Should I continue fishing? I need Pisces feedback

I'm almost embarrassed to write / ask about this since in some ways the very fact I'm here on these message boards again asking about the same fish = probably not a good sign.

I've pined in secret (more or less) for the same fish on and off for the last 3 years. We are 4 years apart in age; I met him when he was my teacher in design school. When he left his post, he emailed me his number and I gave him mine. He then moved to Chicago and we stayed in touch over the years via text, email and the occasional phone calls here and there. Most of those contacts were always initiated by him. When he did contact me he always would tell me how "awesome" I am...or how i "rule" or that I'm "great." he even once told me "you're special...I don't know what that means, but you're it." I melted. in return I have always been kind patient and supportive of him. But never pushy or overly communicated. I let him swim to me. If he wants.

Fast forward to a couple months ago where I got more frequent texts saying "hi" or just to tell me how awesome I am...and then a phone call out of the blue. The conversation was lovely; it felt different; he asked me everything about me; what im doing / dating...told me he has no girlfriend. remembered random things I had said years ago...even a song I had once emailed him (to which he never wrote back) and now brought up asking me what the song "means" to me...he just seemed so interested in everything I had to say. At the end of our convo he tells me he is for sure moving back to Los Angeles and that when he gets back into town "we should get together, share some wine and you can play piano and sing for me." wtf. I melted again.

That was August 2nd. It's now October 13th and no contact since. He moved back to L.A. 2-3 weeks ago (heard through an acquaintance) and he has not reached out.

I haven't and plan on not contacting him only because I feel if he really wanted to see me he would have gotten in touch. He also never told me when he was actually moving back so i take that as a sign he doesn't want pressure or commit to hanging? I also know fish need space / but why not even a friendly update on his status? Especially since he told me from June - august that he's moving back only to disappear? All my beautiful fishes...i would so appreciate some insight. I'm starting to think I need to get over this man and stop wasting the pretty. Am I wrong?

- Sensitive Aries / Mercury in Pisces
(sorry long entry)

Posted by SensitiveAries

... and stop wasting the pretty.

Taking into consideration that he was the one doing all the work, and complimenting you, while you seemed to just sit there not reciprocating .... I'd say that he's the one who has been wasting the pretty.

Posted by piranhaparadiise
How bout you make some effort this time and contact him ??

Pisces like to be pursued...yes we do...we like to know someone likes us...sure we will pursue but there has to be a balance sometime...otherwise we lose interest or feel you aren't interested...

Thanks for this advice. I want to pursue (im an aries for cryin out loud! ha!) Im just being chicken. Whats the worst that will happen!? He wont reciprocate. Worst things have happened. 🙂