Pisces and Communication

Its me again...So I hear from my cancer friend today..(work colleague, rising in gemini)...she said she dated a pisces for two years and communication was their biggest problem...he wasn't that forthcoming.

Is this true for pisceans? What are you like on communication when in a relationship? Do you communicate enough, don't feel the need to communicate what be the score?

Forget the gemini bit....are you generally communicative with your partner? well I guess it depends on the individual really

Hey MM,

I try to be as open with my partner as they are with me as far as communication goes. If my partner holds back, I tend to hold back. Nobody likes to feel vulnerable, so I usually wait for my partner to make the big statements, like the "L" word. If I'm unhappy I almost always communicate that, though. It's a warning for the other person that whatever the unacceptable behavior is needs to change or I be swimmin' away. As most Pisces have been terribly taken advantage of in the past, many of us try to avoid that in future by "not putting our heart on the line first" whenever possible.

Of course, you, as a Scorpio, have many of these same fears. I hate to have to tell you that you'll probably have to be the first to open the lines of communications, especially where deep feelings are concerned. The good news is, you will most likely get a wonderful response in return. 😉

Hey SS....Was waiting for you to show yourself 😉

Yes you are right..and well scorpios aren't exactly known to be that communicative are they..so in that respect I can understand him..he has a scorpio moon you see...I know when he's grumpy, communicative, moody or just generally in a jovial mood..he changes like the wind so its difficult to keep tracks..but I generally know when to say something or not...

You are right about pisces being taken advantage of along the lines and that probably stops him from being open with his emotions..he has said in the past that he trusts too easily and that leads to dissapointments....I must say his gemini rising doesn't make him that communicative..and this is definitely driven by the scorpio moon me thinks..he's very responsive though which is good...never fails to respond to a phonecall or a text message...but he's always on a pisstake mission...then when I get pissed off with his response he will say something like "mmmwah...I am just winding you up babe"...sigh...

I am going to see him this weekend..he said I better feed him..i.e cook for him..so I know just the dish and also the desert...(no, not that desert..lol)..I dunno..sometimes I see more scorpio in him than pisces..i.e. withholding his emotions..

That is a valid point outcast....although he said he likes a strong woman..(his words were - I want fire, passion and opinion) and I am well..of the aggressive nature..lol...can that intimidate a pisces man in terms of letting out how he truly feels running the risk of looking pathetic??

"he's very responsive though which is good...never fails to respond to a phonecall or a text message"

This is HUGE! I think every pisces I know (including me) hates the phone. If we call you back in a timely manner and/or answer the phone regularly when you ring...you are really important to us!

"...but he's always on a pisstake mission...then when I get pissed off with his response he will say something like "mmmwah...I am just winding you up babe"...sigh..."

This is what we call flirting! Irritating? Yes. But effective? Also yes. 😉 From what you've described, I can tell he feels very strongly for you and is probably scared shitless. If you open the can of worms about how you're feeling, MM, he will respond in kind. I know that takes a lot of guts, but it will be worth it.

"his words were - I want fire, passion and opinion"

We ALL do! That's why we love you, Scorps! You have all that in spades.

Awwww...now I feel good...Thanks SS! your da bomb..

I just text him to ask him what he's doing and he said still working..so I said "aww poor baby..well I guess it keeps you off the streets" to which he replied "my job is on the streets..lol"....so I replied "don't be pimping, I'll bust your ass"....that should keep him at bay..he hasn't responded to that..lol..

HAHAHAHA! A Pisces wouldn't make a very good pimp. We'd let our hoes keep all their money, give them advances, and pay their rent. 🙂

Awww thanks guys...all these little clues help build the bigger picture....he lets out little things here and there which if one is not very observant can be easily missed..it all leads me to believe he's a sensitive little pup underneath all that hard man exterior..but its all good...I have no problems with him appearing "hard"..I am poking him right..lol...(excuse the pun)..

well if there are wedding bells anytime soon you are all invited 😛 😉

Outcast can be the best man seeing as this one is a blacksheep...outcast and blacksheep..perfect!..lol..

Sexy siren over there can be the bridesmaid...the plaque will read.."she got me to the alter"..lol...

Outcast: "Whatever the reason is, I could tell that he's already taking this relationship down and it could eventually hit the fan "

What do you mean by taking this relationship down?

I'm there! Will there be some hot groomsmen? 😛

I think he's holding back because he's scared of being hurt, and because he's waiting for you to lead, MM. Fish usually seek out partners who are comfortable being in control, because we aren't.

"You may lead even Aries but not Pisces."

A pisces that's not hooked, no they can't be led. But one who is...that's a different story.

"If he weren't really in control he wouldn't be elusive and MM didn't have the problem with trying to figure out what's beneath of this mask."

