First timer here...I am completely and utterly in love with a pisces man...He pursued me relentlessly..for a few years (we're both married)and I finally let down my guard..We shared a few stolen kisses here and there but never went any further than that...Being neighbours we got together often and played cards and he always wrapped his legs around mine under the table. He once said "what are you doing to me?!" but that's the only thing he actually said to me. He carelessly kissed me on my head twice at a party at another neighbours...Couldn't believe he would do that...That was over a year ago now and since then there has been nothing...just really good friends..but everytime I tried to forget about him he did something to "pull me back" to him again...eg. a long and deep look into my eyes, rubbing my back while hugging him...I sense that he definitely enjoys being close to me. And my god, he makes me laugh, no, giggle like a little school girl..and he always teases me..even now after all this time. I don't see that with his Gemini wife...For a while I got the sense he really tried to be a good father and husband. He hugged his wife in front of me etc. Not sure if he did this to make her happy or to send me a message—...In March when they visited us while away on vacation he could not stop staring into my eyes....it was like we saw into each others souls..the unspoken words were there...and still are. I went to see 2 psychics who both said we're eternal mates and had spent our previous lives together..They both said he had strong feelings for me and that they didn't expect his marriage to last..Great! I expected to hear " he doesn't care about you, forget about him and go on with your life"!...But no...Eventually I thought I'd text message him and put all my cards on the table...how I felt about him, how I fantasized about him, how I saw him....I thought "well, now at least I can judge from his behaviour how he feels about me"....Not so...First day after receiving my 12 page message he seemed visibly "shaken"..next day he stopped his car and smiled at me so lovingly only he can do...but did he answer—...NO, of course not! After about a week or so after that I wrote another one basically saying that since I hadn't heard anything from him I could only assume he wasn't interested and "good bye"...Now he seems more interested ..but still hasn't contacted me...It's like he can't let go of me..like he needs me...to be his cheerleader...?? or lover??..Help!
Pisces male still interested?

Well I didnt want to be the one to do it first. ^^
My Advice: When your both willing to divorce. Give it a go.
My Advice: When your both willing to divorce. Give it a go.
Interesting reading so far. Fortunately I'm nothing like the person you described. I'm not a stalker, killer or anthing of that sort. All I wanted to know was why he would still show an interest if all he wants is a friendship?
Is that a pisces trait? To never let go completely? .Pls save all the nastiness if you care to reply.
Is that a pisces trait? To never let go completely? .Pls save all the nastiness if you care to reply.

I personally feel pisces are in love with being in love. The fun, fresh, flirty feeling of love. They are also tend to focus mainly on the elaborate dream they have n their heads than the reality of a situation. So he could very well be aware the reality will never be as good as the dream.

The 12 page letter killed the dream.
The "defeatist" text message sent an alarm to him that the excitement would be over if he didnt start the activity up again.
The "defeatist" text message sent an alarm to him that the excitement would be over if he didnt start the activity up again.

