Pisces and Virgins

Well this is quite blunt, but I am a virgin. I'm aged 21, I swear there is nothing wrong with me (as some people insist when they hear of such an "old" virgin), no third arm, no popcan IQ, etc. I simply haven't found someone I am comfortable enough with to, you know. I was a very late bloomer, I only had my first boyfriend a year ago and that didn't last long because I couldn't connect with him on a deeper level (dove in head first and then realized that I had jumped the gun much too quickly, lets call it a learning experience!)

So this is where you come in Pisces. I am currently in a very ideal situation with a Pisces. He is a wonderful human being, so sweet and extremely altruistic. Very intuitive, very interesting, overall he is the type of person I could get lost in. Maybe I'm getting ahead of myself here because nothing is set in stone, as I know Pisces can be flighty although when it does occur with him I simply let him know I'm thinking of him and wishing him well. It seems to be creating a nice balance.

What I am afraid of is the fact that I am a virgin. I know that Pisces are very loving people, they'll give you an amazing experience if you're willing to open up with them, and I am emotionally ready to do so but I'm afraid that telling him I am a virgin will scare him off. I know that Pisces is very sweet, but I also know that they love their sex and I'm worried to the point of being scared off a little that he will completely run for the open waters when the time comes and I'm not entirely...the best. Well that's embarrassing...

Sun: Pisces
Moon: Aries
Venus: Aries

I'm a Taurus by the way!

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Posted by dreamweaver
Well this is quite blunt, but I am a virgin. I'm aged 21, I swear there is nothing wrong with me (as some people insist when they hear of such an "old" virgin), no third arm, no popcan IQ, etc. I simply haven't found someone I am comfortable enough with to, you know. I was a very late bloomer, I only had my first boyfriend a year ago and that didn't last long because I couldn't connect with him on a deeper level (dove in head first and then realized that I had jumped the gun much too quickly, lets call it a learning experience!)

So this is where you come in Pisces. I am currently in a very ideal situation with a Pisces. He is a wonderful human being, so sweet and extremely altruistic. Very intuitive, very interesting, overall he is the type of person I could get lost in. Maybe I'm getting ahead of myself here because nothing is set in stone, as I know Pisces can be flighty although when it does occur with him I simply let him know I'm thinking of him and wishing him well. It seems to be creating a nice balance.

What I am afraid of is the fact that I am a virgin. I know that Pisces are very loving people, they'll give you an amazing experience if you're willing to open up with them, and I am emotionally ready to do so but I'm afraid that telling him I am a virgin will scare him off. I know that Pisces is very sweet, but I also know that they love their sex and I'm worried to the point of being scared off a little that he will completely run for the open waters when the time comes and I'm not entirely...the best. Well that's embarrassing...

Sun: Pisces
Moon: Aries
Venus: Aries

When U Tell Him You're Virgin That's Make Him Happy 😄

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Maybe its because I am surrounded by people who constantly heckle me for it, but for some reason I can't imagine that happening. I really hope thats what happens, but there's that lingering feeling. I'm extremely confident in the fact that I am a virgin. Its nothing to be proud of, nor is it anything to be ashamed of. It is simply just what it is, so if he were to get weirded out then in reality it would be a good red flag that would give me the information I needed to move on. However, I am still quite nervous. I guess being that vulnerable is a little difficult for us Taurses! 🙂

I lost my virginity late due to the same reasons. There is no guy in the world that will run when you tell him you are a virgin. Most guys that are only looking for sex want to make it their conquest to be your first. If you are feeling this comfortable with this guy and you can see yourself connecting with him on that spiritual level you are looking for, I can bet he will embrace your virginity with open arms and make it so sweet, gentle and special for you. Only you know when you will be ready, but nothing will make him happier than to know you want to give yourself to him. It is something to be proud of and it is so rare these days. I wish you two the very best of luck.

21 is not "old" for a virgin.. and I feel sad to think you've been misinformed about that to the point of feeling like there must be something wrong with you to not be out having sex "like everyone else".. and I assure you, "everyone else" is NOT out there having sex, plenty of 21 year old virgins, and even older.

There's nothing wrong with waiting until YOU feel ready. It doesn't matter when Mary is ready to have sex, or Becky, or John or Dave. It only matters when dreamweaver is ready.

Now, on Pisces in particular... Pisces RESPECT people for living their lives by their OWN standards.. but should anyone (Pisces or not) be "scared off" by your virginity.. consider it a blessing he showed you early on that he was not the right man for you. Lucky you!

Posted by Nefer
21 is not "old" for a virgin.. and I feel sad to think you've been misinformed about that to the point of feeling like there must be something wrong with you to not be out having sex "like everyone else".. and I assure you, "everyone else" is NOT out there having sex, plenty of 21 year old virgins, and even older.

There's nothing wrong with waiting until YOU feel ready. It doesn't matter when Mary is ready to have sex, or Becky, or John or Dave. It only matters when dreamweaver is ready.

Now, on Pisces in particular... Pisces RESPECT people for living their lives by their OWN standards.. but should anyone (Pisces or not) be "scared off" by your virginity.. consider it a blessing he showed you early on that he was not the right man for you. Lucky you!

