This pisces is losing hope...

So I'm basically losing hope in people... I feel like I'm just way too nice sometimes and people know it. They know that when I love them I'd literally do anything for them and they use it to their advantage.

Sometimes I wish I could be cold/heartless and only care about myself like other people.
But when I try, I feel bad and just can't do it, its against my nature.
I'm just way too selfless...
Any other pisces like this?

people? fuck em... you're not being mean to them, you're just more important than other people's silly requests

yeah I definitely have to change my ways... I'm going to stop bending over backwards trying to please everyone, and i need to find better judgement on who deserves the nice me, and who deserves the not-so-nice me.

and I'm going to try and feel less guilty whenever I do need to show my bad side.

i'm just so sick of getting treated like a mat people can walk all over.

I have a tendency to tolerate a lot if I come to really like someone, or see something special in them.
It has been a problem and can be a problem if I see that spark in someone who has less than desirable qualities, and persist in being there for them, even when it affects my own self esteem. I am learning more to speak out and to walk away from those who are unable to meet me in the middle, which is all I ask really...compromise. I can relate to feeling bad if you show your bad side, I get upset with myself if I get angry at someone else, or even think negative things about them. I do often wish I was harder skinned, but by the same token, I do not want to lose my sensitivity altogether and become hardened and harsh as some do.

I know one or two Pisces like this. Selflessness is a beautiful quality so don't loose hope... just make sure to surround yourself with people who really care for you and watch your back when you're outside of that bubble. But don't change, the world needs more people like you.

I'm not a Pisces, but I can tell you I've been in this exact kind of place in my life.... a couple of times. Each time I feel like I had to evolve and reinvent myself based off lessons I learned so that I didn't become hardened and cold forever, but could maintain my soft and genuine side.

You have to evaluate if these people are worth keeping in your life or not, that's your first choice. Your next choice is to determine a way you are comfortable setting boundaries for people in your life. It can be as simple as, "when you do this.... it makes me feel". It needs to be a clear definition of what you won't take and not because you're being rude or insensitive to others, but because you are being kind and considerate of your own heart.

This doesn't really have anything to do with being a Pisces in my mind, but more of a moving through life kind of thing. It's my impression that lots of people go through times in their life that they look around and find that not everyone surrounding them is really healthy for them. I've been through it, but normally you have at least one you can still hold on to, if not consider it a painfully shaping time in your life that will leave you that much stronger when you are able to work your way through it.

Just like telling a jerky man you won;t have his bad behavior any more is an amazing confidence builder, SO IS telling an emotionally bruising mother or an unhanded commenting friend, etc. etc. You will grow, you will shape yourself as you move through and even better you will gain a confidence that cannot be handed to you. Along with that confidence that coming through this experience will give, you'll also start to hone your ability to sniff out less genuine people early on and avoid the whole tragedy earlier on.


Sending you hugs, I know that feeling of sheer exhaustion coupled with frustration. No, scratch that, sending you snuggles from my super duper cuddly cat.

Posted by dreamingpisces
So I'm basically losing hope in people...

I lost that but they need to be saved since we need peace and harmony in this world.

Posted by dreamingpisces

... I wish I could be cold/heartless and only care about myself like other people.

Posted by aPiscesPrincess

... I wish I could be cold and heartless and only care about myself

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The reason why you two feel this way is because of the extremes you have in your perception.


Both of you said, "only" .. to mean it has to be one way or the other ... you are blind to any gray areas there.


You both have in your mind that it can ONLY be you or ONLY be the other ..... and that is why you feel trapped inside of this feeling.


To care about the self doesn't mean it's being cold and heartless to others UNLESS it's done utilizing the "only" factor.

Posted by dreamingpisces

So I'm basically losing hope in people... I feel like I'm just way too nice sometimes and people know it.

I'm not sure I even get what you are trying to say here, while commenting on how melodramatic you are being.

So, because you are nice to the extreme, which is your job to control of yourself, since they are your emotions ... because of this you are losing in hope in other people .. to imply that in order for you to not lose hope in someone else that that someone else has to be accountibile to how you choose to feel?


Guilt association ... you should check yourself

Posted by dreamingpisces
So I'm basically losing hope in people... I feel like I'm just way too nice sometimes and people know it. They know that when I love them I'd literally do anything for them and they use it to their advantage.

Sometimes I wish I could be cold/heartless and only care about myself like other people.
But when I try, I feel bad and just can't do it, its against my nature.
I'm just way too selfless...
Any other pisces like this?

Try changing you're mindset. You say it's not in your nature to be cold so instead of looking at it as 'doing for others' think of it as 'doing for you'. Being authentically 'you'.

I do what I want to do. Regardless of how it is perceived by others or how it is accepted. See if I get upset that people are taking me for granted then I have to examine my actions and come to the conclusion that I didn't do for me...I was doing for them. That makes me angry with myself and it makes me feel manipulative.

So before doing for others I stop and ask myself 'do you really want to do this'. Once I've answered 'yes' to that question I take full responsibility for what happens after my actions. I can't blame other people for receiving what I wanted to give. And because I gave willingly and happily I also don't care a whole lot how it is received.

Posted by dreamingpisces
So I'm basically losing hope in people... I feel like I'm just way too nice sometimes and people know it. They know that when I love them I'd literally do anything for them and they use it to their advantage.

Sometimes I wish I could be cold/heartless and only care about myself like other people.
But when I try, I feel bad and just can't do it, its against my nature.
I'm just way too selfless...
Any other pisces like this?

second decan? well what helped me was that i lived with a couple of leos, one sagi and one aries for 2 yrs. second decan pisces are very impressionable so u are driven by ppl around u (even unconsciously). fire signs just push u with crazy energy... that aries chap was an alien - could literally work for days without a wink of sleep. leos always get u to be happy and laugh... also are dignified and teach u not to bother to worry abt shyte u get from others as long as u do your part. the sagi chick was a huge inspiration... hugely independent and extremely goal oriented.. needed to be pushed in the right direction at times but so persistent and focused on tasks that she got whatever she wanted.

so id say just hang more with ppl who will help u get focused on your life instead of feeling lost. i get the feeling that you have this housewife syndrome... lemme guess - pretty jobless and bored arnt u? an idle mind is a devils workshop. u will think of only unnecessary things when u dont have any meaningful work to do.

Posted by fishtale

Try changing you're mindset. You say it's not in your nature to be cold so instead of looking at it as 'doing for others' think of it as 'doing for you'. Being authentically 'you'.

I do what I want to do. Regardless of how it is perceived by others or how it is accepted. See if I get upset that people are taking me for granted then I have to examine my actions and come to the conclusion that I didn't do for me...I was doing for them. That makes me angry with myself and it makes me feel manipulative.

So before doing for others I stop and ask myself 'do you really want to do this'. Once I've answered 'yes' to that question I take full responsibility for what happens after my actions. I can't blame other people for receiving what I wanted to give. And because I gave willingly and happily I also don't care a whole lot how it is received.

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