My Pisces Has An Ex He Loves So Dearly...

My Pisces has an ex he loves so dearly. It's the third month that they lost communication with each other and he confides that he's not yet over. Meanwhile, he also knows I love him. The past two months was really hell for both of us because I became jealous and didn't understand what he's coming from most of the time.

However, we had two talks. The first one was after the time he didn't notice me for two weeks. And that was the only time he told me about his ex for six years that he just had ended his relationship with last April. And he told me that's the reason why he can't commit to me right now because he doesn't want to be unfair to me and hurt my feelings.

After that, we still go out everyday. Two nights ago, he confided that he still misses the guy and he opened up to me about what he really wants. He also told me he tried to work it out with me but he still loves the ex. Later on, he also told me what if I came later in his life... So when we tried to define our relationship, he said that we're above friends and that we both want and like what we're in right now. He told me that he needs time to get over his ex. And I told him I'm not forcing him to love me. I told him I'll risk my heart for this because I want this and somehow in the future, maybe he'll realize this is it.

I just told him that I only want him to trust and be honest to me. I also told him that if ever his ex comes back, I hope he knows how my reaction will be. Told him that even if I want to stay, I would only be hurting if they are back together.

So in the end, we agreed to just enjoy what we have for now. Continue being friends. Me, hopeful that maybe someday he'll see our friendship more important than the past and he could see that there's still life after it. We agreed that we'll just be happy without a commitment. We go out together almost everyday and we update each other about the things we do.

How about you guys? Any input?

I know that time is the most necessary element? Is there a way I could speed things up? Or is taking everything slowly the best way to deal with it? Well, I can do that and get to know more of him better...

He's in love with another man.

I get your point. I just don't know how we could end up together. If we're not going to end up being together, then it's better that we're spending time, having the best time of our lives right now.

I feel like he wants me to be his infinite fling. Well, it won't take too long 'til I back down. He says he really needs time to get over his ex but he wants me to stay as his friend and see where our thing is headed. Do you guys think this as a smart idea? I'm thinking maybe if he sees that I'm the one who he could trust and who's there for him even in his darkest times, that I would be the one he chooses.

Posted by charotera
He's in love with another man.

I get your point. I just don't know how we could end up together. If we're not going to end up being together, then it's better that we're spending time, having the best time of our lives right now.

I feel like he wants me to be his infinite fling. Well, it won't take too long 'til I back down. He says he really needs time to get over his ex but he wants me to stay as his friend and see where our thing is headed. Do you guys think this as a smart idea? I'm thinking maybe if he sees that I'm the one who he could trust and who's there for him even in his darkest times, that I would be the one he chooses.

Look, either you are going to be his friend- a real friend and stop fucking him. Or you are going to contiune to fuck him and be misrable.

He's telling you flat out what he wants/expects. It is not what you want. If you so dearly want to cling on to the hope that it will be more in the future, that's your choice. He's being pretty clear and honest, in my mind. No promises, no expectations. So don't go getting all broken hearted if it doesn't turn out the way you want it to be.

And as Nemesis said: you're going to do what you want to do anyway.

I get it, you desire him, and want it to work in your favour. Don't call that love though. That's selfishness. Love would understand what the Pisces is going through and want to be supportive of him. Not worried about when you're gonna get yours. Desire, lust, want. Those words sure. Not love though.

Posted by Nemesis
oh right, false hopes - is all he needs lol.

situation improving.

hahah you're funny.
enjoyed.

Posted by iwin32
*smh*

headbanging?

@Deezie. That is what I am doing at the moment. I try to understand his situation and remain friends with him. I love him and it is selfish that I want that kind of end goal. But I am also willing to do as his please because of that love. If we don't end up together, it's fine. It's just that it is kinda really hard to let this guy go and start dating other guys. I'm a loyal Aquarian. I told him I'm trying to prepare myself to get hurt because I am risking my heart and emotions for something not sure and he understands it.