tbird
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Pisces Male/ Cancer Woman = Trying to Breakaway??
Posted by tbird
He sounds like an asshole. To put it bluntly I cannot answer question A but as far as question B. Don't accept any requests from skype and disregard all his advances to keep in contact. If that doesn't work flip that bitch switch that every woman has and hurt him. Hurt him bad and let him know you moved on and he wasn't worth your time and you were playing him. Even if it's a lie. This will make him withdrawl from you. He won't leave you alone or get the damn hint cause you're being too damn nice. Good for you. You tried to take the high road now drop down to the bottom pits of hell and unleash the kraken and fuck him up.
C. Most likely yes. He's trying to have his cake and eat it to. He wasn't getting what he wants from his relationship from his g/f so he was getting his ego fluffed by you. He wanted to feel viable in someone elses eyes and that's where you came in and you just oh so conventiently lived in another city to avoid those oh so messy situations of you catching him with his ex or visa versa.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Words of advise ignore then if he doesn't get it. Seek and destroy. Don't be polite even if that's not you. You can shoo the spider out your house but after the 11th time that fuc*er appears you have to squash it and throw it in the toilet and flush it. Fuc* him.
+1 ^
What a douche bag, it's time for you to take care of yourself and the first step is to not allow him back in to hurt you, my suggestion would be to go no contact, he's behaving like he has some kind of personality disorder and/or mental problem, he appear to BAIT you in only to TURN evil and mean on you, don't keep falling for the bait, delete him on skype/block him if you can and move on or you'll be just as crazy as he is if you keep interacting with the loser.
Yes they are known for playing these games. They love to play with people's emotions and break them down.
Snap snap!
(A) Do Pisces men play these type of games going back and forth? No, not all of us do this kind of thing. Many are bad, but also many are good. You have to find the ones who are older and wiser, as they tend to be more mature than the younger ones.
(B) How do I get him to stop reaching out? Just be quiet. Eventually he will figure it out.
(C) Am I dealing with an emotional whore? No, he just realizes that his last woman was poison and you are the complete opposite. He also probably feels companionship for the first time in years, and doesn't want to lose that since many other girls today DO NOT provide companionship like some Cancer women can!
New Questions for you:
1.) How old is he?
2.) When is his birthday?
3.) How long was he with his former girlfriend before that ended?
4.) How long have you known him?
(A) Do Pisces men play these type of games going back and forth? No, not all of us do this kind of thing. Many are bad, but also many are good. You have to find the ones who are older and wiser, as they tend to be more mature than the younger ones.
(B) How do I get him to stop reaching out? Just be quiet. Eventually he will figure it out.
(C) Am I dealing with an emotional whore? No, he just realizes that his last woman was poison and you are the complete opposite. He also probably feels companionship for the first time in years, and doesn't want to lose that since many other girls today DO NOT provide companionship like some Cancer women can!
New Questions for you:
1.) How old is he?
2.) When is his birthday?
3.) How long was he with his former girlfriend before that ended?
4.) How long have you known him?
1.) How old is he? 29
2.) When is his birthday? March 13, 1982
3.) How long was he with his former girlfriend before that ended? 3 years
4.) How long have you known him? 6 months
Okay, cool.
Hmm, he should be acting more mature than this since he is a 3rd Decan and is 29 years old. Perhaps it was the former relationship that he couldn't let go of. 3 years is quite a while to be with someone, so perhaps that left him really upset when it did finally come to an end.
However, 6 months is also a decent amount of time to have gotten to know him.
At this point, I suggest you take things lightly, but perhaps not shutter him out forever.
More questions:
Did he say that he was sorry for hurting your feelings?
Did he admit that he probably needs some time to get over his ex?
Do you feel that he can make this up to you somehow if you choose to continue things with him?
Do you (in your heart) really want to shut him out forever?
Posted by ScorpioFish
1.) How old is he? 29
2.) When is his birthday? March 13, 1982
3.) How long was he with his former girlfriend before that ended? 3 years
4.) How long have you known him? 6 months
Okay, cool.
Hmm, he should be acting more mature than this since he is a 3rd Decan and is 29 years old. Perhaps it was the former relationship that he couldn't let go of. 3 years is quite a while to be with someone, so perhaps that left him really upset when it did finally come to an end.
However, 6 months is also a decent amount of time to have gotten to know him.
At this point, I suggest you take things lightly, but perhaps not shutter him out forever.
More questions:
Did he say that he was sorry for hurting your feelings? He did but then after a couple days expected me to be back to normal and "cool" again. He was extremely nonchalant but oddly still mentions it only when he wants to talk about things or express his feelings.
Did he admit that he probably needs some time to get over his ex? Well this was how he mentioned it to as though he needed "time". When later he revealed he wanted to get back with her again and that they had not actually broken up and just stopped talking for a while (like 2 months or so).
Do you feel that he can make this up to you somehow if you choose to continue things with him? Not really because now I do not trust him with my feelings and he lied to me when it wasn't necessary. I think that I conveyed myself as a very understanding woman especially with matters of the heart. =/
Do you (in your heart) really want to shut him out forever? In my heart, I don't really want to do that. I just feel like I need to do this for me to move on and be ok and not bitter. I never doubted that he didn't have authentic feelings for me, it was just that he lied and led me on to believe we were working towards something. =/click to expand
There's no trying to break away
There's no ... "(B) How do I get him to stop reaching out?"
