Sag girl going nuts over Pisces man

I met Pisces about a year ago when he was briefly assigned to one of my projects at work. I didn't really get to know him and was very focused at work so I didn't pay him much attention. About two months ago he IMs me to ask me out for dinner and I agreed.

We continue to text each other often and we would go out with my friends a lot. After hanging out when he drops me home we would have really long hugs and he always says that he loves cuddling. When we text it would always have a lot of hearts, kisses and the playful lovey-dovey stuff. However when the texts started becoming really sexual I told him upfront that I wasn't looking for casual. He has since come over to watch a movie in my place 3 times and he would stay over. However we have never even held hands or kissed. When he stays over we just sleep and not even cuddle (even though he says he loves cuddling).

He did say that he wasn't really looking for anything serious and has commitment issues due to his past relationships. He even said he previously dated a married woman because he knew it wouldn't go anywhere.

Few days ago I started to get the vibe that he was being distant. He will still always reply my IMs and messages but he canceled on our movie plans because he had other engagements. And when I sent him hearts and kisses he wouldn't respond the same way. Last night when I was texting him and I asked him when are we going to do our movie night, he stopped responding and responded 3 hours later with the movie title of what we were supposed to watch.

I am aware of this probably not being long term but I really enjoy being with him and he does give me a new experience and a different perspective in life which I really gravitate to. I am feeling very insecure about myself and where this is going. I am wondering if it’s because I was moving too fast, the last time he stayed over I did try to spoon him. And I have been telling him about the places I really wanted to take him to. With him being distant, not touching me and mentioning that he doesn't want anything serious, I am starting to think that maybe we aren't really dating and this is all in my head. I am obviously emotionally invested in him and I don’t want to be hurt. Logically I think I should just give up on this man, but he is usually very sweet to me and I could use some third party perspective on my situation.

These are our charts if it would help.
Me: Sun – Sag. Moon – Pisces. Venus – Scorpio. Mars – Pisces.
Him: Sun – Pisces. Moon – Sag. Venus – Taurus. Mars – Capricorn.

I met Pisces about a year ago when he was briefly assigned to one of my projects at work. I didn’t really get to know him and was very focused at work so I didn’t pay him much attention. About two months ago he IMs me to ask me out for dinner and I agreed.

We continue to text each other often and we would go out with my friends a lot. After hanging out when he drops me home we would have really long hugs and he always says that he loves cuddling. When we text it would always have a lot of hearts, kisses and the playful lovey dovey stuff. However when the texts started becoming really sexual I told him upfront that I wasn’t looking for casual. He has since come over to watch a movie in my place 3 times and he would stay over. However we have never even held hands or kissed. When he stays over we just sleep and not even cuddle (even though he says he loves cuddling).

He did say that he wasn’t really looking for anything serious and has commitment issues due to his past relationships. He even said he previously dated a married woman because he knew it wouldn’t go anywhere.

Few days ago I started to get the vibe that he was being distant. He will still always reply my IMs and messages but he cancelled on our movie plans because he had other engagements. And when I sent him hearts and kisses he wouldn’t respond the same way. Last night when I was texting him and I asked him when are we going to do our movie night, he stopped responding and responded 3 hours later with the movie title of what we were supposed to watch.

I am aware of this probably not being long term but I really enjoy being with him and he does give me a new experience and a different perspective in life which I really gravitate to. I am feeling very insecure about myself and where this is going. I am wondering if it’s because I was moving too fast, the last time he stayed over I did try to spoon him. And I have been telling him about the places I really wanted to take him to. With him being distant, not touching me and mentioning that he doesn’t want anything serious, I am starting to think that maybe we aren’t really dating and this is all in my head. I am obviously emotionally invested in him and I don’t want to be hurt. Logically I think I should just give up on this man, but he is usually very sweet to me and I could use some third party perspective on my situation.

These are our charts if it would help.
Me: Sun – Sag. Moon – Pisces. Venus – Scorpio. Mars – Pisces.
Him: Sun – Pisces. Moon – Sag. Venus – Taurus. Mars – Capricorn.

"Pisces are always nice to everyone! Don't read too much into that."


Key point

Posted by SadlySaggitarian

When we text it would always have a lot of hearts, kisses and the playful lovey-dovey stuff.