Well said!!

Reminds me....My brother and his wife saved themselves for each other.....they were both in their 30's.

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
Reminds me....My brother and his wife saved themselves for each other.....they were both in their 30's.

My brother got plenty of ridicule for waiting. Some said "well, he must be gay". He was just very strong willed in knowing what he wanted. He is a handsome, wonderful man and he made his wife such a lucky woman, vise versa.

I grew up in a small town and never thought twice about it. However, University has been quite a culture shock. Its thrilling in a way being around so many different people with different ideals and spirits, but boy are they promiscuous. When you're stuck in a fishbowl full of people who think of sex as extremely casual you start to get judges for not getting it "over with" yet. At first it bothered me, but then I gave myself a reality check: there is no lasting pleasure in such instant gratification. I'm not the type of person who is going to be happy taking someone home from the bar, I'm not the type of person who will be able to simply jump on into bed with someone I don't know - someone who I haven't explored on a deeper sentimental level. Might sound corny but that's the biggest turn on. So waiting to find that is fine by me.

Posted by dreamweaver
I grew up in a small town and never thought twice about it. However, University has been quite a culture shock. Its thrilling in a way being around so many different people with different ideals and spirits, but boy are they promiscuous. When you're stuck in a fishbowl full of people who think of sex as extremely casual you start to get judges for not getting it "over with" yet. At first it bothered me, but then I gave myself a reality check: there is no lasting pleasure in such instant gratification. I'm not the type of person who is going to be happy taking someone home from the bar, I'm not the type of person who will be able to simply jump on into bed with someone I don't know - someone who I haven't explored on a deeper sentimental level. Might sound corny but that's the biggest turn on. So waiting to find that is fine by me.

Stick to your guns. I understand you so well. Coming from not only a small town (with only three traffic lights) but "the bible belt". I know how hard it is. But I didn't let anyone influenced me. I was proud that I was one of the few that wanted more out of my relationships. It is what sets you apart when the time comes to get serious with someone. He will respect you more in my opinion.

Posted by DazedScorp
Ugh

I would never knowingly have sex with a virgin.

Personal preference =/

Probably because you don't want anything serious....means you don't want that responsibility. I see that as a good thing.

Coming from my own experience of being a pisces, i tend to be extremely sensitive to jealousy. I think by telling a pisces that you are a virgin, it will leave him feeling refreshed for the fact that he doesn't have to think about you being with other men. i hate thinking about my lover being with anyone else... even if it was before me. pisces should love a virgin, for they can take them under their wing and guide them as pisces love to do 🙂

Having to be the teacher is a turn off.

dreamweaver .... one thing you have to realize .. your virginity isn't as important to others as it is to you.


For example, listen to the people who told you things like ... he'd like a virgin, he'd be pleased to have a virgin.

That is all ego talking, and zero importance to them on the level in which you are regarding your virginity. Those people just want bragging rights, and really wouldn't care one iota about spoiling the goods. So, if you should probably stay clear of any man who gets that excited about bagging a virgin.

I think you have deluded expectations of being some kind of glorious occasion when you are spoiled ... because dude, first of all, the one you sleep with is NOT going to have fun at all, and two, it's going to hurt you like fucking hell.


Your worries about not being any good are valid, you won't be any good because you don't know shit about it.


But, what is really twisted is that you say you want it to be special and wait for the right guy, then the other side of your mouth says you are concerned about not performing good enough ..... seriously, it's not that big of a deal to loose your virginity ... it's a bigger deal in knowing how to give head properly.

all men are different sweetie

some like women with plenty of experiance and some like women with little experiance.

just tell him if he care's about you so much he really won't mind because after all he may be the one that gets to take it.

If you feel connected with this guy, and he makes you feel comfortable then go ahead with it.

I lost my virginity when i was 17. I had 3-4 boyfriends before but i wasnt feeling connected with them to move forward. Then i met the guy who made me feel ready. And i did. and ofcourse at 17 i was feeling scared that he might go but then, its when i felt ready and noone pushed me to do it.

Well i ended up having an 8 year relationship with him.

I didn't say that being a teacher is a turn off.


I said having to be the teacher is a turn off.



There's a difference between being a with person who is genuinely into you and loving you and comes to you with pure innocence with intentions of giving themselves to you with heart and soul.

Then there's the person like this lady ... who is in fear, is apprehensive, who would be rigid and most likely stop him a couple dozen times once his dick is hard to suddenly decide that she can't go through with it and will have to be coaxed. Then once convinced it's ok, she'll then feel taken advantage of.


Fuck that ... having to be a teacher is a turn off. Go buy a dildo and teach yourself how to take it, and be comfortable with long before you place all that emotional baggage onto another person.

@dream: kudos for knowing who you are and knowing what you want. Not too many people can say or do that regardless of age.

