the problems with 'why'

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I'm finding it more and more difficult to find the initiative to do anything. And I think a lot of it is that I find everything just so meaningless. I used to have faith in a lot of things; I don't even have faith in humanity anymore; I work for a non-profit and have almost no faith in humanity left... Is it that I just started off with too many expectations of things, or is it this tendency I have to always ask the 'why' of everything. We live in a deconstructionist society, where in order to understand something, you must take it apart and reduce it to its least common denominator. Well, the problem with doing that is, by the time you're finished, there is very little, if anything left, b/c in truth, there is no meaning to anything, save for the meaning we humans create. So, where does that leave me? It is always the most successful people it seems, who don't really question things, and who t/f have unwavering faith in so many things. I wish I could find a resolution to this; a way of reconciling this lack of faith in things with the desperate need for motivation in my life.
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Well Hello Galil 🙂

Yeah, I felt the same way last month. My motivation was really low. I still continued doing what I was doing, but at the end of the day, I felt like ... what the point! Am I really doing to finish school, if I do, where will I live, how will I live, can I do what I need to do in order to make things a reality —?

Yes, plently of self-doubt was going on last month. LOL, it seemed that after I got my love life in a better prospective ... college life started to bug me .... LOL!!!

Galil,

Having high expectation along with disappointment will make you feel uneasy about life. I learned that not too long ago. My solution is to take time to worry about yourself and what you need to make yourself feel satisfied. Start with comunicating intra-personally and you should find something special 😉

Let me know if it works 🙂
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Haffo addressed something similiar last month, when he said, if you already have the end figured out, what's the point in even starting?

He was referring to being a Pisces, having our intuition, which enables the fish to know most outcomes. It takes the thrill away, the mystery . . and leaves us with very little motivation to even start something, much less, continue in things already started.

He's a wise one . . I don't know where he's gone . . but, he would have some insight for you.

It's a Piscean curse, really. In some ways, it's fabulous that you can see so clearly into a person and have a tremendous understanding . . on the other hand, it leaves nothing to learn or gain. It's a struggle and I hope you figure out something to put spark back into your life . . maybe a new lover would do it.
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G428,

How long have you felt this way? When's the last time you had a check up or complete physical?

I can appreciate your sense despair. I've been going through something similar for 6 months now. Feels like someone snuck into my bedroom in the middle of the night and performed a full-frontal lobotomy. I had no energy, no initiative; basically, I was in a persistent state of vegetative malaise. All my hobbies, interests and routines offered no comfort. I felt completely hollow.

You might need to look around your environment and start purging. Rid yourself of any clutter, toxic people or entities. Your home in many ways is a symbolic representation of your Self. So, who you bring into it and what you invest in it impacts you state of mind. Get out and go for walk, or hit the gym, put on some music and move around. Anything to get the blood stirring and energy moving. Sometimes you just have to kick yourself in the ass and get going. I had to push myself, and right now, I am doing a lot better. Seek out positive reinforcement - for me, it's daily affirmations, and getting some solar energy.

Finally, take a warm salt bath. It's cleansing. Pamper yourself or have your mate do it for you.

I don't know what your belief system is but I recommend a book by Denise Linn titled "Sacred Space: Clearing and Enhancing the Energy in Your Home". I find small improvements around my home or office are essential in maintaining a healthy attitude.

Good luck.
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WOW -- THIS pisces stuff is really, really powerful.

Gallilea (slick name btw).... in some ways you are substantiating my fears by how the Textbook Pisces Traits seem to find themselves working against us.

It's like....I used to think being a pisces was very powerful... almost omnipotent.

WE can know all things cuz we have all people in us.
WE can see the how the why and the result of things... the alpha and the omega.


But for all our powers....... why do others SEEM to have the simple peace of mind that eludes us.

Shit, i am just starting to unravel that one myself.

But it starts with our need for external validation..... WE SHOULDN'T NEED IT. At all.

The others are right.

Sometimes people can zap your energy.

Maybe your disillusionment came from someone who looked at some part of your life that you hold dear and they belittled it. Or maybe it's criticism.

If that's the case...FUCK THEM !! (in a nice way) .... Love life YOUR way.



I've been feeling complacent too.

Not cuz i don't have anything to dive into ...i've been trying to find a job in my field for months and i've been working on music hoping to become a professional for years.

So i don't have a lack of REASON to stay motivated.....but sometimes it does leave me.


My ideals too.... Gallilea.. believe me.
I'm 28...and the last two years are the ONLY points in my life where
I have NOT fantasized about being married, having a family...etc.

It's true.

The state of the world around us can really kill our ideals.

If we let it.

there comes a point when us Pisces have to STOP emphathizing.

Stop feeling the feelings of others.

If you take time and think about those old ideals and dreams that you used to have....

think how it would feel if you had them, you will discover you still want them.

Now, you and me both have to begin the courage of wanting what we want again.

that is where the Pisces power begins...if we truly want something, we get it.