12 pages?
This must be a joke ... what sane and rational adult would send a married man a 12 page love letter?
Let me ask you: Did you really expect an answer from him?
Like .. really? Hahahahahahahaha ...
Do yourself a favor and crawl out of his ass, and back into your shell .. for apparantly, you are easy prey and he's targeting.
Advise for the young and naive: If a man is married and romances another woman while still maintaining his marriage .. then he is using you for something = IT IS NOT LOVE. If a man does this, and you are so naive that you will let him ... then once he gets what he wants from you, he will drop your ass like a bad habit, and never look back to even care one iota about your broken heart.
Didn't you say that you are married, also?
It's irrelevant whether this is a Piscean trait, or not .... what is relevant is that you aren't exhibiting any valuable morals to honor and be treated with respect!
You can get upset with bijou for telling you the truth and calling it being nasty, and you can get upset with me for telling you the truth, if you choose ..... but, it doesn't change you being a blind-fool, and selfishly participating in wrecking innocent peoples lives .. and with absolutely NO concern. There isn't one word in the OP to suggest any kind of remorse, or guilt, or pain on your end for what injuries you are inflicting upon the innocent victims .. there is only concern about your own little ittle tiny feelings .. and your feelings are little and tiny .. they are insignificant compared to the innocent victims in which you are intentionally abusing ....
.. if you can't see that, then God help you.
This must be a joke ... what sane and rational adult would send a married man a 12 page love letter?
Let me ask you: Did you really expect an answer from him?
Like .. really? Hahahahahahahaha ...
Do yourself a favor and crawl out of his ass, and back into your shell .. for apparantly, you are easy prey and he's targeting.
Advise for the young and naive: If a man is married and romances another woman while still maintaining his marriage .. then he is using you for something = IT IS NOT LOVE. If a man does this, and you are so naive that you will let him ... then once he gets what he wants from you, he will drop your ass like a bad habit, and never look back to even care one iota about your broken heart.
Didn't you say that you are married, also?
It's irrelevant whether this is a Piscean trait, or not .... what is relevant is that you aren't exhibiting any valuable morals to honor and be treated with respect!
You can get upset with bijou for telling you the truth and calling it being nasty, and you can get upset with me for telling you the truth, if you choose ..... but, it doesn't change you being a blind-fool, and selfishly participating in wrecking innocent peoples lives .. and with absolutely NO concern. There isn't one word in the OP to suggest any kind of remorse, or guilt, or pain on your end for what injuries you are inflicting upon the innocent victims .. there is only concern about your own little ittle tiny feelings .. and your feelings are little and tiny .. they are insignificant compared to the innocent victims in which you are intentionally abusing ....
.. if you can't see that, then God help you.
..I guess sharks are a type of fish too...lots swimming around here I can tell...
12 regular pages ?? No I sent him a text...and no it wasn't just about my
feelings for him...I just wanted him to finally tell me if he wanted me to stick around or forget about him all together....Is it that hard to say "yes" or "no"??
My God, just be honest...one way or another. I just want to get on with my life..I like to dream as much as the other person, but at the end of the day I need more than a dream....I do have a life to live. And I should add I had never been unfaithful in my marriage, nor would I EVER flirt with anybody else...until this Pisces guy started pursuing me relentlessly..and even then it took a long time before I clued in....I guess I should have run like hell...but I didn't....I suppose if it was all about being a pray and then getting tossed out when I'm no longer wanted/needed....well, then that's not a person you would want to be close to anyway, is it? Is that really how Pisces think? Do you really ever love somebody?....or do you just love to love ??...How can you ever experience true love if you don't ever let yourself fall in love with a person, let them into your "other life"? Without being called phsyco I just wanted get some insight into the pisces' mind...if there is one? I have never experienced such a connection before..where you can look into someone's eyes and "carry on" a non verbal conversation...Stop torturing him—...Are you for real? He sure doesn't act as if he's hurting. Probably loves it when I boost his belief in himself..and laugh at his jokes...who wouldn't. So sad...because when we're close everything just seems right...we truly enjoy each other's company...but that's life I guess...And now I need to really end this..and focus on the positive...on what he did give me......I wish life was as easy for me as it seems to be for a few of you!!..You sure know what you think, want.....so un-pisces like!...
12 regular pages ?? No I sent him a text...and no it wasn't just about my
feelings for him...I just wanted him to finally tell me if he wanted me to stick around or forget about him all together....Is it that hard to say "yes" or "no"??
My God, just be honest...one way or another. I just want to get on with my life..I like to dream as much as the other person, but at the end of the day I need more than a dream....I do have a life to live. And I should add I had never been unfaithful in my marriage, nor would I EVER flirt with anybody else...until this Pisces guy started pursuing me relentlessly..and even then it took a long time before I clued in....I guess I should have run like hell...but I didn't....I suppose if it was all about being a pray and then getting tossed out when I'm no longer wanted/needed....well, then that's not a person you would want to be close to anyway, is it? Is that really how Pisces think? Do you really ever love somebody?....or do you just love to love ??...How can you ever experience true love if you don't ever let yourself fall in love with a person, let them into your "other life"? Without being called phsyco I just wanted get some insight into the pisces' mind...if there is one? I have never experienced such a connection before..where you can look into someone's eyes and "carry on" a non verbal conversation...Stop torturing him—...Are you for real? He sure doesn't act as if he's hurting. Probably loves it when I boost his belief in himself..and laugh at his jokes...who wouldn't. So sad...because when we're close everything just seems right...we truly enjoy each other's company...but that's life I guess...And now I need to really end this..and focus on the positive...on what he did give me......I wish life was as easy for me as it seems to be for a few of you!!..You sure know what you think, want.....so un-pisces like!...

