Mutual break up with Pisces man but...

Hello!
Had been seeing a Pisces for over a year and recently broke up mutually/amicably due to distance and him sorting out his career. We decided to remain friends but for the past 2 weeks straight since the break up, he's been sending daily texts letting me know what he's been up to and what's going on with him. He's NEVER once gone more than 24hours without some contact updating me (and I don't inquire). 90% of the time he initiates contact and whenever he sees me online, he's quick to start up conversation. If anything, we seem to be closer than ever.

It feels like we are still together but I don't want to corner him and confront him as to what he's feeling or thinking. I get a strange sense that he still wants us to be together, but I don't want to make assumptions, although actions can speak louder than words...

Any insight to his possible thought/emotions would be helpful and as to how I should proceed would be much appreciated. Thanks so much!

He still loves you and does not want to lose you.

Otherwise, he wouldn't say shit.

Trust me, I know.

Mutual break up suggests you wanted it, too. But, the tone of your post says you are thinking otherwise. To figure out what he's thinking or to get him to act, you first need to act. Do you want to be friends or do you want to have a relationship? If it's the former, you should tell him you'd like less contact. You don't want to live in the delusion of being in a relationship when you're not and you don't want to always be confused on where you stand. If you want him as a friend, you need to get him to back up to a point where you can view his actions like that of a friend. If you want a relationship with him again, then you should say something like 'this isn't working. I can't view you as a friend and don't actually want that." In which case, he'll either agree and you can work from there or he may back off at that point which would lead to him acting more like a friend.

Being in between friends and partners is never good. Usually one person uses the other for emotional support while keeping that same person waiting on an invisible/implied promise that they may come back to them. A lot of the times the person only uses that person until they find someone else who they respect/like enough to actually have commitment to. This isn't always a conscious thought process but either way, it can be seen as very selfish behavior. Always ask questions to know where you stand so you don't get used and so you don't waste your time believing in something that's not real.

Well a lot of me do this whole not letting go b/c they are still getting their feet wet during the "I'm single" process.

If there isn't another woman in his life he's going to fallback on the familiar, comfort and safety of you.

You're going to be really disappointed and hurt when he stops using you as a crutch and barely contacts you anymore.

You agreeing to friendship was a mistake without firm boundaries about how you want the friendship to be, you both need at least 6 months apart from one another before communicating again.

If you allow him to do what he's doing he'll figure you're okay with what he's doing even if what he's doing is confusing you.

You definitely should consider using the open dialogue you have with him to set a boundary with him.

Your main priority is you right now and you should put how you feel first b/c if you don't you think your hurt now over the break up, it gets worse.

a lot of men

Thanks for the help!

ScorpioFish may well be right here. He's a pisces male so he's got some currency I don't on this issue. Still, Pisces can really struggle with letting go and moving on if it's not working out for them. Maybe he just needs time to chill out? Maybe something happened that scared him off & he's not ready to talk about it yet? Or, maybe he's just not that into you, and is looking for a gentle way out? I think you should just continue to let him direct the pace for awhile and see where this goes. Be friendly & approachable to him but let him lead. In time, all will be revealed. Don't pressure him. Pisces men really really hate that. Give him the time and let him lead. Good luck.

He has expressed that he wasn't ready to lose me entirely and if he had not kept in touch as he did, we would inevitably become estranged from each other. I assured him that we'll certainly remain friends however I would need some space (which shamelessly we both haven't really tried very hard to do). I do want to be with him and would like to try to find a way to make things work (he knows this), however with the uncertainty of his career (which I completely understand and that was the basis of our break up) we decided to take a step back. It's tough at the moment to sort out when the next time we'll be able to see each other. He has expressed that he would still like to come to my city and pay a visit, as we agreed it would be fair as I went to see him twice.

HA! I wish there was a "like" button for nemesis...

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HA! I wish there was a "like" button for nemesis...

You can actually 'like' her comment under 'more' in the corner of her post but it doesn't really matter much since you have to click it to see how many others liked it.

Anyway, you write in a mature manner and seem to be able to make decisions outside of your emotions, so I believe your situation will fare much better than others who ask for advice. Good luck!

I'm exactly in the same situation with my Aries Ex.

Whatever this is, I love him a lot..always will. If it's friendship, I'm rolling with that as well.

I know the possibility of a relationship is out of the cards for me and him at this point.

Just enjoy each others' presence..it's all we have in this life. Labels or not.

I had a chat with my ex and brought up whether he was still considering to visit me later in the year (even though we broke up). He said he still very much wants to and that he'd like to see me again. Because of his openness to seeing me again and willing to travel all that way months later in the future confuses me whether he's still open to being together again or simply coming to visit because I'm here as friends...

Hey....I'm in a similar situation Maries101....just wondering how things turned out for u?