I need your intuitive advice. Please.

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i'm in love w a pisces. i'm a crabby w a pisces moon. but he is a little downward floating atm. and i know love should conquer all. i'm prepared to give up everything i have for him. and he knows this and he tells me that he thinks of me too. but because he wants to travel and find himself he doesn't want to burden me. yet there is immense attraction. so i told him i'll be there for him no matter what we are - that he has me so he doesnt feel alone, i know he'll never ask me to, but i want him to feel that he has a emotional home. he is keeping in touch but he mood swings from hot to cold during this period. and each time when it is cold, he uses very hurtful words - telling me to move on. and when i display a slight bit of distance he swims back to me. but it is killing me slowly. he ha snever loved before and i know he is scared incase he finds himself and he is different and he hurts me. but i said i'll love him. and i have been. i can't move on like he asks, because i know he doesn't want me to be w someone else but he feels that i'm struggling. i can give him space. but i don't want him to be alone. i'm giving him space now, again. i don't like this cycle. i hurts to see him confused, yet i don't know what to do.

enlighten me please.
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thefish
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This push and pull is constant. You need to accept that when you push he will pull and when you pull he will push. Instead of making it extreme be flirtatious and mysterious. Or better yet just tell him your coming with him. No more screwing around. Grand gestures are met with impossibility. "Dont cry because its over, smile because it happened." When your are strong and push him you are the most desirable. IF you want to get the hook in his mouth you have to wriggle the line a little.
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Posted by illusion
funny you say that cause i made him make plans lol or if you can call it that so he moves. and yeh, i think his mum was really flighty and didn't really acknowledge his softer side. i want to finish for the time being on a high note. he knows i wont give up on him but just giving him total space.

i guess i finally found love at it's purest.

and well, he has never been in love.



Do y'all talk to each other in your own language, play games and talk for hours on end?

Where is my treefrogger—

Snap snap!!!!
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illusion
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Posted by illusion
funny you say that cause i made him make plans lol or if you can call it that so he moves. and yeh, i think his mum was really flighty and didn't really acknowledge his softer side. i want to finish for the time being on a high note. he knows i wont give up on him but just giving him total space.

i guess i finally found love at it's purest.

and well, he has never been in love.



Do y'all talk to each other in your own language, play games and talk for hours on end?

Where is my treefrogger—

Snap snap!!!!
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yeh we have a billion lil inside jokes. so if ya read our texts we're mushy and retarded
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Pisces sun Gemini Moon here... and reading your post on how he is is reminding me OF JUST HOW I AM... && i was just in the same place with a Cancer a few months ago.... he was TOO available to me.. too easy in his emotional delivery..making me think that i was that EASY for him to do that to any other lover.. hence my back and forth on plans... getting more serious..ON TOP of me needing my freedom and well 🙂 ect.
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illusion
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Posted by SunPiscesMoonGemini
Pisces sun Gemini Moon here... and reading your post on how he is is reminding me OF JUST HOW I AM... && i was just in the same place with a Cancer a few months ago.... he was TOO available to me.. too easy in his emotional delivery..making me think that i was that EASY for him to do that to any other lover.. hence my back and forth on plans... getting more serious..ON TOP of me needing my freedom and well 🙂 ect.



so i got to play haard to get. holy feek. nah he isnt a whore. bur just unsure of himself thus it shows w his word mood swings,

are you getting more serious w him or yaself?

freedom aint the issue w us. i committ but i'm a social eagle.nplus i need time in my cave.

and i told him that i'm petrified of making myself truly vulnerable but he is the only person that has. and that he is literally one in a gazillion because i didnt just say things,i openly showed him that he was the center of my world. and he knows i'm not too available. a lot of his close friends have asked me out before.

but i agree that he needs to feel that he has room. also, i guess he is agood at talking about his emotions ... er but not really understanding em feelings wise. i dunno. i mean what do you want a cancer to do? or what would you like?
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It's not what you should do, rather what you shouldn't do ...


Posted by illusion

i'm prepared to give up everything i have for him ....

i told him i'll be there for him no matter what we are ...

i can't move on like he asks, because i know he doesn't want me to be w someone else ...

i don't want him to be alone.






Nobody in this world wants a person who will tell them they will give up everything for them, and stay with them no matter what because nobody wants a doormat.

YOu tell him you can't move on because you think you know what is best for him? and that best for him is a fucking rug to walk on?


seriously .... how fucked up are you?


What you should do is grow a fucking backbone and stop being his emotional dog.