Intercultural Dispute with French Pisces Girl

In a nutshell...
I'm in Bolivia, I'm half Bolivian, half Russian and all US citizen was raised in the states.
I'm just hanging out down here cuz I wanted to try something new and have some business ideas.
In my hostel there is a German Cancer girl and a French Pisces girl. We all went on a trip to Salar de Uyuni for a 3 day weekend.


Anyways, there was this insipid Aussie chick who was talking about the marvels of the Dubai.

I retorted that I can't derive any pleasure from superficial marvels such as those that are built on the subjugation of poor contract workers who have their passports revoked, aren't paid and are routinely beaten. Further, I said that a state that is the epicenter of human sex trafficking worldwide, where homosexuality is a crime, and is a theocratic monarchy is something I can give no credit too.

The Pisces girl butted in saying 'how do you know dees, you do not know." I didn't really understand why she was so pissed, because this is the same girl who is always pissed about social injustices. It was cognitive dissonance.

It was also quite hypocritical as prior to this, she had insulted the Afghan war fully knowing that I was a soldier there, and had lost a good friend in the conflict. When she did this, I told her she had a right to her opinion, then explained what my experience was there and let it be.

This wasn't the only thing that happened either, she butted into conversations between me and the German girl in order to reprimand me. An example is, we were talking about the German girl's going away party and the German girl was like "I don't wanna plan much." I responded, "well you've gotta plan a little cuz..." and then the French chick butted in "It's her party she doesn't have to do anything she doesn't want to." Then I continued because the reason I had said that was because I was offering to buy the food.

After we got back to town a day later, I sent her a message on FB telling her more or less that I was offended that she would attack me in front of some stranger, especially since I had always let her have her opinions without demanding she qualify them. Especially considering I was in Afghan and she wasn't...yet when I stand in indignation against Dubai...she wants to take me to task? I told her since its just going to be me and her in the hostel, that I want to talk about this in the next few days, and clear up the problem.

She came to me later on in the day, and told me she found my message very 'v

'violent' and that she doesn't know what to say to me.
I asked her how it was violent when I just said that I wanted to be friends and was offended she would take me to task when I don't do the same to her.
Then she got on some kind of rant about how I should have brought it up when we were in the car, when it happened.
I explained that that wouldn't be polite nor acceptable in my culture. As her and I are friends, I would not take her to task in front of strangers, furhter, we were on vacation so there is no reason to stimulate drama during the trip.

I told her I don't have a problem with her, just that she would try to take me to task in front of others.
To me that is no acceptable especially since I do not do that to her.
She didn't really have anything else to say and stormed off.

So what do you guys think? Is she just crazy or what is her problem?
How should I patch this together? What do you all think?

I forgot to say.
She is a Black (Guinean descent) French Parisenne and I am a White (Latin/Slav) American Southerner...so I guess conflict was bound to happen.

Ya she is ugly as sin, and seems to have no friends here in Bolivia other than this German girl who is about to leave.

She also informed she has never had a job (she's 23) in her life...so I think life experience wise she is on the short end.

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Posted by sikkario
I forgot to say.
She is a Black (Guinean descent) French Parisenne and I am a White (Latin/Slav) American Southerner...so I guess conflict was bound to happen.

Ya she is ugly as sin, and seems to have no friends here in Bolivia other than this German girl who is about to leave.

She also informed she has never had a job (she's 23) in her life...so I think life experience wise she is on the short end.

yeah you should have left this part away........

it's irrelevant if she is ugly or not. if she was a hot chick you would tolerate the bullshit?!

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No I wouldn't, but I think the fact the German girl is incredibly attractive and she is her 'ugly' friend creates the dynamic that she is going to play pitbull to any of her guy friends.

I don't tolerate this bullshit from anyone period. I'm not a dramatic type though, which is why I told her exactly what made me angry...if she wants to be petty, I'll just move on and ignore her.

If the German girl wants to make this a taking sides kind of thing, then she wasn't really much of a friend anyways.
I'm not really to worried about it...I guess I should just let it play itself out.

So just carry on and reassure her if she seems bitchy? What's the best way to deal with an insecure moody Pisces chick.

I'm a Virgo. The weekend is over, we all live at the same hostel cuz we work in this country. After this Wednesday, it will just be me and her here. I didn't bring up the dispute until after the vacation.

Well her birthday is my half birthday, so we are perfect opposites.