@j420: I hear you when I'm with someone I cringe to think that they were with other people. I can't help it. I have a taurus moon and venus so a slight possession is part of the deal. I want to be the only one. lol I know that isn't going to happen so I just disregard that point of their lives. I find no comfort thinking about such things.

as far as being a teacher I think that's goes with your preference. Some people do not have the patience, desire or will to do it. Others find it pleasurable. Like nights said regardless if you're experienced you still have to teach each other about your needs, wants and desires. Everyone is different and everyone has their own desires, likes and dislikes. What works for one guy might be a total turn off for another. There is no general guide. Just be open and honest with each other and both will grow with each other.

Like another poster said if you feel comfortable with him then let him know. That way you know if you can move on together or alone. If he doesn't want you because you're a virgin then it was for the best. But be leery of the guy who gets all excited cause you're a virgin. He should be well...indifferent. He should still see you as you in the end. Being a virgin doens't define who you are...it's just a decision you decided to make. He should respect that and not pressure you at all. You should decided to have sex when you are ready, not when he is.

I say let him know, if he's not a douche he would respect you for your honesty and value your decision.

I agree app... virgo men are like that as well

Posted by P-Angel
I didn't say that being a teacher is a turn off.


I said having to be the teacher is a turn off.



There's a difference between being a with person who is genuinely into you and loving you and comes to you with pure innocence with intentions of giving themselves to you with heart and soul.

Then there's the person like this lady ... who is in fear, is apprehensive, who would be rigid and most likely stop him a couple dozen times once his dick is hard to suddenly decide that she can't go through with it and will have to be coaxed. Then once convinced it's ok, she'll then feel taken advantage of.


Fuck that ... having to be a teacher is a turn off. Go buy a dildo and teach yourself how to take it, and be comfortable with long before you place all that emotional baggage onto another person.

Your opinion is definitely valid, although I don't think it pertains to me. When I said I didn't think I was going to be the best I was being honest. Not for lack of trying though. Like it has been said before, usually you need to learn the way your partner likes doing things, you need to learn what their hot spots are, you need to know their body. People with a lot of experience can usually pick up on this, but from what I have experienced I do know I'm very intuitive.

Am I going to lay there like a starfish and get apprehensive and ask him to stop a dozen times? I know myself very well and I am very confident when I say that won't happen. You make it sound like I'm not going to try. I'm a very passionate person, I want to share that with someone, so when I do know that person is someone I can connect with on a deeper level then I am going to have no regrets about the first time. I want to give my whole self to the person, and that in itself is going to make it better.

It's not necessarily going to hurt your first time. Mine didn't. We were together again the next day and I actually was able to experience a vaginal orgasm, so it can be good for the both of you. And your intuitiveness will come in handy. It does come natural for some. If you are passionate and relaxed enough to let yourself enjoy him, your enthusiasm alone will help him enjoy you. You don't have to stand on your head. Rub his back and wrap your legs around his waist and let him do the rest. The guys are the ones who have it difficult when it comes to performance. You'll be fine.

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Reminds me....My brother and his wife saved themselves for each other.....they were both in their 30's.

My brother got plenty of ridicule for waiting. Some said "well, he must be gay". He was just very strong willed in knowing what he wanted. He is a handsome, wonderful man and he made his wife such a lucky woman, vise versa.

Wow I think that's awesome that your brother and his wife waited so long 🙂 I would think men probably get ridiculed more than women for waiting. Like you said, people assume they're gay because they're able to control themselves =/

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I've always been very proud of my brother. He's the kind of guy women want to marry. Warm, kind, gentle, soft spoken but can hold his ground when need be. He's a fireman too. I'd have snatched him up if he wasn't my brother. My pisces friend is like him. That one has taken a turn in a new, exciting turn over the past few days. What do they say.....have patience with a Pisces!

In a new *direction*. My tiny little screen....I don't proof read.

You don't strike me as the type who likes butt sex. Sorry it hurt so bad. Try extra lube next time. Now this girls sweet thread has been taint-ed.

I didn't think it was possible for a man not to fit. We're you in the right hole? Next time turn on the lights.

Haha. I feel bad for her. She probably never wanted it again.

Posted by MeMyselfAndIntrigued
Haha. I feel bad for her. She probably never wanted it again.

I have a brother with the same Sun (Scorp) and Moon (Leo) as DazedScorp, as well as a close "girl friend". You'll have to take what he says with a grain of salt, they always exaggerate things to the point of awkward. 😉

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Haha. I feel bad for her. She probably never wanted it again.

I have a brother with the same Sun (Scorp) and Moon (Leo) as DazedScorp, as well as a close "girl friend". You'll have to take what he says with a grain of salt, they always exaggerate things to the point of awkward. 😉

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Guess so.....vaginas are meant for stretching.

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You don't strike me as the type who likes butt sex. Sorry it hurt so bad. Try extra lube next time. Now this girls sweet thread has been taint-ed.

Lmfao!! Girl no you didn't...

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Hahaha. I am the epitome of a pervert.

@sexiful: something about scorps and taurus moon man I'll tell ya...there is an undeniable attraction this force that is... unexplainable. I'm SO happy that you are able to find a person that you can share that with. Now if only the rest of us could have that...maybe the world wouldn't be such a cesspool.