"Is that really how Pisces think? Do you really ever love somebody?....or do you just love to love ??...How can you ever experience true love if you don't ever let yourself fall in love with a person, let them into your "other life"?"
The above response is all based around him not falling for you because you believe this to be true love. Just because he isn't in love with you doesn't mean he is incapable of falling in love with a person.
Instead of actually "listening" to the message given you, and what it means .. you would take the position of assuming Pisces people don't know how to love simply because he isn't in love with YOU ..
.. as if you are all that ..
"I wish life was as easy for me as it seems to be for a few of you!!..You sure know what you think, want.....so un-pisces like!..."
Un-pisces like? In other words ... because we are sure that we know what we think and want ... this makes us un-pisces like?
"Being neighbours we got together often and played cards and he always wrapped his legs around mine under the table."
Were your spouses present when you two played with each other under the table?
The above response is all based around him not falling for you because you believe this to be true love. Just because he isn't in love with you doesn't mean he is incapable of falling in love with a person.
Instead of actually "listening" to the message given you, and what it means .. you would take the position of assuming Pisces people don't know how to love simply because he isn't in love with YOU ..
.. as if you are all that ..
"I wish life was as easy for me as it seems to be for a few of you!!..You sure know what you think, want.....so un-pisces like!..."
Un-pisces like? In other words ... because we are sure that we know what we think and want ... this makes us un-pisces like?
"Being neighbours we got together often and played cards and he always wrapped his legs around mine under the table."
Were your spouses present when you two played with each other under the table?
I agree..and I really feel I have said it all...And in the end I am very
aware that he could/probably would cheat on me too if we were to get together.
I'm not stupid...lol..regardless what you think. I just happened to have had my whole life turned upside down and never ever expected to meet someone who could affect me the way he does. And it scares me that I, for the first time in my life don't seem to be in control of my feelings. I wish I could just turn them off...but this pisces guy is so "persistant"...he continually teases me, charms me, always laughs out loud with me.....I have never met anybody like him in my life!...It's like he can see right through me!..I can't hide anything from him.
Anyway, I guess in his mind, he justifies his pursuit of married women (?..Surely there are others too)with the fact that his wife isn't so sympathetic to his needs... Thank you for taking the time to knock some sense into my head...I will do my best to avoid this guy in the future..You're right..nothing good would come out of this....
aware that he could/probably would cheat on me too if we were to get together.
I'm not stupid...lol..regardless what you think. I just happened to have had my whole life turned upside down and never ever expected to meet someone who could affect me the way he does. And it scares me that I, for the first time in my life don't seem to be in control of my feelings. I wish I could just turn them off...but this pisces guy is so "persistant"...he continually teases me, charms me, always laughs out loud with me.....I have never met anybody like him in my life!...It's like he can see right through me!..I can't hide anything from him.
Anyway, I guess in his mind, he justifies his pursuit of married women (?..Surely there are others too)with the fact that his wife isn't so sympathetic to his needs... Thank you for taking the time to knock some sense into my head...I will do my best to avoid this guy in the future..You're right..nothing good would come out of this....

