Pisces advice

Hello, I have been lurking around on the pisces site today and want to get some opinions. I'm a scorpio woman and I met a pisces man online. We went out on our first date 3 days ago and I thought it went really well. It was a 3 hour date that ended with him kissing me goodnight, but he did not ask me out for another date even though I told him that I had a great time. I got into my car feeling very disappointed because in my experience when a man does not set up a second date on the first date it just doesn't work out. But, then he started texting me right after the date before he was even out of the parking garage and we went back and forth texting until 4 a.m. just lightly flirting and joking and he texted me again first thing in the morning. Since then he has been contacting me off and on throughout the day, but he has not called me or asked me out again. Now i'm not sure what he is thinking. He told me that his last relationship was a 4 year long relationship that has been off and on for the last year but that as of 2 months ago it is definitely over and will not work out. He also told me that he wanted a relationship very much and that he hasn't lived with anyone since his ex wife 12 years ago and he really wants that and he is in a good place in his life for it. My question is, do you think he likes me and is too shy to ask me out again or maybe fearful of getting hurt again? Is he just playing with me because he is feeling lonely since his break-up and really isn't ready for anything else? I am trying to be flirty and friendly with him so that he knows that I would be open to another date, but I'm not pursuing him or seeming too overly eager for fear of scaring him away. I'm not sure how to handle it. I have work in his area this week and I'm tempted to tell him that and suggest we get together because I'm thinking he might just need a little push, but I don't want to be too aggressive with him either. Help please! :-)

If he texted until 4 am and then back in the morning, that means he's somewhat intersted,

Ugh!! Thank you so much DJbuck! I know you are right. It just sucks because he was the first person I have liked since I broke up with an my ex a year ago, again because the timing was wrong. The timing just always seems to be wrong for me. Back to the drawing board. ;-(

BTW I hope your name "TSlove" doesn't mean what I think lol

Yes Hydorah, that is what I thought. Yesterday he sent me a text in the afternoon and said he was taking his daughter shopping and asked if he could call me a little later. Finally at 9:45 at night he finally texted me saying that he just got home from shopping and having dinner with his daughter and that he had a horrible headache and that his phone had died and he didn't get it charged until he got home to contact me. We then texted back and forth for 1.5 hours when at that time I cut it off and said we better get some sleep. Again, no asking me out or saying he would call me again. I haven't heard from him at all yet today. I'm using the excuse that it's the holidays and he is busy and with family, but I think it's more than that. I think he likes me but is fearful of getting hurt again. I'm not sure if I should just keep letting him lead this slow pace or if I should back off a little and not be available for long texting conversations when he texts so that it might trigger him to think that if he likes me he better ask me out again or I might lose interest??

— What do you think it means? LOL!!

Posted by hydorah
If he texted until 4 am and then back in the morning, that means he's somewhat intersted,

you can't make that guarantee




jk

@ OP:

I think the fish may have a crush on you

I totally agree with you djbuck and I'm not looking for that, but it seems that I'm always meeting men that go way too fast or the type that don't want to be alone, but never want to really commit either. AKA the Aries. We were together for over a year and he expected me to be there for him all the time and wanted me to be by his side 24 hours a day, but without any of the commitment of ever talking about a real future. We were practically living together and all I wanted from him was to tell me if he still saw us together in a year and he couldn't even give me that. He was so freaked out about his marriage that had been over for 2 years not just 2 months. He was devastated that I broke up with him because he liked everything just the way it was. It would've only taken a few words to get me back, but he just couldn't figure out what those words were and I was not going to tell him what they were. I don't want to force someone to feel something they aren't feeling, but I just want a guy in between. Someone who wants something real and is not scared to explore that, but also wants it just to unfold slowly and naturally and do it right. I personally think you need to know someone for at least 2 years before you make any real moves into the future, but I think a year is long enough to at least know if you see it happening with someone and a good time to start at least talking about it. If you don't know if someone is the one after a year or at least someone that you hope is the one then you will never know and it's time to move on. I know there are no guarantees, but life is short and I don't want to waste my time. I think this is why I'm attracted to pisces men because I feel like they understand that more than men of other signs. I think they love love and want to be in love like most women do. The last pisces I dated though was trying to take things way too fast. He didn't know me at all and was already telling me he loves me and knows that I was the person he was going to marry after a couple of dates. I'm just looking to get a second date with this current pisces. Like that movie quote says from "As good as it gets" I just want a normal boyfriend, and her mother tells her that it just doesn't exist. LOL!!

OK, now I have to know what you guys think it means?? I must be missing something. LOL!! It's just the initials of my ex and I. :-)

Pisces are hard to approach right. But harder to reach out. Sounds shy to me.

Posted by TSlove
OK, now I have to know what you guys think it means?? I must be missing something. LOL!! It's just the initials of my ex and I. :-)

**blinks**



I want to know, too.


No doubt, something pervy. 😛

Posted by TSlove

He also told me that

--- he wanted a relationship very much and that

--- he hasn't lived with anyone since his ex wife 12 years ago and

--- he really wants that and

--- he is in a good place in his life for it.

I'm curious... and please don't take offense.


But how did you two get on the subject, so early on,

that he is in a good position to be married again?


It just sounds strange to me... like bait.

Were you that open with him, initially?


And all this texting-- it's like he's waiting for you

to do something... and you're not doing it.

And so many excuses for not calling!

And STILL didn't pick up the phone once his phone was

charged ... just texted for 1.5 hours.



I just feel the eyebrow involuntarily arching. lol

Sorry. :/

The user who posted this message has hidden it.

Never mind.

I googled it.