Pisces Women and Exes?

About 2 months ago I met this woman online. We went on our first dinner date at the beginning of Oct, and then things started getting faster. We went on two more dates in the next week, and on the third date we had sex. Ever since then we would see eachother twice a week, typically me staying at her place overnight. We planned a couple costume for Halloween. I got to meet her closest friends. Then I got to meet her mother and sister the following day. We continued to escalate, and eventually she started to say words like "relationship" and calling me "mi amor". We still see one another twice a week, she's seen my closest friends, and last Thursday she got to meet my parents. She was worried they didn't like her, but they had nothing but good things to say, and that made her ecstatic. We have a couple more lengthy dates planned next week, and another around Christmas. Truthfully, I'm hesitant to pour my heart out, but this time I truly believe that I've found my soulmate (we are both Pisces after all), and after seeing her with my parents I truly think I'm in love with her.

I know that I'm overthinking, but there's one aspect that's bothering me today before our date night. About 3 weeks ago one of her two roommates (both guys) heard us having sex. She got a text from him the next morning saying as much. The problem is that they used to be together. He cheated on her two separate times, and ultimately didn't love her. Now, however, he's been going through hard times (dumped by the girl he cheated with, and lost his job), and hates my guts because I'm with her. I've not seen him in 3 weeks despite them living together. I used to ring the door bell, now I have to let her know when I've arrived instead. We haven't slept together in a week and a half, and I've not been in her house since then either. Today we're supposed to have a stay-in and cook dinner date, which she has now requested we reschedule. We're now just going out for the night, and we're not going anywhere near the house.

I guess my question is, is it unusual that she's living with an ex? Is she keeping me from the house because of him? I'm not too terribly worried about her feelings for me, I'm more concerned that this dude gets to spend more time with her, and they have a history, and I worry that he may be trying to convince her to come back, only because he can't have her. How do Piscean women handle friendships with exes? Because she maintains them all (and I do as well).

It's much more likely that she cannot afford the rent without him. Keep treating her right and she'll never look his way, even if he promises the moon.

We pisces like thoughtful gestures (as I'm sure you know, being a pisces yourself). So do/plan something thoughtful for her the next time you meet up.

I'm not too terribly worried about her feelings for me, I'm more concerned that this dude gets to spend more time with her, and they have a history, and I worry that he may be trying to convince her to come back, only because he can't have her. (long sentence). As we Piscean go on and on when it comes to our feelings. BTW, I'm Pisces, too.

First of all, you HAVE to care about her feelings for you, because you come first (she's Pisces, too). Read up on two Pisces dating, falling in love, marrying, etc. They are not compatible since both have to give and take. So what if she has an ex (who is now her room mate) living with her. She's dating you. Remember how you are as a "peaceful" Pisces where you don't want chaos? Well, that's is what she wants....peace. What better way to maintain that peace by "separating" you with her ex? Don't you see that (even though you posted you don't care about her feelings for you) she is protecting you from him? Isn't that the gallant Piscean woman that she is?

Pisces is NOT a jealous sign (at least I am speaking for myself as I'll get bombarded with pros/cons about this emotion); so why get jealous about the ex dude? If she sees more of him, well, what's new? She had no love interest until you met her on line. EVERY ex loves it when their significant other is "alone, dateless, not seeing anyone, etc." until she ACTUALLY meets someone.

Second of all, cannot you and she be more "quieter" when making love in an apartment where you know she has room mates? If they were all girls, then they would laugh it off at the breakfast table when you left; but this is an ex boyfriend. What were you both proving? That you are better than the ex? Suggest next time, LOL, you cover her mouth with a pillow (we Piscean women love that; or cusp her mouth with your hand and use "shhhhhhhhhhhhhh" words) OR take her to your place and howl at the moon!

Third, talk to your Piscean woman. You know we HATE to be ignored. Communication is a must. Let her know how difficult it has been and the situation has changed with her separating her ex and you. Tell her you miss her and what can ya'll come up as the best solution to the "problem". Good luck.

A couple reasons, the foremost of them being her schedule. We live about an hour and fifteen minutes apart, and she works 6 days a week at around 6am. The other reason being that I am living with my parents currently, and she's only just met them.

