Please! Picses men! Tell me what He is doing!!!!

So I met a Picses man a while back , we CLICKED! He was kind, beautiful heart! , He treated me like a princess! Told me what I wanted to hear ,I felt loved! ..We have a long distance Relationship.. We are not officially together. He is going through allot of things (poor guy) I would love to help fix it but dont know how.. ok so here we go, When he told me he loves me so much I believe him , yet One day he will be all inlove (open) and the next ,very quiet,and I know he hates when I ask questions but Im worried , Today he said something like (you should know that I love you ) ..Will I wit forver for this guy , Or will he make a dicision? What can I do while I wait ? Please help!
Butterfly!

Also I asked him " so do you think Its possible for us to be together one day " Cuz we talked about this allot , and marriage is really important to him ,it is to me aswell .. anyway he just said "well YEAH!" and then said that he will love me forever and said that he does think of being with me , the thing is is making that step , making it official! .. so thats what I mean when I say will I wait forever ? I dont understand the sign.. Im a Leo , and very open .. he said He does love It when I talk about my feelings but It is a little strange when He just sais nothing in return.. AHHHHH THE TERROR! 🙂

Easy ... slow down, relax, or you'll frighten the Fish away.

We require time/space to dive .. without being able to process what is happening in our life in our depth of waters .. we cannot make a decision or determination.

It takes time ... he says he really wants to be with you .. let him swim in his emotional pond to mull it over.


Heads-up for future reference .. ALL men need space to think about emotions. If you come on too strong, or become too forceful for a commitment .. they'll swim.

P-ANGEL
I understand wghat you mean about space, this is something Im working on...
Now do Picses like attention , is there such a thing as too much attention? should I express my love for him oor this is bad ? what can I do to make this pleasant for him ?

Butterflyfix,

Focus on you. Although it may seem exciting now this is probably not a one time thing with this man. You will grow tired of guessing his next moves. So don't. Keep in mind that you are the prize. You can't lay down your life for this dude just yet. You have places to go people to see! Enjoy your life. Do not let him call all the shots. Just play it by ear and let things happen naturally.

butterfly .. oftentimes, Leo appears very overbearing to us in the aspect of "attention" .. they give much, and want much. Not saying it's a bad thing .. just A LOT for Fish to bare.


We spend an excessive amount of time alone .. we like to be alone. When we are with our partners, we love tons of attention .. but, when we are in our space, we want solitude .. no phone calls, no visitors.

It's not uncommon for a Pisces to say in here, in which we've talked about on many occasions .... that we could spend hours upon hours a day being all by ourselves.

So, I wouldn't say that we don't like attention ... we just don't like to be interupted when in our private zone.

Yes. And it doesn't matter if the "private zone" kicks in on your birthday, anniversary, graduation, or any other important milestone in life that you want to share with him.

Pisces hates pressure. Anytime you may need him to be there he may feel the pressure and pull a dissapearing act or go into that "private zone". He hates obligation.

So don't apply any pressure or they'll run. Go on about your business and be as independant as you possibly can & he'll be there. Because there's no obligation or pressure.

Lol...no disrespect to his situation but pisces will ALWAYS be going thru a lot of things. The pesky real world will always have pisces under some level of angst. Hence the need for the withdrawal or "private zone".

I think this is true for all water signs but poor pisces wear their hearts on their sleeves. They can't cope unless they escape from it all (which sometimes causes more problems). They mean well but who wants a man that you constantly have to cheer up or one that needs cheering up? You never know if he'll be having one of his moments when you need someone to cheer you up or show u some attention.

If you are the motherly type go for it. Otherwise....RUN!!!

"Whaddyamean they can't cope?? They can cope. They can cope just fine.

And they are good at teaching you and or reminding you (okay, some say abandoning you) that you can too. If you are someone who gets into a relationship and then expects your partner to be your total support system, then not really a good match, I'd say."

What pisces do you know that doesn't need his alone time for survival? They can't cope without withdrawing in some way, be it "private zoning" or "fantasizing". The need for escape is ever present.

I agree with what you said about the total support system. Coming from my point of view tho...when I'm in a relationship with a pisces the roles reverse... I feel like I'm the man and he's the woman. I'm pretty old fashioned. I like my man to take the initiative and to be that support for me when I'm in need. Pisces shouldn't teach or remind people of what they already know. Of course we all know that we can handle things on our own but what's the point in being in a relationship?

