Should i get in touch?

Recently joined a dating site and got talking to this Piscean guy, got loads in common and i really like him, we've arranged our first date and we swapped numbers. He asked what i wanted to do, so i said i didn't mind a walk or a meal so he said he would sort something out and let me know in a couple of days. Its been a couple of days... I was thinking of texting him tomorrow but i don't want to seem pushy, should i?

I might give him another day - we arn't so much the clock watchers - 3 days can feel like one..lol Then kindly "phone" him ..Voices are so much more personal, committed and interesting.

Thanks for the advice, I will do it tomorrow :0)

Posted by ilove2dream

He has probably spent a good bit of everyday dreaming about what the perfect date with you, but cant make up his mind what to do.

I myself have been doing this for the past month with a guy i met online, and one min im ready and got it figured out then the next i change my mind.

Let me get this straight ... because YOU, a GIRL, has unrealistic dreams about emotions (perfect date with perfect guy) ... you then apply this to a guy to make the assertion that he does the same thing as you?



Seriously .... do you women in here fully understand that dudes aren't female?

Posted by emsky333
Recently joined a dating site and got talking to this Piscean guy, got loads in common and i really like him, we've arranged our first date and we swapped numbers. He asked what i wanted to do, so i said i didn't mind a walk or a meal so he said he would sort something out and let me know in a couple of days. Its been a couple of days... I was thinking of texting him tomorrow but i don't want to seem pushy, should i?

I don't see a reason why you can't initiate contact, unless of course, you never have ... you should continue behaving exactly as you have been. If he is the one who has been doing the contacting, then you should probably not contact him, if you have contacted him since you've met him, then it wouldn't seem unusual for you to contact.

The last thing you want to do is to say or do something that seems forced. Above, somebody mentioned what you should say to him, and I would disagree with that if it is out the ordinary for you to say a thing like that. Perhaps, it is customary for the poster above to talk like that to a guy, but, this isn't about her talking to a guy in her fashion, it's about you talking to him.

People tend to take every situation as if it were themselves, and then give advice according to themselves and what they would do or like ... and rarely stays on focus that it's not about them.

YOu should say to him whatever it is that is normal for YOU to say to him. Thus far you've gotten his attention just being you .. the last thing you want to do at this time is to start "acting"

*the following words are extremely painful for me*

P-Angel is right.

*whew, that actually wasn't too bad*

Your fishy may seem suspect if you send him an emotionally charged text which would typically be out of character for you. Additionally, if time has passed don't fret, fishies spend time going in between your time and their time. This is likely something you'll need to get used to / understand for the entire duration of your relationship. It's best to get used to it now! The advice about a call (when the time is right) rather than a text is a good idea too, but it is likely he may not answer. Leave a message. I've read before where many fish prefer to know what someone wants to talk about before they answer a call. So just leave a message with a short... "Hey, I wanted to talk to you about...... insert whatever and do it in your tone of course". It's likely then you'll get a quicker call back and you'll be helping to set a precedent of talking over the phone (which in my opinion is SO much better and leaves less room for misinterpretation..... so important in the early stages of a relationship).

Cheers, and good luck!

Which site are you using? I'm a match.com gal myself. 🙂

Ha ha yea same :0) And thanks for the advice it's much appreciated, and i will keep it 99% normal allowing 1% of abnormallness for nerves.

Posted by ilove2dream
Yes, txt him. To get him to respond, txt him a question like "guess what?". Then say something sweet and encouraging, like "I was just thinking about how i met a great guy online that likes a lot of the same things i do". He has probably spent a good bit of everyday dreaming about what the perfect date with you, but cant make up his mind what to do. I myself have been doing this for the past month with a guy i met online, and one min im ready and got it figured out then the next i change my mind.

This is so way too mushy. For me anyways. The only scenario I would want to hear this is if I were with a man for a month or two or more that I was reaaaly diggin.




Let the man chase.

Really diggin him**

Its ok he rang :0D happy happy happy