I'm sure he's going nuts trying to figure her out, too. I mean COME ON, she's a Scorp! 😛

They dont communicate whats necessarily important and the actual issue.
They like to fester in it.

Oh I went to sleep..didn't realise this had carried on...lol..thanks all for comments.

So outcast you think that its a build up of something negative?..That in his mind he has taken this relationship down hence the reason for his elusiveness..Hmm...well everyone can throw any old adage at me...I have handled far worse situations than him not being communicative about his feelings...It's only puzzling whilst I care...when I don't care anymore he will cease to exist in mind, body and soul. You see, I have a problem in that I don't really give a rats arse and will move on just as quick...However, with this one, I didn't..I wanted to hang around for a bit and see what happens...

Moro...No I didn't have a problem with you..It's just that you came across slightly negative so one of my comments may have felt like I was not being nice..its not like he isn't good at communicating..he does phone and text..but its never about anything meaningful...you know..like erm..its superficial talk..(more gemini arena - no offence) not any real bonding conversation..so thats why I said elusive..with his feelings mostly..and to be honest, I don't want all that mushy talk 24/7 as that would bore me to tears..but every now and then discussing your hopes, fears and dreams is nice..You know what I mean? Deep and meaningful conversations..

SS - he might be scared shitless..but he knows that I like him a lot so he shouldn't feel as though I am going to take advantage of him..on the other hand he has said somewhere along the lines last week when we were playfully arguing that "you see this is why this isn't progressing, you have to just let me be in control"...or something along those lines..Thats a scorpio side talking..and also..I think he just threw that in there without any meaning..so I didn't fester on that very much..Remember Scorpios do not DO superficial and fake...we cut through it..I hate fake with a passion...

TB - I know hun...you DO know the situation a lot better..however, remember that pisces guy I dated with gem moon?...I don't think he would lie in all honesty..didn't know him very well but I don't think he would lie to me..He was too wrapped up in me....I hear what your saying, and remember I had my doubts as well..still do from time to time..but my doubts are only stemming from his superficial talk...and there maybe a good reason for his superficial talk..
a) he doesn't want to get too close cos he has no intention of staying in a relationship but is to

Hey Archy...
Oooh the Ram and I split ages ago.....remember he was due to come to visit me in December...well he didn't have the cash...and well I was gonna fork out for him...as far as I am concerned..if he wanted to come and see me that much, he should've started saving up when he first went off to the War zone...so no hard feelings, I phoned him and called it a day about 2 months ago..

How are you? what have you been up to?

Oh didn' realise my sentence cut off at the top there...ok to continue
a) he doesn't want to get too close cos he has no intention of staying in a relationship but is too polite to say no hence the reason for continuing to stay in touch
b) he scared shitless of how he feels and doesn't want to let on in case he's vulnerable
c) doesn't want to lose control

LOL..SS...erm well I want it to go somewhere..at the same time you can't plan these things...nobody goes into a relationship from day one thinking yes this i has to be it..but both our cultures have that forever mindset so he has to know where I am coming from..or should do at least!..His own words.."I am not working you like a business plan..I am seeing how things go"....and its true..he isn't doing all those charming things when someone wants to take advantage..he's pretty damn blunt and out there..whether you want to hear something or not he will say it..which is why i believe he's geniune..I know even if I finish with him, he will be back..I know that for certain..he won't just disappear..I am 100% positive on that..he hasn't got it in him to do so..

Archy...thanks hun..I don't think this RAM was bad..I think if it hadn't been for the distance it could've gone somewhere but come to think of it..there was no emotional connection..I dunno..its only after the event that you analyse..lol..and well he was a RAM..not exactly known for their emotions..but he was damn fit!..lol

And this fishy..well he has a scorpio moon, venus in taurus, mars in virgo and gemini rising quite a mixed breed...and very yummyliscious...very cocky with it!..you know my weakness for arrogant men..need to bring them down a peg or two...met him 2 months ago..been talking for one month prior to meeting and then dating..this will be the 3rd time I am seeing him cos well he lives about 4 hours drive away up north of UK..He's been to London twice..and now its my turn to go up there...he's just a bit elusive when it comes to talking about the real things..like the relationship..and being from the same background he knows where this should be going...know what I mean??

thanks moro..that was a fab explanation....i have a problem at times of overanalysing....i guess what it really boils down to is control....if i don't have it i go slightly mental..lol

These explanations have helped a hell of a lot...

Was meant to go see him this weekend but it has been cancelled due to a death in the family...and he has been really supportive bless hm.

I am going to wait this one out...cos i do like him. I should understand him cos well i have a cancer moon in house 8..scorpio house.....i am gonna save this in case i need to refer to it later.

Pray for my family.....

I know I am not a Pisces, I am a Scorpio but I've been with a Pisces and he always communicated. Even without words we just always had that 'knowing' thing. But when he needed something he would make it known most of the time.

Thanks Dreamer 🙂