My friend keeps reminding me we're just friends!

Recently I came into contact with an old friend ,maybe able 6 months ago. On the phone he came off very flirty calling me beautiful, and saying he couldn't wait to see me again, asking me if I'm single and I replied with an YES he said that was a good thing and he wanted to talk to me about it in person, when we meet up we talked about he keep staring at me ( his typical CANCER) behavior. Since then we talk everyday since 6 months ago, except the time I spoke to his mom and she went on saying how pretty I was and she was glad I was in his son life ( then he disappeared for a few days ) in NOT sure for what. I didn't question him either, I'm a firm believer everyone needs a little space / me time ... We do talk everyday so totally understand . My problem is I told him one day he is disengaged and he went into a rage and said what do you want be to do ? " do you want be to tell you I love you everyday ?" because thats not gonna happen. I tried to explain to him that some days hes closed off and some says he's talkative ( we talk about everything ) he even cried on the phone with me before , EX: one time we meet up and he just stood their and didn't say anything but stared at me and when I said I was leaving he shrug his shoulders and didn't really give me a hug . After I let him know about that he told me I was acting like the annoying gf and I of course disagreed, since then it's been little back and forth stuff , recently he said I'm gonna call u back am do joked with him and said what I'd I don't answer ? Lol and he said thats something you say to your boyfriend NOT your friend . We are just friends, it's like I treated him like a friend NEVER flirt anything and let he always reminds we we are just friends! What's his problem?

Smells like bull? Lmao how?

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
@Dj, What's worst is when you see this type of writing in professional emails. I mean really. Makes me cringe.

You must be kidding me, never once (touch-wood) have I caught someone sending me a professional e-mail in such a format, nor style .
If they did, then out of my books they go. How rude and inconsiderate, work is work, there are fundamental standards to be met.


***dj, you are not the only one. I find myself very anal in regards to such matters as well.***

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Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
@Dj, What's worst is when you see this type of writing in professional emails. I mean really. Makes me cringe.

You must be kidding me, never once (touch-wood) have I caught someone sending me a professional e-mail in such a format, nor style .
If they did, then out of my books they go. How rude and inconsiderate, work is work, there are fundamental standards to be met.

***dj, you are not the only one. I find myself very anal in regards to such matters as well.***

Sometimes people just get to comfortable. Then there are people who just plain lack professionalism because some where along the line it wasnt picked up. Case in point, I work at Department of Human Services. My boss said a young lady came to interview today in a mini skirt and casual top. She was sent from a temp agency. Her excuse was that she wasn't aware of what the dress code was at the agency when she took the interview. o_O Are they not teaching professional dress and etiquette any more? I know I'm not that old, but I worry about this new generation.

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A lack in professionalism, a lack in common sense, and a lack in expectations/standards.
The young'uns no longer know their place in specific predicaments, there is a time and there is always a place.
Alas 'society' has ruined most of it, but there is hope...

Posted by PiscVirgAquaFish
Shit. It took me way too long to read that and I'm still confused. Let me see if I can sum this up in a way that makes sense to my brain.
-You and he are just friends, but there is some mutual attraction
-He shows signs of wanting more than friendship, yet insists he only sees you as a friend.
-You have not giving him any indication that you want more than friendship.
-He is annoyed because despite the fact that you two are just friends, you nag him like you are his girlfriend.

If all this is correct you two are playing a ridiculous game. Just tell him you're interested in being more than friends. If you're not interested in more, stop acting like it. Cancer men love these quasi relationships, that's why they stay friends with their exes. You fulfill his emotion needs at present. Doesn't mean he wants more. It's kind of like you provide him an emotional boost. Figure out what you want, it's not always about the other person deciding where the relationship should go. You're both being passive.

Yes to the summary! Thank you!

Nemesis: I wish I could be making this up lmao...kinda sounds like thats what your implying.

PiscesVirgo: It is a ridiculous game, its been times where he said he was ready to stop playing games. nd then there was also another time he said " our friendship we had a great understanding which he felt could lead elsewhere" but Ive never told him how I felt. Im really NOT sure about him, he is moody and our attuides are somewhat alike, nd i dislike the perfect he turns into when hes angry at me. ( also wishy washy about his feelings towards me ) sometimes he says the (above) and other times he talks to be like im one of the guys. He has stated that he isnt ready for a relationship because of what hes been through with other females( his last gf cheated with someone he knew SMH! He said he did want to end up being with a friend ( he's like that ( venus in gemini) Im kind of like that too ( VENUS IN AQUARIUS)...oN a positive note: he is extremely supportive of my endeavors, and my family likes him. When him and I are on good terms we converse about everything .