PISCES AND REJECTION.

So I am telling a Pisces female than I like her tomorrow. Her Venus is in Aquarius and she's never been in love before or knows what that looks like, but the way she looks at me at times makes me wonder. I've never had anyone look at me the way she does. She only views me as a friend as she always says friend this that, and when I told her I was gay she said she looked past itz she didn't say she was gay, but maybe she doesn't know it. Anywho for now I'm definitely just saying it to get it off my chest to move on but I want us to remain friends as I will be okay with that cause she is that great. But I am scared to tell her because I want to be her friend forever and this will make her probably distance herself and like feel gross and honestly I'm just a little scared how she will react? How would a Pisces react to a friend they love and care about telling them they like them, if they don't feel the same way? How bad should I brace myself for the impact. I guess part of me is wondering if she is scared of me rejecting her, but I'm getting ready for her to reject me!! HELP A SISTER OUT.

So I can stop wondering! But I guess you have a point. I guess I think she just might like me, but has no idea. Or maybe is waiting for me to tell her I like her.

But the main reason is to tell her in a way where I just say hey I understand we are friends and I'm okay with staying as friends and just coming from an angle that I know we can't be anything, but in order for me to move on I have to tell her so all this hope and illusions in my head can go away and I can just be her friend. Do you think that's selfish and rude of me? I just have reached a point where I like have to get it off my chest and just wanted to see what you all thought her reaction would be. Like from a Pisces standpoint, how they react in these situations.

I don't love her I like her, but like I am starting to understand she only sees me as a friend and that's all we will ever be. Do you guys just recommend getting over it then. Like I don't have to tell her. I mean I just feel like I need to be honest with myself and just be free of feelings in this. So it's not like I am in love so I'll get over it.

Half of me thinks she is honestly, but the other half doesn't. So that is my battle. The way she treats me is so different

You should tell her...

If she can't reciprocate these feelings you are going to feel bad for some time but... wondering ''What if...'' for weeks, months, years is so much more worse!
Don't waste your life.

This is coming from very personal experience 🙂

Oh and Pisces girls can be kind of passive, sometimes they might like you but are too shy or humble to do anything about it. So some straightforwardness can clear things up.

Just do what feels like, don't worry too much. It will be an experience.

Lol

So, you were faking it with her, and lying to her every time you told her that you are her friend ... because REAL friends don't fake their attentions on each other.


Every time you responded/reacted to her as a friend ... you were lying to her.


In reality ... you had ulterior motives.


My hope is that she realizes what kind of a person you really are ... and swims away from you.

Just because she has never been in love- doesn't imply that she is unsure of her sexuality.

Most people know the gender they are attracted too- at very young age.

In addition to that-

Of course she looked past you being gay, and still wanted to maintain a friendship with you!

Nearly all people will!

Should you tell her? No.

If anything i would distance myself from her.

You have feelings- and she most likey is straight, and under a false guise that this is just a friendship.

Hmmm... this is a tough one. I can understand you wanting to tell her, but honestly she can distance herself to help you only see her as a friend, if she doesn't feel the same way, or she can grow closer to you, BUT I have a feeling she will be distant on somethings...perhaps when it comes to being physical (i.e. hugs, sitting close to you) because you may read it incorrectly and she could hurt you.

Me personally, I would be flattered, tell you in a gentle way that I'm straight, but I do enjoy your friendship and then feel/sense things from there. I could swim away (pisces will do this from time to time and come back) or just stay along the current path.

As far as her being ever being in love, doesn't mean it is because she isn't straight, she could be very well waiting for the right person. There are times I thought I was in love, but in hindsight, I was infatuated or loved certain parts of a person then woke up from my haze.

I do think that you will have to sit down with yourself and figure out if you can truly ONLY be a friend to her and let go of the ghost of her being you boo. That's a hard thing to do and only you can figure that out.

Honestly, it is up to you regarding tell her. Can you deal with the fall out (positive or negative)? Will keeping this a secret eat you up inside? Answer those questions honestly (you don't have to post it here) and you have your answer.

Don't tell her unless you know she feels the same, otherwise it will ruin your friendship hun, just my opinion from experience x

Posted by P-Angel

So, you were faking it with her, and lying to her every time you told her that you are her friend ... because REAL friends don't fake their attentions on each other.


Every time you responded/reacted to her as a friend ... you were lying to her.


In reality ... you had ulterior motives.


My hope is that she realizes what kind of a person you really are ... and swims away from you.

wow, first off this is going to sound dumb but honored that you commented because I value your opinions and see what you post. I think you have great insight. Second, you are right I have lied, but because I wanted to be friends with her because I like her as a friend first, I never wanted to date her, it kind of just happened that I liked her. I am lying to her because I have told other friends once I realize I like them I have liked them and it has not turned out pretty. Therefore you could see why I would be cautious. I have been authentic about everything except with my feelings because I don't want to lose her. She is an awesome person and I value our friendship more than my own personal gain!

Pisces people look at the intentions and motivations.

If you spring on her that all along you've been friends with her because you have other intentions with her ... then you will lose her completely. It doesn't matter how nice you are, or how good you are to her as a friend .... in her mind, you were false to her with your intentions.

There's no getting around that. There is nothing you can say or do that will change the fact that she will ONLY view your intentions negatively if you come clean about how you feel about her.

Your best bet is to take a break from her. Tell her that you have some shit to do, and that you'll call her some day when you are free and maybe the two of you can hang out. And then leave her alone.

Much, much later, like 6 months ..... contact her, get together and then tell her why you had to get away for awhile, in that you have feelings for her and you didn't want to mislead her, or deceive her.

She will then see that your intentions are in the right place ....


But, if you can't manage to back off .... then your intentions aren't in the right place, and she will eventually pick up on the clues that your attention you give her has other intent, and you'll lose her completely.

btw, all Pisces are bi-sexual by nature, simply because we realize that our soul is androgynous .... but, that isn't in literal terms. As in, it's not about sexual acts .... our love is bi-sexual, not our bodies. Meaning, she would be perfectly capable of fully loving another woman. Even if she has no physical sexual desire to do so, it's possible that her heart can.

But, if you approach that topic, having the mindset that being bi is about her vagina .... then you'll lose a friend for life.


If you really care about her, then you'll back off and leave her alone ... maybe send her a letter (not a text) and tell her why you have to part ways for a period of time. At least then, she'd realize you're trying to be honest with her.


If you just blurt it out to her now, while still expecting her to hang out with you .... then you better have tissue with you, because she will bail on you, while believing you were lying to her all along.


there's no getting around that .... there's no gaming a Fish

"btw, all Pisces are bi-sexual by nature, simply because we realize that our soul is androgynous .... but, that isn't in literal terms. As in, it's not about sexual acts .... our love is bi-sexual, not our bodies. Meaning, she would be perfectly capable of fully loving another woman. Even if she has no physical sexual desire to do so, it's possible that her heart can."

This is so on point it is scary. For PA to put this in words is amazing.