"with the fact that his wife isn't so sympathetic to his needs"
All people, regardless of gender, IF they are attempting to capture another, while living within the constitution of marriage will ALWAYS tell this person they are trying to get that their marriage is in trouble, or that their partner isn't loving them ..... they do this with intentions of making YOU sympathetic to his needs.
A guy knows he isn't going to capture you if he tells you ... "My wife is very good to me, she understands my needs and is always there for me."
Think about that .... OF COURSE he told you that his wife isn't sympathetic to his needs.
Beware of players ... very aware .. if a guy is married, and wishes to continue in his marriage ......... then he's LYING to you about how he feels about you, to get somethign from you.
All people, regardless of gender, IF they are attempting to capture another, while living within the constitution of marriage will ALWAYS tell this person they are trying to get that their marriage is in trouble, or that their partner isn't loving them ..... they do this with intentions of making YOU sympathetic to his needs.
A guy knows he isn't going to capture you if he tells you ... "My wife is very good to me, she understands my needs and is always there for me."
Think about that .... OF COURSE he told you that his wife isn't sympathetic to his needs.
Beware of players ... very aware .. if a guy is married, and wishes to continue in his marriage ......... then he's LYING to you about how he feels about you, to get somethign from you.
You know, P-Angel, I wish this pisces guy would be as direct and honest like you
are, but unfortunately he's not. He's just evasive.....with a huge dis-arming smile..
And I wasn't referring to myself when I talked about love. But so many times when you read about pisces you almost get a feeling they like to dream about you more than they want to be with you—?...So I was just curious if any of this is true?...
And no, God knows, I don't think I'm "all that"...Would be nice though!! Come to think of it, the pisces guy made me feel like I was "all that"...
And please don't take my comments too seriously...
Just know that your comments do help me..strangely enough...
I probably would have reacted the same way if I had read my first message (having 2 glasses of wine before I wrote it didn't help either..).
Well..my rose coloured glasses are off...Now I just have to make the best of the situation...I got myself into this mess...now I have to get myself out of it...
are, but unfortunately he's not. He's just evasive.....with a huge dis-arming smile..
And I wasn't referring to myself when I talked about love. But so many times when you read about pisces you almost get a feeling they like to dream about you more than they want to be with you—?...So I was just curious if any of this is true?...
And no, God knows, I don't think I'm "all that"...Would be nice though!! Come to think of it, the pisces guy made me feel like I was "all that"...
And please don't take my comments too seriously...
Just know that your comments do help me..strangely enough...
I probably would have reacted the same way if I had read my first message (having 2 glasses of wine before I wrote it didn't help either..).
Well..my rose coloured glasses are off...Now I just have to make the best of the situation...I got myself into this mess...now I have to get myself out of it...
Actually, his Gemini wife is completely into herself...doesn't really appreciate
him for who he is...Never seem too happy together...She would never let on though...Many times she takes over the conversation completely..like he's not capable or able to finish a story on his own
and she goes on, and on, and on...while he sits there all quiet. When it's only him and
me I love to listen to him..He has so much to tell...She has no idea...she never lets herself slow down, shut up and just listen to him, absorb it all. Funny..I wonder how they got together in the first place...She's 7 years older...Perhaps he needed a "mother"?
Pains me to see.....She's quite cold...
him for who he is...Never seem too happy together...She would never let on though...Many times she takes over the conversation completely..like he's not capable or able to finish a story on his own
and she goes on, and on, and on...while he sits there all quiet. When it's only him and
me I love to listen to him..He has so much to tell...She has no idea...she never lets herself slow down, shut up and just listen to him, absorb it all. Funny..I wonder how they got together in the first place...She's 7 years older...Perhaps he needed a "mother"?
Pains me to see.....She's quite cold...

Perhaps, she is all what you said above, and maybe even more ..
The fact is .. he is with her by choice.
So, if he is over-shadowed by her to sit quiely and let her rule .. then this doesn't make him a victim .. a victim has no choice.
Don't fall prey to his victim mentality, if this is what he is trying to project to you .... because he isn't one.
In any event, glad you were able to gleen something valuable from posting your situation in here ...
The fact is .. he is with her by choice.
So, if he is over-shadowed by her to sit quiely and let her rule .. then this doesn't make him a victim .. a victim has no choice.
Don't fall prey to his victim mentality, if this is what he is trying to project to you .... because he isn't one.
In any event, glad you were able to gleen something valuable from posting your situation in here ...
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