Looks like there's plenty of willingness on your part to continue to connect, because that is what your actions are doing. Actions speak louder than words, and though your words may say you are hurt and don't want to talk to him .. your actions are proving your words to be lies = you are still in contact with him.
And your excuse is some bullshit along the lines of .... he won't stop contacting me.
... as if you're at gunpoint, being forced to respond.
I get so tired of everyones bullshit ... take control of your own goddam life, and quit blaming the fact that you can't control yourself on him.
There's no ... "(B) How do I get him to stop reaching out?"
Looks like there's plenty of willingness on your part to continue to connect, because that is what your actions are doing. Actions speak louder than words, and though your words may say you are hurt and don't want to talk to him .. your actions are proving your words to be lies = you are still in contact with him.
And your excuse is some bullshit along the lines of .... he won't stop contacting me.
... as if you're at gunpoint, being forced to respond.
I get so tired of everyones bullshit ... take control of your own goddam life, and quit blaming the fact that you can't control yourself on him.
I happen to see P-Angels response before I logged on. Thanks but no thanks to our negative and almost insulting replies. You do know you have the option of not reading or replying to my "bullshit" if it bothers you.
Mstiffany7: Off topic but are you new? P is our resident asshole so you may as well block her now cuz she's here to stay.
Back to the topic... You gotta cut him off. Can you not block him? Sometimes P does make valid points through her incessant bitching.
Back to the topic... You gotta cut him off. Can you not block him? Sometimes P does make valid points through her incessant bitching.
Posted by ninjamu
Mstiffany7: Off topic but are you new? P is our resident asshole so you may as well block her now cuz she's here to stay.
Back to the topic... You gotta cut him off. Can you not block him? Sometimes P does make valid points through her incessant bitching.
Hi, Yes I am new and thanks for sharing about P...lol. I thought she/he had it out for me or something.
Also, yes I could block him. And I agree her/his points are at times very valid but the delivery is so unnecessary. 🙂
Posted by ninjamu
Mstiffany7: Off topic but are you new? P is our resident asshole so you may as well block her now cuz she's here to stay.
+1
You're welcome by the way for the feedback hun. I completely understanding cutting him off so you can move on and not feel bitter.
Remember that bitch flip is there even if you have to dig in deep to reach it...it's there. Trust me I don't like flipping it neither but you gotta do what you gotta do. Oh and be consistent, that's a must!! God speed.
Posted by tbirdPosted by ninjamu
Mstiffany7: Off topic but are you new? P is our resident asshole so you may as well block her now cuz she's here to stay.
+1
You're welcome by the way for the feedback hun. I completely understanding cutting him off so you can move on and not feel bitter.
Remember that bitch flip is there even if you have to dig in deep to reach it...it's there. Trust me I don't like flipping it neither but you gotta do what you gotta do. Oh and be consistent, that's a must!! God speed.click to expand
you're so right!! thanks for this. it's super hard to be mean to someone when you care about them but I know I have to be consistent!! 🙂
You're welcome hun! You're preaching the to choir! *raises hands* Sing the praise!
What the fuck are you babbling about now?
Being mean to him?
As in .. you can't handle your feelings, so you'll resort to being mean to him to try and get him to not want you.
Looks like you are still looking for ways to put all responsibility on him .... and you have absolutely no conviction to care enough about your own honor, and will no attempt to get him to do your dirty work for you by being mean to him because you haven't got the balls to own up to yourself, and just walk away from him if that is what is needed.
:::: shakes head ::::
I can't believe people are actually telling you to play head games with him in how you treat him. But, of course, look who it is telling you .... really can't expect respect from someone like that.
Being mean to him?
As in .. you can't handle your feelings, so you'll resort to being mean to him to try and get him to not want you.
Looks like you are still looking for ways to put all responsibility on him .... and you have absolutely no conviction to care enough about your own honor, and will no attempt to get him to do your dirty work for you by being mean to him because you haven't got the balls to own up to yourself, and just walk away from him if that is what is needed.
:::: shakes head ::::
I can't believe people are actually telling you to play head games with him in how you treat him. But, of course, look who it is telling you .... really can't expect respect from someone like that.
I think he's torn...
If you play games with him, you're only ducking away from your own feelings, right? Then you'll be sad because you're missing him AND you're being a bitch. Why put yourself thru that?
Be honest and be firm. Why not just tell him that because you have feelings for him you must protect yourself. No back and forth, no flip flopping. Because of this you are unable to maintain contact.
If you hope he one day gets his shit together, tell him... then cut him off. If his feelings for you are true... maybe he will find the balls to figure out what he really wants and make a decision. But if you stand in the wings, crying and playing games... what the hell do you have to offer him? Crying and game playing...
You're being weak... maybe you like the heart ache and drama, you are a Cancer, lol! 😉
If you play games with him, you're only ducking away from your own feelings, right? Then you'll be sad because you're missing him AND you're being a bitch. Why put yourself thru that?
