Same old story... need insights

Pisces girl and guy of unknown zodiac. He lied, played around, treated her badly and so on. She saw him for 3 months and then stopped. But she want to go back to him. Gets all depressed thinking he is seeing someone and what he found better in her and says she cant go on without him. Badly want him back. And cannot make a decision on what to do.


Is there any way to drag this girl out of her hallucinations? or is it gonna take a few years?


thanks

nope my aries friend has been getting pissed off trying to get this girl out of her misery. So am looking for some solutions or tricks to tackle a pisces female brain.

trouble is tat you are a male. I am waiting to hear from Pisces females. esp the grownups who know themselves quite well.

I would say as a generality as a Pisces myself, she's going to have to come to the conclusion for herself. Something is going to have to make her light go off and then she'll leave, happily 🙂 Until then, I don't know.

Thnx alir0x. iamthefish, the situation is way diff for a pisces gal and they know wat am talking abt. its a general scenario for pisces to cling on to the guy for few more years even after they decide to leave.

I think a lot of Pisceans get involved with these kinds of relationships because the Fish recognizes the other person in need.

For a person to treat a girl the way this man does, to the Fish, would signal a message that he doesn't know how to love completely. And if the Pisces girl wraps a world around him so he will know how to love totally, then her job will be done and she'll swim away.

You are confused, thelibran, into thinking that this Pisces girl is miserable. She's not miserable, at all .... fixing a broken person brings the Fish joy, and is a part of fulfilling our life purpose.

Even if it's all an illusion.

In your Aries friends position, I would focus on trying to get her to understand that she cannot help this man ... that yes, he is indeed broken, but, he can't be mended until he's ready to be mended.

You see, Pisces people are quite blind to this. Certainly, we can recognize when a person is in need .. however, we cannot recognize that people haven't asked us to fix them. We automatically assume that they want to be fixed, and then embark on taking on their pains to live through it with them, to help them rise to the surface.


This is what I gather from what you wrote .... she wants him back because her empathetic Piscean nature wants him to change for the better, and through her diligence of love and loyalty to him, regardless of emotional injury he may inflict upon her ... she wants to stand firm, in hopes that he comes to understand that to love a person means to honor the person.

Perfectly stated P-Angel.

Thanks P Angel. That was a lot helpful. 🙂

You're welcome 🙂

Generally, i think it's very true for a fish, the resistance between the 'heart and the head' can account for alot of indecision, frustration, confusion at some point. It will take some time for self-realization, knowing herself/her own motivations better and "seperate" from everyone else. I guess alot depends on the rest of her chart/maturity level, as well.

Though, to play the devil's advocate; there are pisceans too, that are more cautious and really "DON'T" want the emotional/behavioural baggage/babysitting, and readily* desire and appreciate that "stability" and "respect" right at the outset. We do like the strong & the balanced. Not all of us are martyrs or fixer-uppers, we too just want to get on with life, and enjoy it in the now with same like-minds, live for the moment, and not worry about somebody else's negative mental state or behaviour.

I don't do that either, mainly, just no interest .. but, most Pisceans do when they are young.

Sometimes, it's not even to fix people, it's to just aid them in some way and then feel taken advantage of. Like for instance .. a Fish will run to help someone, like run errands for them, do thier laundry, pick something up at the store for them .... and then feel abused then the reciever of this doesn't show gratitude.

Thing is .. this other person never asked for aid.

Young Fish do this alot .. we automatically assume people are in need, and put ourselves out there to help them. Once we get older and burnt, we learn.

libra also feels the same way. but we end up wondering than feeling like a victim.

from personal experience i can tell you that she will be the only one dragging herself out of that situation. you can give her all the advice in the world but when a pisces has there heart set on something they have to atleast try to make it work and await the outcome. they will not give up on someone they care about until absolutely sure there is nothing more they can do to make the situation work then like that they snap out of it. atleast with me thats the case. my friends and family can tell me what the "smart" thing to do is but i am extremely stubborn and have to try my way first. sometimes it takes a couple trys for me to learn my lesson.

Move On - Plenty more pebbles on the beach 🙂