Pisces ?

Hello everyone! I am a new poster but I've been reading dxpnet posts for several months now, and I value the advice I've read. I have a Pisces man question...I have been close friends (well as close as you can be) to a pisces man for a few years now. He has always been there for me when I've really needed him.

Over the past year or so we have flirted a bit but it hasn't led to anything.....he jokes about the pretty big age gap between us. So, the relationship has remained pretty platonic despite our mutual attraction. we date and have relationships with other people....nothing abnormal or unexpected. Anyways, a few days ago I told him that I may need him a favor regarding a very personal/very private matter; and I would let him know as soon as I found ....he said ok. I followed up with him as soon as I found out to let him know that I was able to get what I needed, I thanked him profusely for being there, I told him how much his friendship meant to me and how much I appreciated him....he said ok.

Although it has only been a few days I can feel a shift in our friendship...a 'cold' silence so to speak and I'm not sure why. Yes, I shared an extremely extremely personal aspect of my life with him....that very few other people know about. However, I don't see why it has affected our friendship...especially during this extremely difficult time in my life (which he's aware of).

Is it normal to lose a friendship with a pisces man because of sharing something too personal?

Posted by FLeo Lives On

Posted by TrueLibra
Hello everyone! I am a new poster but I've been reading dxpnet posts for several months now, and I value the advice I've read. I have a Pisces man question...I have been close friends (well as close as you can be) to a pisces man for a few years now. He has always been there for me when I've really needed him.

Is it normal to lose a friendship with a pisces man because of sharing something too personal?

I don't understand these questions or where these people come from. It's like they read these boards then they come up with *these* questions.

Based on the extent of your relationship with him, I'm thinking if you just ask him, he'll tell you. So how bout beginning with that and then, coming back here to answer your own question for us. Talk about twist, that'll be a twist I can say I LIKE, providing of course, you can and will get your answer from HIM!!

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I mean was that even necessary Joe Wilson? I asked a question....a question which if you believed it was frivolous you really could've bypassed. I asked about feedback regarding how to approach the situation....Boy gee golly wiz I wish I'd thought about asking him myself(sarcasm). The pisces I know do not really like prolonged emotional or personal discussions....but then you'd know that seeing as you're a leo and all!

Oh and as for the "these" people comment...trust me....I don't come from anywhere close to where you come from! I come from class because I would never go out of my way to answer someone's question just because I think their question is dumb and I want to be rude!

Posted by love_365
TrueLibra??_.talk to your friend. Tell him how you feel about the way you think he is treating you. Sometimes it takes Pisces time to process a situation. I think a light conversation about this matter will be of justice to you and to him. Ask him a direct question and he is not ready to answer, then you will get the answer you want hear. I believe he is just processing the situation.

Oh! and TrueLibra??_no matter how dumb your questions may seem to others on this board those questions mattered to you. It's hard sometimes for people to understand- comprehend, and/or demonstrate compassion.

Thank you so much for your response! I agree with you I believe he is still processing everything because I did drop a pretty big bomb on him. I sent him a friendly msg to open the door to a conversation which he read immediately but never responded. So I think it may be best if I give him space and time to process things before I talk to him about it......

I know the question was very vague regarding the exact details but that is because I am still processing the situation myself....however even without the exact details I would still show another person respect.....

Posted by love_365
—I mean was that even necessary Joe Wilson—

TrueLibra, you know who you are??_..You just became the person who you are projecting annoyance with.

...He struck a nerve with his crassness

It doesn't have to be a long drawn out prolonged emotional or personal discussion, it can be you ask him a question, he give you an answer, and there you have it. Are you saying you don't think it's worth a shot, considering you guys were so close 'n all??

No, I am saying I'm not sure if I should give him time to process things....or just move past the situation and act as though nothing has changed. I don't want to do more harm than good to the friendship by pursuing the matter if it's not something he wants to discuss.....

"The pisces I know do not really like prolonged emotional or personal discussions...."

True enough, i think it's too draining for most, especially if there is some aqua in the chart as many fish have. If it were me, i would first try the business-as-usual approach, as it was before you opened up to him. Keep it light, upbeat and rather "unemotional", and he may shake off whatever he's feeling in shorter time. I do think he does need time to process and recharge, but he wants to know you're in "solid" place too, for his own emotional state-even if he won't tell you, as a fish likely won't, if that makes sense. Though pisces is compassionate and a good shoulder, we do have our limits in how far, deep or prolonged. It likely was too much for him and he was too nice to let you know upfront, so he would rather just distance himself, even if only for awhile. G/luck, btw.

whats the question here?
ill answer it..

Do I talk about the issue/what happened or move on and give him time? I was thinking of sending him a nice thank you card to simply thank him for willing to be there for me.

Posted by ~mystic_fish
"The pisces I know do not really like prolonged emotional or personal discussions...."

True enough, i think it's too draining for most, especially if there is some aqua in the chart as many fish have. If it were me, i would first try the business-as-usual approach, as it was before you opened up to him. Keep it light, upbeat and rather "unemotional", and he may shake off whatever he's feeling in shorter time. I do think he does need time to process and recharge, but he wants to know you're in "solid" place too, for his own emotional state-even if he won't tell you, as a fish likely won't, if that makes sense. Though pisces is compassionate and a good shoulder, we do have our limits in how far, deep or prolonged. It likely was too much for him and he was too nice to let you know upfront, so he would rather just distance himself, even if only for awhile. G/luck, btw.

That makes so much sense! Thank you! I think I also may have touched a nerve with him in several ways.....I definitely know it caught him wayyyyyyy off guard. When I told him/asked him all he said was, "ok." I got the uh oh too far feeling then. As for me 'being' in a good place...he hasn't even asked how I'm doing so I don't think that's something he really cares to know. He is such a nice person and I value his friendship. Therefore I try really hard not to take advantage of his kindness because I deeply care for him so I don't ever want him to think I take his kindness for weakness or I'm using him....

You're welcome TrueLibra, glad to help. =)

TrueLibra, please accept my apologies for roaring in your direction -- when Leos don't understand something they roar, otherwise we're total kittycats and, and your OP really threw me for a loop.

FLeo it's no problem! I apologize for my smart a $ $ retort. I completely understand the Leo's roar as I have a little niece who is quite the Lion. Thank you for taking the time to understand my question, and the reason I was somewhat vague I truly appreciate it! :-)

You'd think by now I'd be a Pisces expert seeing as 3 of my parents are Pisces. However, their personalities go from one extreme to the other. My Stepdad was a true to form Pisces he never said much with words but would show you with action; my Mom is a pretty fiesty pisces. We share a lot of the same personality traits even though I am a Libra; and my Stepmother well ummm let's just say she has her Pisces traits and then well she has some ummm other traits which are not only 'un-Pisces' but at times un-human........