Should I tell him I like him ?

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neptuneliker
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Okay, so I met this pisces guy two months ago on a dating app. The first date was really laid back and we talk about everything and anything. I had to go abroad for 3 weeks so he asked if we could meet again before. So second date less than a week after the first and we end up making out after a few drinks haha.
When I was on vacation I wasn't expecting to hear from him but he texted a lot ! I was glad he did to be honest, I thought it was cute. But he was a bit more distant after the second week. I thought it was okay, since I wasn't expecting all this to begin with and I can't ask him to keep texting like this haha.
I saw him when I came back (beginning of August) only once because he booked a 10 days holiday abroad. 😢
Third date was hot, he came back to my place and we made out on the couch, things really heated up but we didn't go all the way. He ended up falling asleep in my arms, and my heart melted a bit. In the morning lots of kisses and cuddles. I texted him I had a really good time with him, he said he felt the same. We could meet before he took the plane and he didn't text me during his trip, I texted him twice but he answered really quickly so I thought I shouldn't bother him.

He texted me as soon as he got back and I said we could go to the park the next day if the weather was nice, he said we could hang out and watch a film at his place. I had plans later that day so I told him I wouldn't stay long. Anyway, it was raining so I went to his. So we started the film and got comfy on the couch, we kissed a bit and he asked if I wanted to go to his bedroom. Now this is where I think I messed up : I know he was expecting some action, I can take a hint. I am really attracted to him, but I don't like to be rushed. I don't know, I felt pressured and I didn't know what to answer, I babbled some nonsense (I'm foreign) that was supposed to mean I'd rather stay here. But I didn't have time to finish my nonsense, he stand back and says "It's okay" and goes back to watch the film. After that I felt awful ! The worst is that I just couldn't express what I wanted to say which is that I am madly attracted to him, but I am just not ready. I don't want him to think I don't ever want to get intimate with him. After that I kissed him and cuddled, he did too. When I had to go he helped me find the buses that would take me to my friends and walked me to the stop and kissed me goodbye.
He texted to say it was good to see me and he hoped I found my way ok.
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I think in most situations you should be able to talk about anything but it is still new so I get your apprehension. Maybe you can ask him what he thinks about the other night? Ask him start up questions like are you good at communicating your thoughts? This is how I see it in the very beginning when a person is liking you what they are really liking is you for you, later they beginning to have a problem with your flaws and methods but that is not a good reason to back down always. If you ever get to the point of starting a relationship makes you to create it on the best terms for over the all success.
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neptuneliker
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Thanks for answering ! I agree Resurrected and I usually don't have a problem expressing my feelings and what my expectations are, but I have never been with an english speaker before.
I just don't know how to initiate this conversation with him now, I feel so embarrassed. I also feel that texting him about it seems a bit stupid when I just couldn't say it to him. Now, I'm ruminating this lame situation, maybe for nothing.