Posted by sikkario

Anyways, there was this insipid Aussie chick who was talking about the marvels of the Dubai.

I retorted that I can't derive any pleasure from superficial marvels such as those that are built on the subjugation of poor contract workers who have their passports revoked, aren't paid and are routinely beaten. Further, I said that a state that is the epicenter of human sex trafficking worldwide, where homosexuality is a crime, and is a theocratic monarchy is something I can give no credit too.

The Pisces girl butted in saying 'how do you know dees, you do not know." I didn't really understand why she was so pissed, because this is the same girl who is always pissed about social injustices. It was cognitive dissonance.

She wasn't pissed about your opinion of Dubai ... she was pissed that your response to the Assuie girl was cold and robotic.

In conveying this to us, you insulted the Aussie chicks character by calling her insipid, so if you feel this chick to be so flat, then naturally you responded to her with chagrin for going on about what she considered to be great.

A Pisces person can percieves the energy that you project and can feel the emotion behind the impulse of your words .... and quite frankly, she likely determined that your energy you were projecting was quite rude.


So what if you don't like Dubai .. the Aussie chick was embracing what she thought was great and here is Virgo pushing a pin in her bubble and acting callous.

You talked about the Pisces embarrassing you in front of the Aussie chick .. when in reality, you embarrassed the Pisces in the way you have no clue to nuances, and respond like manual.


Of course, you will still not understand why she was pissed, even after me telling you because if you were able to get it, then you would have gotten it when it happened.

You used the words "to" and "too" wrong in several instances, grammatically speaking ... and though I couldn't really care of you have bad grammar, I do find it quite odd that you would use your dictionary to find words that make you look sophisticated, but, then have no forethought in realizing that it takes more than just a thesaurus to fool people who have a good grasp on thier English language.

Posted by sikkario

The Pisces girl butted in saying 'how do you know dees, you do not know."

You had just responded to the Aussie chick with zero consideration of the Aussie chick in that she was trying to help you guys in your touring, and pointing out a place to visit for fun. She obviously thought it was worth marvelling over, or else she wouldn't have brought it up.

The girl was trying to be nice.

The polite thing to do on your end would have been to say something like, "Thank you, we will talk about whether we can fit that into our 3 days", and then smile with appreciation.

Did you do that? No, of course not .... instead, you made the Aussie chick feel bad for even mentioning it to you ... which the Pisces girl then stepped-in to attempt to make the Aussie chick feel less worthless of how you made her feel by your response to her.

I've said from day one ... Virgos have no empathy, and it's fucking true. I should know, I've been married to one for 30 years (nearly). You are upset about you being treated badly .. yet, have zero awareness that the Pisces girl talking to you like that was in place to protect the Aussie chicks feelings in which you just treated badly = and you have zero awareness you treated the Aussie chick badly because you lack empathy.


In reality ... the Pisces chick was the hero in this scenario in that she at succeeded at making the Aussie chick feel above the worthlessness you placed on her for trying to help you have fun on your touring escapade

You know what? Nevermind Bling ... you have at trying to distract the topic away and at me.


That way it will be on me, and he never has to come to the realization that he's the one who was embarrassing.



My point was valid about how he was trying to make an impression beyond his intellilect .... however, make it about me, as usual.

crap .... intellect

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I was just pointing it out, I think he's as much as answered his own question really.

He? OP is a guy?

Yes, OP is a guy.. a Virgo male.

Posted by sikkario
For a Virgo, what's the better overall match Pisces with Venus in Aqua or Taurus with Venus in Taurus?
I am a Virgo man with Moon in Libra and a Venus in Sagittarius.
These two girls are sisters btw, I got obsessed with the Pisces girl and sent her some crazy messages when drunk and then a poem and got an accepting response but reciprocal pursuit.
Her sister became very jealous I suppsoe and asked me to hang out which ended in her giving herself to me, and me making love to her...
I never came on to her tho. So now I am wondering which one of these girls is a better choice.

Posted by sikkario
Whats funny is these are uptight Catholic girls from a good family.

Posted by sikkario
I wonder if it is typical for the Taurus to give it up to Virgo before the Pisces does. I always figured it'd be opposite, every Pisces date I've had ends up in consensual date rape basically. Going out for Ice Cream then ending up pounding her brains out in the nearest park, then not talking for three days, then getting a text from her, and having make me go emotional insane over a 3 months period. Then subsequently never talking again.

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^^^ Lolz! busted...