@nimbue
15 Years1,000+ Posts
bump in the road? or what
the dealie is i don't know if i want to. i just think i should
Posted by Reason
no problem either, if you should, then you ought to .. and if that proves wrong, you may try making up later just as well
that's true actually
Posted by nimbue
well, i don't know what i'm doing, really. but i want to break up with my sag. because we are getting on but now it's getting a bit serious. i reckon it'd be better to cut things off now, before things get any deeper.he makes reference to future plans
introduced me to his friends
can't wait to meet my family
apologised for the break up, told me his reasons.
yeah, yeah yeah, excellent stuff. but maybe we're both kidding ourselves and down the line will end up hurting each other, which i couldn't stand.
it's like the more i put in, the more i stand to lose. and not just me, him too. he says he doesn't care about any of my bad points, or anything. that he accepts me fully. but i don't think i'm right for him. i just feel sort of breathless. not stifled, yet...i just don't see what to do.
i just don't know.
this is such a non-issue thread, lol.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
What are the pros/cons of sticking it out vs cutting your losses ?
Is it more for betterment of self ? career ? cakey eaty ? something better hopefully coming along ? better socially etc etc etc
(Not trying to sound a twat, I just thought I'd put up some main points)
no,it's cool.
um sticking it out cos he's like one of my favourite people.
he looks after me, which i really like
he seems to like everything about me
he really cares about my singing and writing. he's so positive about it. so nothing there to bitch about
i don't even want anyone else. i might not for a long while
ONE BIG CON:
seems like things are getting a bit deep, wouldn't the fallout be worse then? as opposed to now?
Posted by iceredrobot
Posted by nimbue
well, i don't know what i'm doing, really. but i want to break up with my sag. because we are getting on but now it's getting a bit serious. i reckon it'd be better to cut things off now, before things get any deeper.he makes reference to future plans
introduced me to his friends
can't wait to meet my family
apologised for the break up, told me his reasons.
yeah, yeah yeah, excellent stuff. but maybe we're both kidding ourselves and down the line will end up hurting each other, which i couldn't stand.
it's like the more i put in, the more i stand to lose. and not just me, him too. he says he doesn't care about any of my bad points, or anything. that he accepts me fully. but i don't think i'm right for him. i just feel sort of breathless. not stifled, yet...i just don't see what to do.
i just don't know.
this is such a non-issue thread, lol.
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thank you lovely. me too double 😢
you're a really nice person, e. thanks for that reality check.
i think i've caught a bit of sense now. i'm doing exactly what he did before. trying to cut off because the other person is getting attached (in this case him).
and you don't want to hurt them. in case you don't measure up to their needs or expectations. but i don't think i will. difference is, i'm not a great big girl pants and i can carry on without dumping him
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well, i don't know what i'm doing, really. but i want to break up with my sag. because we are getting on but now it's getting a bit serious. i reckon it'd be better to cut things off now, before things get any deeper.
he makes reference to future plans
introduced me to his friends
can't wait to meet my family
apologised for the break up, told me his reasons.
yeah, yeah yeah, excellent stuff. but maybe we're both kidding ourselves and down the line will end up hurting each other, which i couldn't stand.
it's like the more i put in, the more i stand to lose. and not just me, him too. he says he doesn't care about any of my bad points, or anything. that he accepts me fully. but i don't think i'm right for him. i just feel sort of breathless. not stifled, yet...i just don't see what to do.
i just don't know.
this is such a non-issue thread, lol.