Hey bijou

You relationship sounds a lot like mine. My ex is a pisces with a leo moon and venus in aquarius. Mars in Gemini.

Sound like your pisces is fairly stable. Mine was not. But I know he has a good heart and we connected like none other. However, being constantly broke...borrowing $ from me, in a state of constant "about to do" (always about to do something), in and out of jail for petty crimes like simple possession & switching price tags, living with his mother (then getting upset with her & living in his car). Then manipulating me emotionally...

I love to inspire people to live up to their potential. This man has the potential to be GREAT. But he settles for the path of least resistance.

I tend to handle my problems on my own. I just love to be pampered and respected lol. His problems were becoming my problems. I knew I had to leave him when I found myself in handcuffs (long story but it was all his fault I took it as a sign from god to leave him alone).

I didn't get arrested but I did get scolded by the cops "Ur a college grad what are u doing with THIS guy".

Everyone wondered that. But I knew underneath all the trappings of the world like bills, housing, career, etc I knew we had REAL love. I'm not able to ignore the world tho. I'm ambitious...I knew I would have to face "reality" and it would not work. It amazed me how we could think a lot alike but I was able to manifest my dreams in a phsyical sense not just spiritual or mental.

He had 2 sides he was the sweetest and the most cruel guy I ever met. I didn't call him on his bday (I cut him off weeks before...zero contact) and he left a message saying "I can't believe u didn't call me u BITCH!!" Then he called me 7 more times and left a msg saying "ur gonna miss me one day...I miss you now tho..but it'll hit you one day you'll think about this."

So needless to say he wanted me to be stable for him. I just couldn't see how I would be benifiting. It cost me more to be with him then I was getting in return.

Well I usually call and leave him messages everyday , I did not call yesterday and will try really hard not to today! proud? lol.. I just hope he calls 😛

I too get enamored by the potential of people in general, but what I love more about a person is their ambition.

I totally agree.

I can dream all day but when night falls I want start working towards making the dreams a reality. I understand now reality is subjective when it comes to pisces. The dream is the reality. No one wants to be with a walking talking dream. It took me a LONG time to come to this realization when it came to my pisces. I believed in him. Invested in his business...

My life is expanding now. I'm in my 5 personal year. I'm less "love" oriented and more goal oriented. I want to see all of my dreams come true. At this point in life that is more important than a relationship.

My cappy moon could be the culprit.

Thanks!

For me, bijou .. a lot of the times when I can't say something (when I know the words that I want to say), it has to do with the reception that hinders the expression. Sometimes, the words just don't come to mind to express because of emotions being on a level that isn't mental. But, because we live a lifetime, stumbling over words to express feelings, much of the time, what we say appears garbled and incomprehensible to the other ... and after time, we begin to pull away from expressing and remain silent. So, it's not really that we don't know what to say, for we do, it's just scattered ... it's because we've learned that other people can't understand half-sentences and undisciplined trains of thought.

As far as others stumbling over words to say to us ... this isn't an obstacle for me .. for intuitively, I can already feel their mood long before they attempt to express, so normally, I can present words to them and let them fill in the gaps, which they will because they comprehend that I already understand what they're trying to say.

And this appears to be quite common for Pisces .. on one thread, I forget which one, a lady was talking about how she cannot understand what her Pisces man is talking about when they have conversations, so she just nods along and pretends to comprehend (she was a Virgo, I think). This happens to me a lot.

It's unmeasurable .. how many times in my life I've been in a conversation with people and they are all just staring at me with baffled looks on their face, scratching their heads .....

Pisces experience this their whole lives ... so we get to a point where we become disabled in our own heads about it and tell ourselves that we don't know what to say. We do .. but, it's a huge obstacle to us when other people cannot understand, since the only thing any Pisces really desires most in life, is to be understood.

Imagine that ... if the only thing you really want is to be heard and understand, and other people cannot comprehend your words .. the only outcome is psychological damage within the self .....

... hopelessness

Perhaps, encouraging him to jot stuff into a journal at night would give him an avenue in which to download .. and the next day, both of you (when you have time) can sit down and discuss what he needed to get out. I find myself having spurts like that too .. can just talk my fool head off, and then shut-down, and it's gone. Maybe that is a common Pisces trait.

