KaptainKhaos
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Not willing to speak on the phone
Am I a dumbass*
Posted by febyYeah I decide to go on a limb and just tell him that I wasn't going to talk to him anymore if he didn't call me. Its like I was saying, I really don't like pressuring people to do things but I think it's super fucked up and unfair to just string somebody along. I've live my life without this person this long and I won't stop living after he's gone assuming that the person is really even male.
I would just find a way to tell him straight out about my fears without being offensive lol. Liiiike....why won't you call me? Are you sure you're a dude?
Imo it is weird.
Posted by febyNo. Not really. I feel like not talking on the phone is kind of a big red flag honestly though. Especially when talking to people on the internet. I mean in general not talking on the phone kind of the loop to something shady going on be at cheating are not being who you say you are.
Are there any other reg or yellow flags you've noticed?
Kind of aludes**
I agree, not calling IS a red flag. That's a simple request and a person who can't place a simple phone call is yhe same type that you'll have to pull teeth to do simple things for you in a relationship.
Imagine asking the same guy to get you something from the store once you guys are in a relationship.
Imagine asking the same guy to get you something from the store once you guys are in a relationship.
I think it's reasonable to be suspicious about that. There's catfishers everywhere. I would have asked him why he didn't want to talk on the phone. There could be other reasons he doesn't want to talk like anxiety or something. But, once the seed is planted and you wonder if he is who he says he is...well, then it's really easy to doubt everything. Catfishers sometimes go to crazy lengths to prove themselves as the false identity. It could be a girl talking to you and when you ask to talk, she could get a guy friend to help her out. Sounds crazy and paranoid, and it probably is...but there's people out there that do that. Well, good luck
Posted by MsTeeq1974Yeah. I've decided I'm not going to put any effort into it anymore. I'm not into games. Like that. Too damn old.
I agree, not calling IS a red flag. That's a simple request and a person who can't place a simple phone call is yhe same type that you'll have to pull teeth to do simple things for you in a relationship.
Imagine asking the same guy to get you something from the store once you guys are in a relationship.
Posted by Scenic
I think it's reasonable to be suspicious about that. There's catfishers everywhere. I would have asked him why he didn't want to talk on the phone. There could be other reasons he doesn't want to talk like anxiety or something. But, once the seed is planted and you wonder if he is who he says he is...well, then it's really easy to doubt everything. Catfishers sometimes go to crazy lengths to prove themselves as the false identity. It could be a girl talking to you and when you ask to talk, she could get a guy friend to help her out. Sounds crazy and paranoid, and it probably is...but there's people out there that do that. Well, good luck
I saw an episode of catfish where that happened. By her own friend no less!! Omg lol I asked him why and he said he not a phone convo. Kind of guy. Maaaaannn pppsssshhhh. Over it.
Lawd bless dis keyboardt
Good...best to move on before becoming invested.
I'm glad you stuck to your guns.
Just remember, remaining true to yourself is not the same as putting pressure on someone. If he feels pressure from the situation, that's his own thing.
Just remember, remaining true to yourself is not the same as putting pressure on someone. If he feels pressure from the situation, that's his own thing.
Posted by KaptainKhaosThis is a distinct possibility.
... Until I think of all the scenarios that could be going on with our situation like for instance he could really be a she.
I've seen it happen.
No phone, no Skype, no deal.
Even if you have pics.
Posted by KaptainKhaosyes, you are a dumbass. if he does not want to speak on the phone, then pressuring him to do so will just make it worse. trust me, i'm the same way...
Am I a dumbass*
thanks,
Jack
Posted by yellow01gtThat's just silly... you can't have any kind of relationship, basedPosted by KaptainKhaosyes, you are a dumbass. if he does not want to speak on the phone, then pressuring him to do so will just make it worse. trust me, i'm the same way...
Am I a dumbass*
thanks,
Jackclick to expand
on email, alone.
Unless you intend to be pen pals, forever.
Posted by Montgomeryi was not referring to a relationship based strictly on email. where does it say that ANYWHERE in my post. while you're quoting me, at least understand what i'm saying first, please. her question was "am i a dumbass" based on the sole fact that this man refuses to talk on the phone....my reply was "yes, you are a dumbass" and i explained why. i'm not exactly sure what is silly here, except for the fact that i'm having to explain this AGAIN.Posted by yellow01gtThat's just silly... you can't have any kind of relationship, basedPosted by KaptainKhaosyes, you are a dumbass. if he does not want to speak on the phone, then pressuring him to do so will just make it worse. trust me, i'm the same way...
Am I a dumbass*
thanks,
Jack
on email, alone.
Unless you intend to be pen pals, forever.
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--jack
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So I've been talking to this guy that I met on the interwebs for about close to two weeks now on several occasions I've asked him to call me. He kind of ignores it or he just blatantly says he doesn't want to. I'm not particularly fond of pressuring people to do things because of the end of the day we're living our own lives and we do things at our own pace and I generally respect that. However this is starting to feel really strange. I really can't figure out why calling me would actually would be a problem. Until I think of all the scenarios that could be going on with our situation like for instance he could really be a she.
I really try to be understanding but I'm kind of at my breaking point. I'm starting to feel some type of way about this. I'm a dumbass for demanding that he calls me. I really don't want to end up like those idiots on catfish. You know, the ones that wind up getting tricked and emotionally abused because they didn't use better judgement. It really sucks that there are people out there like that and I just don't want to get caught up with one of them.