Please help with an elusive pisces man

I may have pushed the pisces man i was with too far. He wasn't responding to my texts/calls etc. so I kept sending them, they were all very polite, kind and heartfelt no anger in them. The question is if I stop now, is there a chance he will eventually come round and not swim away permanently (as the saying goes, it's better late than never) or please advise the best course of action i need to take to get him back. From a scorpio girl.

Posted by mupton

He wasn't responding to my texts/calls etc. so I kept sending them ...

lol



::: shakes head :::





Seriously .... ::: shakes head :::

You have two options.

1) Do everything you want and bug him. And when you're numb with the pain, just let go. At least you wont have to deal with the what if situation. But give yourself a limit. Like a week, like up until when can you give your time and attention to this kind of thing. You know there's a lot more important things to handle than this. When he feels like you're away, he MIGHT come back. Or maybe he just needs you, he'll come back.

2) Just back away. NOW. And when you're lucky enough. In the future, maybe he'll come back.

This happened to me last week. And now that he needs me, he talked to me all of a sudden. But the first meeting after everything, was just too awkward. It's like before you're flirty and all and you know it's gonna end up in sex but now, there's that line between you two and maybe it's up to you two whether you guys will pull each other to cross that. It would take so much effort but if you're really not giving up, then maybe just prepare yourself for more emotions.

For me, now I know, that things may actually end up to another casual relationship. But what they hey, at least now I know, and I'd stick first with its benefits, and will try to remove the feelings first.

Lmao the funniest part is the 5 words after the I kept sending them. Btw how many times did you send them—

I sent them about twice a day.

Seriously people, just tell the person you don't like them anymore. We can handle it.

I'm not a Pisces but I find this is not true. at.all.

I've tried being honest in a situation like this, several times with both males and females... and boy, oh boy do they not get the message. You can tell someone how you feel, and if it is not spoken in exactly the way they expect... the message is often not received. It takes so much time for someone to get their head around something as simple as.. "I don't like you anymore."

I recently ended a relationship. Directly, I said that person did something inappropriate and our relationship could no longer continue. Their reply, "If I did something wrong, just tell me!" I literally yelled, "I just did!"
That person continued to defend and try to fix things. Then started to cry, and cry and tried to have me make them feel better. Seriously? I've told you how I feel... now you want to get all emotional on me and have me carry your feelings about this. Sorry..

All in all, it took four days of back and forth... I cared about this person after a 5 year relationship and that is the ONLY reason why I put up with it. If it was anyone else... I'd just fade away too and not have to deal with the hysterics

Can we just fast forward to the part where Mupton gives into her true inner crazy Scorpio and becomes psycho and vengeful. That would be much more interesting.

Posted by capgirl75
Well, of course the person will be upset, especially after a 5 year relationship.
Even if you don't want to hear the crying, you could always hang up on them or leave. Then it's real easy for the person to accept, because the person will think you are a jerk.

Hmm... I didn't want to sacrifice myself as the jerk. In this case, this person screwed me over big time.. and admitted it. I did not want them to think their actions were ok... and make me the jerk so they wouldn't have to accept responsibility. I did this because I cared about them and wanted them to grow and not repeat because their actions have consequences.

That's why I held their hand emotionally... even though I didn't want to.

I agree with all that has been said...

I think it all comes down to if everyone took responsibility for their own actions/emotions.... we wouldn't have to hide, be mean, repeat ourselves, be confused, go bat shit crazy, or stalk people...

but we don't do that as humans so... carry on! 🙂

Posted by mupton
I may have pushed the pisces man i was with too far.

I mean look at the OP... she KNOWS what she did. Yet, she wants him to carry her feelings for her. That is more my idea of selfish..

In every type of relationship I have .... I can tell by how other people react/respond where I stand with them.

When I was a baby, I began my life lessons in learning feelings, and how people react to feelings.

At no point has there ever been a time that I didn't realize that the person I was relating with was wanting to back away from me, if this were the case.