However when the texts started becoming really sexual I told him upfront that I wasn't looking for casual.

So, let me get this straight ..... you send him kisses and lovey-dovey messages, and then say "no" when he picks up on your cues?

So, in other words ... you're just fucking with his head.

You're dick teasing him, apparently. because a decent respectful woman who has values and morals wouldn't send lovey messages to get a person to chase her just so she can say "no". women like that get raped/

Posted by SadlySaggitarian

He has since come over to watch a movie in my place 3 times and he would stay over. However we have never even held hands or kissed. When he stays over we just sleep and not even cuddle (even though he says he loves cuddling).

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The last part of this quote, that you have in parenthesis, "(even though he says he loves cuddling)" .... insinuates that you want him to cuddle you, you want him to react to your signals of suggesting "yes", just so you can tell him "no" ..... right?

What other reason is there for you to write out how he's not cuddling you? So, the reality is ... you want him to be fucked over by you, you WANT to mess with him.

If you were innocent, you represent that. But, you don't. You represent yourself as dick tease.




The unspoken offer of pussy from a gaming woman doesn't get females far any longer ...... so, you should change your game.

Thanks for giving such great insight.

I really like what you said Infinite8 and it really resonated with me. I do think he is interested in me just from the way things have happened between us. But you are right to say that he was clear about not wanting anything serious and i shouldnt have pretended that he didnt say that! And you are absolutely right about putting attention in a man that wants me! Its funny how I feel everything was so obvious now that you have mentioned it. Sometimes it is difficult to put yourself out of a situation to think objectively. So i do appreciate it.

To P-Angel, i suppose what i wrote may have sounded that way but that certainly was not my intention. I don't want this to be a random hook up and thats why i told him quite clearly that i was not looking for a casual wham-bham-thank-you-maam kinda thing. I do however want a relationship with him and i do want all that it comes with it too, like affection and physical contact. I do think that saying something as ignorant as "women like that get raped" is in very poor taste, especially since it was coming from a fellow woman. You know better than that.

"Pisces are always nice to everyone! Don't read too much into that." I am going to keep this in mind moving forward.

Any Pisces here wanna share their thoughts?

To 88akka, I am 29 and i did feel a little ouch about you said about the 15 year old girl. Well to think of it, my advances are quite platonic. So i cant blame him for acting in kind. Two reasons why i have been this way is a) My pride and i really dont want to get hurt again; b) I have had a Pisces boyfriend before and i know they usually like to take their time so i didnt want to rush things and overwhelm him. I have done things like stroke his hand when we are lying in bed talking. But he doesn’t really make obvious enough reciprocation for me to be confident and secure enough to do more. I want to hold his hand and I want to kiss him but I am terrified. Terrified that I might screw things up and go to fast, terrified of him not responding, terrified of my insecurities.

To MagicPowas, your suggestion seems like the most adult thing to do. I suppose I just need to get over my fears and insecurities and grow up. That will take some courage and confidence. But I think you are right about stop letting him take the lead. I don’t think it is in his nature to anyway.

I cant express how much this is doing for my personal growth, and I truly appreciate everyone’s honesty and help.

Posted by SadlySaggitarian

I do think that saying something as ignorant as "women like that get raped" is in very poor taste, especially since it was coming from a fellow woman. You know better than that.

for the fact that you think it's ignorant, and that you can't handle the truth ... you will probably continue to set yourself up to get raped.

Apparently you have no clue in knowing better ... so, you'll probably continue to dick tease him.

don't come back here crying when it happens ... because you've been warned

So I thought about it and I do feel like I should love myself more and not let men treat me this way, so I thought of cutting the cords with this guy. He came over to speak to me at work and was acting all normal and I was awkward as hell. He must have noticed because, he started giving me these damn sad puppy dog eyes every time we bump into each other and I am such a sucker for sad eyes. Gah. It hasn’t even been a week and I am already melting.

I have this tendency with men who don’t treat me right where I suddenly feel like I deserve some self-respect and decided I am going to ditch them only to break first and run back to them. I feel like I need to stop letting history repeat itself but looks like I am doing the same damn thing again. I am not really sure what to do. Logically it seems I should stop dating him but I feel terrible about it. And I miss his company 😢

i am a mess.