"He got this deer in the headlights look and withdrew and I mistook that for a lack of reciprocity of feeling"
"we will be talking on the phone and I'm the one stumbling around trying to express something .. and I can tell the moment he zones out."

Your first quote wasn't a mistake, bijou .. I've said before, Pisces don't process feelings mentally .. so in reality, we can't empathize with how a person feels, unless we zone out and shift to the "feeling" side of ourselves. That's a horrible fault of ours, and I'm not proud to own it .. but, it exists.

Another thing, concerning the second quote ... everything to us is a feeling experience .. meaning, we shift over to "feel", rather than process mentally, as you know. Well, in so doing this, we know exactly how to put feelings in check, into perspective ... and when we encounter another person who is floundering in emotional chaos, not knowing how to put them in order .. we often tune-out like that. On your end, I'm sure it appears insensitive, and as if we're bored .. and to an extent, this is exactly what it is.

To us, it seems incomprehensible why another person cannot KNOW what it is their feeling, to us, a person looks emotionally handicapped in this capacity ... because we so arrogantly believe that because we can disconnect from emotional turmoil, then everybody else should be able to also .. so, instead of being irritated with the other person, we tune it out and think .. 'what's the big-deal? Put it in perspective and let it pass'. That's really selfish, I know. And then we'll turn around and expect you to listen to us, like he does when he calls at night.

We're probably not even worth the effort, bijou .. for a Pisces has to become fully AWARE of these handicaps we have to really relate to another person because until we are aware of this .. we think it's everybody else who has the awareness/reality problem.

(( hugs )) .. I'm sorry he's frustrating you.

butterflyfix

I'm not a pisces, but listen to these guys here in this forum...they know what they're talking about. I've known this pisces man all my life. When I was really young, he was an older brother that I never had(family), when I was in highschool and then college then he became my friend, I graduated college I started to work with him,he became a collegue/friend. At that point he became my lover then everything became a routine then he became my boss. I stopped being the lover then I became his boss at this point we were competitors/enemies. Now his tired of being my enemy and tired of the games, I don't know what's next.

My point is he'll keep changing on you, he hates getting bored and he hates routine. I'm not talking about all pisces just this one pisces that i know. If you truly love him then you don't have much choice but to go with the flow. They are one mysterious creature.

Don't let your happiness depend on him, that's too much expectation and pressure to put on someone. He will never put that kind of pressure on you.

Bijou

I see you ended up with the pisces guy after all. =)

Just keep listening to what he's not saying. Read his eyes!!

Hi P angel!! =)

Hi Chloe !!

So, things have changed again? Not surprising for a Pisces 🙂

We're a lot of work to keep up with, aren't we? You never know what is lurking around the next bend.

It's wonderful news that you two aren't enemies any longer and trying to work back to the friendship part of it .. though, I sense that you still love him and want back to the way it was.

Is he still with the Scorpio?

I agree with P-Angel, I started to shut my mouth up along the years, no one understands me in work, in family. My colleagues started to joke with this, I let them have their fun, like for instance at dinners, "you get to say 3 words, what a record!" or trying to get into my nerves, they cannot do it, I have no reaction.

With my love one, she understands me more that 50% , but for instance when in some situations I dont say something she thinks im bored, Im never bored when with her, I just fly away once in a while.
Or Im at dinners with colleagues and Im totally off and dont get to answer her phone calls, and she gets very angry and sad.
She gets sad also if she knows people abuse me.

"trying to get into my nerves, they cannot do it, I have no reaction."


I'm exactly like this also, LostPisces .. a person can "say" whatever they want .. they can insult me until the cows come home or throw anything assualt they want .... I'm completely uneffected by it.

Words hold no bearing .. words are mental .. they aren't felt.

P angel

Hi!! Slowly trying to be friends again. We're both very busy with work. I still care about him. I dont wanna go back to the way it was, it's not gonna happen. I dont wanna give him any opportunity to hurt me again.

Yes the scorpio woman is still around, she's getting worse and worse at work though, she's really something else.

Bijou

Thanks...I'm very proud of myself too. =) I'm a lot stronger than I thought.

I'm really happy for you too...Just remember we are the prize!! =)