with us, he text me but not as much once in the morning to see if I am up, he randomly text me to let me know if he is off work and why, he sends me random pictures of shit he brought and he always replies to my text, so I don't know what is going on.

I have to work Saturday morning but when I get off I am available to see him "if he wants to see me" and he knows this but we have not made any plans as of yet.

All I can say is chill do you and let him come around. If he is still into you then he will want to see you again.

Posted by jessejames

My Pisces man is in a lull so to speak right now. Things seemed so hot a week ago. I am giving him his space, I don't question him nor do I act jealous. I just let him be. What can I do to bring him around? I've tried the fun loving stuff, the affection stuff, to which he doesn't seem to reciprocate. I just am a bit confused. Have I already lost him?

What is your back-story? Should I go read before answering?

A Piscean person requires a tremendous amount of time alone .... what do you mean by lull?

Are you suggesting that people are to remain the exact same at all times?

There's no bringing someone around who needs to be alone for their mental health.



Here's a tidbit that is the absolute truth about Pisces, eventhough I'm sure all the Fish reading this will shake their heads "no", but, it is the truth for those brave enough to accept it ...... because Pisces people live literally in a dual existence (which they also don't believe because they shift so naturally between the realities that they cannot detect the separation) they never really attach to their feelings.

That ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ is pertinent information for anyone trying to understand a Pisces. Feelings are very real, and very intense a lot of the times .... but, they aren't attached completely. This is why we can flip a switch to adios without concern for the other.


In reality, the really real, if anyone dares to comprehend ... Pisces people have the potential to be dangerous mother fuckers .. because if we aren't attached, then there is no remorse.

Posted by jessejames

.... I am the most selfless person I know ...

Another angle to consider with this scenario is that you're pretty pompous with your self-righteousness, and considering Pisces don't like conceited people ... maybe you're just iffy, at best, and there's something more important to do than you.

No I am being sincere, I'm not conceited or self righteous. I don't claim to be perfect by any means so whatever you are trying to say go ahead. I sense a bit of jealousy from that comment. I am a giver and that's that.

I thought gemini's had the dual existence and no I don't expect him to be in the same mood all the time, I'm not unrealistic in my expectations. Someone must have really given you a bitter pill to swallow this morning P-angel....sheeesh.....

Posted by jessejames

...... because I am the most selfless person I know, while I see some selfish qualities in him.

Every person has selfish qualities .. lord knows Pisces are full them ... however ...


Your statement makes the claim that while he has some .. you have none .. to quantify "some", you would have to be inferring to "none"

And whether you can handle the truth, or not, is not my concern ...

It becomes very clear to me why you're not a keeper .... my answer to your question is that you never had him.

Incredible... There seems to be a self-made astro advisor on this board who claims to know the absolute truth about Pisces and if the OP doesnt accept her advice 100% , she starts to insult... This is a dangerous attitude. No-one knows the truth about the guy in question. These are all generalizations and should be treated as such.
My experience has shown that if a Pisces guy choses you, you are already special to him. You have to trust (faking the trust is another thing)... live your life and he will swim back. Committing can take time. You have to trust him, because Im sure he already trusts you, otherwise he would not be with you.

On April 24... you were crazy about a Leo

On May 17... you were trying to decide on this Pisces (from a list of other guys) who had been out of a 4 year relationship for one month
On May 28... the Pisces started to become distant/different
On June 6... he was your true love
On June 20... he's being distant again

So you have only really been dating for 1 month.

If you keep doing the same things, you are going to get the same results.

And the crazy thing is... you KNOW what you do but just keep doing it. And when people give you suggestions, you make like you're taking it in... when really you just do whatever you're going to do anyway because you have tunnel vision and obsess over what you want.

And when things don't turn out the way you want... you start blaming the other party, (he's selfish) even though you went into it with eyes wide open.... hoping for a different result... while doing the same things.

It must suck to be so fixed like that.

lol

I find it so funny that people can't reveal their faces because they are so ashamed of what they look like. I have admitted to my faults and yah I've fucked up but guess what I am still consistent. It's ok insult away I had big shoulders.

Oh and I don't stalk people enough to know their relationship history on here I don't know you people anymore than you know me. Judging is for one person and it isn't a bunch of cartoon character icons or pictures of a planet I wish I was on.

Topic creator, a relationship with a Pisces man will be full of the best experiences and then the next day no experiences, lol. The "lull" is not only normal it's necessary! I let him go and he ALWAYS comes back a better person 🙂 and if you try to interfere in the lull you'll annoy them: my advice is get used to it because they require time to themselves to recharge their batteries. All men of any zodiac need "cave time" but especially the fish. Get a hobby, keep busy, don't worry IF he truly loves you he is watching you from a far and will be back. They like a little chase, give him some space and after some time (they like to be checked in on, careful not to ignore during this period!!!) send him a sexy pic of yourself and flirt with him. ;D

Thanks Europa! I live for right now, I appreciate that. I've been doing pretty damn good at keeping him around. He's a pretty content fish. I did just that I left him alone for a couple days and now he's up my butt with a flashlight. I'm doing good with it. On off I kinda like that so I can have my own adventures

Just had to find my nitch..