People will say, "I'm confused" .. which means = they don't want to accept the reality of the situation. They aren't confused, just as I am NEVER confused when a person I'm relating with wants to step away.

People tend to ignore what they don't want to know.


There's no doubt in my mind that in this situation, and will all of these situations people post about ... this guy has been giving signals, through his reactions to her, that he wanted to step away from her .. and because she doesn't want to accept the reality of it, she ignored it.



Now, because she can't accept it, due to ignorance .... she makes an even bigger fool of herself by chasing a person who doesn't want her.

In my eyes, that is a huge disgrace a person does to theirself .... how can a person live with themselves knowing they are chasing after a person who threw them away?

I wouldn't consider that challenge to emotional, rather awareness ... you have an awareness challenge.

Are you one of those people who stand in the middle of the grocery isle, as someone tries to get by, and you are totally oblivious to your surroundings and don't realize someone needs to get past you .. and so they have to say, "Excuse me", to get your attention?




With this situation .. how could a person NOT realize they are being avoided? If a person can't realize this, they are more than challenged, they are bordering on brain dead.

Yip peoples way of getting attention is not only off but indirect. This to me speaks into the future sounds like problems I wonder do people comprehend how incomplete they actually do things. People no and are aware but when in that grocery store as yoi watch them to see actually are they going to move you see a eye flicker as they watch if your actually going to bump them. This of course sits itself inside relationships as no one respects anything but power and all power leaves is fire and brimstone. Who the fuck likes to be trieded even the most meekest man or woman gets tired of you not loving them. Btw if you think you pushed him to far something happended before you blew up his phone that part is not in this thread where is it—?

I'll go into a bit more detail: Together for a month - things were really good between us, we had a good chemistry and he told me how much he liked me etc. Just recently I wasn't my usual self (had a bad day, I was quiet / miserable etc), so the next day he dumped me saying we don't have a connection. This was news to me! - he'd being saying the complete opposite up until that day. If someone likes you it doesn't make sense to change your mind after one day! That's what I can't get my head around. A question for you pisces is, if you can change your mind that easily without just cause (ie. I didn't upset or hurt his feelings), can you change it back again? If so, in what circumstances do you change your mind back again and what's the best thing I can do to get him back? if any.

Posted by P-Angel


There's no doubt in my mind that in this situation, and will all of these situations people post about ... this guy has been giving signals, through his reactions to her, that he wanted to step away from her .. and because she doesn't want to accept the reality of it, she ignored it.



Now, because she can't accept it, due to ignorance .... she makes an even bigger fool of herself by chasing a person who doesn't want her.

seems like in this situation, signals were not even required... a straight out "i don't want to be with you" is being ignored on her part.

Mupton, there is absolutely nothing confusing here. Consider it a life lesson...

Posted by capgirl75

Posted by P-Angel


Are you one of those people who stand in the middle of the grocery isle, as someone tries to get by, and you are totally oblivious to your surroundings and don't realize someone needs to get past you .. and so they have to say, "Excuse me", to get your attention?
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Haha, no. I hate it when that happens by the way.
I will admit to not always paying attention to everything that is going on though.
For instance, I was at the flea market last Saturday and yesterday one of my students told me he had seen me there. I totally did not notice him there at all. Apparently he works there, so I guess I walked right past him.

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There's a bit of a difference between your answer and what she asked. It's one thing to know whether a person in the same aisle is trying to get past you, it's another to pick out a familiar face in a crowd. If I had to guess, being a Cap you would know when someone's trying to get by, unless you're deep in thought or having an ADD moment 😛... But to get to the heart of the question, the fundamental difference between how a person reacts in any situation most likely boils down to what the dominant elements are in their natal chart. Fire signs learn best from conflict, earth signs learn best through intuition, air signs learn best by logic, and water signs learn best by sensing, a mixture of all of the above. But becoming aware of something is only half the battle, the trick is all in how you react to it. Hence why Pisces, the last sign and oldest soul of the zodiac, can be so delusional and escapist, because reality isn't always as beautiful as some would like to think.