Be honest and be firm. Why not just tell him that because you have feelings for him you must protect yourself. No back and forth, no flip flopping. Because of this you are unable to maintain contact.
If you hope he one day gets his shit together, tell him... then cut him off. If his feelings for you are true... maybe he will find the balls to figure out what he really wants and make a decision. But if you stand in the wings, crying and playing games... what the hell do you have to offer him? Crying and game playing...
You're being weak... maybe you like the heart ache and drama, you are a Cancer, lol! 😉
Please be nice, P-Angel!
Tiffany is going through a lot right now, because as Shellshocker said, she is torn.
She wants to be with him, but his bad behavior has her annoyed.
Tiffany, I owe you a detailed response to your new answers.
Tiffany is going through a lot right now, because as Shellshocker said, she is torn.
She wants to be with him, but his bad behavior has her annoyed.
Tiffany, I owe you a detailed response to your new answers.
::shakes head:: put on your bifocals woman and read the whole post. Duh! If you need for me to break it down for you like I did on other posts so you can digest it in small bites then so be it. You seem to need the cliff notes version of my posts. Jumping to conclusions... yet again. That should be your tag line.
Again I think the only person who cares who you have and don't have respect for is your ownself. Which is how it should be. Get over yourself. It's a tough job to do since you DO have sensible for such a task.
Again I think the only person who cares who you have and don't have respect for is your ownself. Which is how it should be. Get over yourself. It's a tough job to do since you DO have sensible for such a task.
Posted by ScorpioFish
Please be nice, P-Angel!
Tiffany is going through a lot right now, because as Shellshocker said, she is torn.
She wants to be with him, but his bad behavior has her annoyed.
Tiffany, I owe you a detailed response to your new answers.
Hi ScorpioFish! Thanks for sticking up for me on here with P-Devil. She can be harsh and definitely insensitive but maybe hurt people, hurt people. =/
Anyhow, I am definitely looking forward to reading your detailed response! 🙂
:::: shakes head ::::
I'm sure people in here will hold your hand when you answer his call and say it's his fault because he's the one who decided to call you.
I'm sure people in here will hold your hand when you answer his call and say it's his fault because he's the one who decided to call you.
Actually if she answers his call and wants to break it off it's both of theirs. Hers for not following through and his for calling since he does have a gf.
1.) He did but then after a couple days expected me to be back to normal and "cool" again. He was extremely nonchalant but oddly still mentions it only when he wants to talk about things or express his feelings.
2.) Well this was how he mentioned it to as though he needed "time". When later he revealed he wanted to get back with her again and that they had not actually broken up and just stopped talking for a while (like 2 months or so).
3.) Not really because now I do not trust him with my feelings and he lied to me when it wasn't necessary. I think that I conveyed myself as a very understanding woman especially with matters of the heart. =/
4.) In my heart, I don't really want to do that. I just feel like I need to do this for me to move on and be ok and not bitter. I never doubted that he didn't have authentic feelings for me, it was just that he lied and led me on to believe we were working towards something. =/
Hey girl, hey!
It's Dr. Fishy here, here to solve all your love problems with Pisces-Cancer relationships, so buckle up and read on!
1.) You should tell him that he hurt your feelings by keeping his past relationship a secret, and that it hurt you a lot. Tell him that if he would be not hurtful with you, then your relationship wouldn't be so frustrating with him.
2.) Okay, so he is wandering between wanting his ex back and wanting you. Just tell him that he cannot have both, but he needs to be honest with you and tell you who he wants. That way, you can get on with your life if he foolishly chooses his ex. Based on what you told us, she seems to be trouble.
3.) Okay, so he lied about his ex. But, has he ever lied about anything else? Granted that your trust in him has been severely damaged, do you think you could trust him again? Please tell me he is not having sex with this girl, because if he is, then maybe you should consider dating another man who is decent and treats you well.
4.) Yes, you should definitely not try to be bitter since this can hurt your heart. Has he contacted you lately?
Keep your chin up, and keep going! Life is going to throw some hardballs at you, but you can't let stuff get you down!
Posted by tbird
::shakes head:: put on your bifocals woman and read the whole post. Duh! If you need for me to break it down for you like I did on other posts so you can digest it in small bites then so be it. You seem to need the cliff notes version of my posts. Jumping to conclusions... yet again. That should be your tag line.
Again I think the only person who cares who you have and don't have respect for is your ownself. Which is how it should be. Get over yourself. It's a tough job to do since you DO have sensible for such a task.
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C. Most likely yes. He's trying to have his cake and eat it to. He wasn't getting what he wants from his relationship from his g/f so he was getting his ego fluffed by you. He wanted to feel viable in someone elses eyes and that's where you came in and you just oh so conventiently lived in another city to avoid those oh so messy situations of you catching him with his ex or visa versa.
I'm sorry this happened to you. Words of advise ignore then if he doesn't get it. Seek and destroy. Don't be polite even if that's not you. You can shoo the spider out your house but after the 11th time that fuc*er appears you have to squash it and throw it in the toilet and flush it. Fuc* him.