Posted by EvatheDiva
I'm not too terribly worried about her feelings for me, I'm more concerned that this dude gets to spend more time with her, and they have a history, and I worry that he may be trying to convince her to come back, only because he can't have her. (long sentence). As we Piscean go on and on when it comes to our feelings. BTW, I'm Pisces, too.

First of all, you HAVE to care about her feelings for you, because you come first (she's Pisces, too). Read up on two Pisces dating, falling in love, marrying, etc. They are not compatible since both have to give and take. So what if she has an ex (who is now her room mate) living with her. She's dating you. Remember how you are as a "peaceful" Pisces where you don't want chaos? Well, that's is what she wants....peace. What better way to maintain that peace by "separating" you with her ex? Don't you see that (even though you posted you don't care about her feelings for you) she is protecting you from him? Isn't that the gallant Piscean woman that she is?

Pisces is NOT a jealous sign (at least I am speaking for myself as I'll get bombarded with pros/cons about this emotion); so why get jealous about the ex dude? If she sees more of him, well, what's new? She had no love interest until you met her on line. EVERY ex loves it when their significant other is "alone, dateless, not seeing anyone, etc." until she ACTUALLY meets someone.

Second of all, cannot you and she be more "quieter" when making love in an apartment where you know she has room mates? If they were all girls, then they would laugh it off at the breakfast table when you left; but this is an ex boyfriend. What were you both proving? That you are better than the ex? Suggest next time, LOL, you cover her mouth with a pillow (we Piscean women love that; or cusp her mouth with your hand and use "shhhhhhhhhhhhhh" words) OR take her to your place and howl at the moon!

Third, talk to your Piscean woman. You know we HATE to be ignored. Communication is a must. Let her know how difficult it has been and the situation has changed with her separating her ex and you. Tell her you miss her and what can ya'll come up as the best solution to the "problem". Good luck.

I think there may be some slight confusion here, as I don't mean I don't "care" about her feelings, it's that I'm not worried that she's lost feelings for me. I mean to say I know we have feelings for one another, and I'm not scared that will be going away. You definitely make decent points, and I intend to always bring her the peace of mind she so deserves. As for my jealousy, it stems from my history of being cheated on, and hence why I overthink things.

It appears as though she has been excused by you for having to be held accountable for her actions ... while, your only focus is on a person you're not in a relationship with.

How passive aggressive.

You seem to only think in terms of possession and territory, to lay concern on a dude who might take your territory .....



It was HER job to put him in his place ... you seem to fail to recognize that, and have blame on the dude who is only treating her and this situation according to how she has allowed him to.

My suggestion to you is to get your perspective straight. If you continue like this, then your relationship with her is on the ego surface, and doesn't have any real value anyway.

Posted by LadyNeptune
It's much more likely that she cannot afford the rent without him. Keep treating her right and she'll never look his way, even if he promises the moon.

We pisces like thoughtful gestures (as I'm sure you know, being a pisces yourself). So do/plan something thoughtful for her the next time you meet up.

I plan to do just that! We have a couple days together next Friday, and one of them is a surprise date night to see a concert that she will be absolutely in love with. She currently has no idea (that I know of) of the actual event, and it should be magical 🙂.

Posted by P-Angel


It appears as though she has been excused by you for having to be held accountable for her actions ... while, your only focus is on a person you're not in a relationship with.

How passive aggressive.

You seem to only think in terms of possession and territory, to lay concern on a dude who might take your territory .....



It was HER job to put him in his place ... you seem to fail to recognize that, and have blame on the dude who is only treating her and this situation according to how she has allowed him to.

My suggestion to you is to get your perspective straight. If you continue like this, then your relationship with her is on the ego surface, and doesn't have any real value anyway.

I actually very much thank you for this perspective. I hadn't been thinking of it in those terms. I definitely don't intend to lay claim to her, and I regret if it comes across as such. This has helped tremendously.

Posted by P-Angel


It appears as though she has been excused by you for having to be held accountable for her actions ... while, your only focus is on a person you're not in a relationship with.

How passive aggressive.

You seem to only think in terms of possession and territory, to lay concern on a dude who might take your territory .....



It was HER job to put him in his place ... you seem to fail to recognize that, and have blame on the dude who is only treating her and this situation according to how she has allowed him to.

My suggestion to you is to get your perspective straight. If you continue like this, then your relationship with her is on the ego surface, and doesn't have any real value anyway.

I agree 200%