You might say that every women has different expectations from men, but I believe there are still STANDARTS about that as well. Lets see. Shoot as it comes (Shh! Tiamat 🙂).
What do women except from men?

You mean I don't get to shoot people.Thats not any fun.

I would say respect and emotional security are things that alot might expect.
Shooting: Write every idea that comes from your head.
Shoot people: Kill somebody with help of gun, rifle etc.
What does "emotional security" mean?
Shoot people: Kill somebody with help of gun, rifle etc.
What does "emotional security" mean?

Being dependable and trustworthy.Supportiveness and knowing they can be comfortable in following and expressing thier goals.
Loyalty, Love, and Friendship. Maybe I should just get a dog.
LOL Caridid. Ah cmon, we cant be that bad...right?

For me Haffo, there are many things I expect from men, most of which are easy things, like sharing, honesty and nurturing - but the main thing that I need and expect, which probably most women feel this way too - is for a man to understand that I am female and therefore I am emotional.
Take my man, for instance, he gives me this and for this reason (among many) I will never forsake him. Most men get irritated, frustrated and sometimes angry when the tears spill out for no apparant reason - it's at those times that women begin to comprehend that this man is not right for them. There is no reason to question why we cry, we just do because of our gender. We can't help it any more than men can help waking up with a hard-on. So, what is most expected from my man, more than anything else is just a soothing shoulder to lean on and let me weep if I need to. And my husband does just that. He doesn't ask why, he doesn't get irritated - he understands that I am female and I have no control over this emotion and he just holds me tenderly until I've released the anguish. Once a man can do this for his woman, then everything else in the relationship is elementary.
Take my man, for instance, he gives me this and for this reason (among many) I will never forsake him. Most men get irritated, frustrated and sometimes angry when the tears spill out for no apparant reason - it's at those times that women begin to comprehend that this man is not right for them. There is no reason to question why we cry, we just do because of our gender. We can't help it any more than men can help waking up with a hard-on. So, what is most expected from my man, more than anything else is just a soothing shoulder to lean on and let me weep if I need to. And my husband does just that. He doesn't ask why, he doesn't get irritated - he understands that I am female and I have no control over this emotion and he just holds me tenderly until I've released the anguish. Once a man can do this for his woman, then everything else in the relationship is elementary.
Haffo you men are wonderful creatures. I just haven't came across a gentleman who can meet my needs for friendship, love and loyalty.
Caridid:
That makes you think that you have better chance with dogs? (LOL just joking).
That makes you think that you have better chance with dogs? (LOL just joking).
Great answear P-Angerl.
Actually if you say what you have posted above to the man in the same way and he still dont get it, then I agree with you.
Actually if you say what you have posted above to the man in the same way and he still dont get it, then I agree with you.
Friendship,consistency,affection,undertanding,......and very very good soul connecting sex...I need good sex and I am not sacrificing that for the other qualities....I need them all
Thanks for answer softy.
I expect to grow with a man. I would want someone who is open, honest, and willing to teach as well as learn.

Softy you are pissing me off saying everything that I am about to say! Just kidding.
I think the women here have all said what I personally need from a man, esp. P-Angel, Softy, & SeizetheDay (I really agree with that...you must grow together and if you don't consciously work on that...you will grow apart.)
P-Angel...What sign is your man again? Reason I asked is because my Pisces man is the same way. But the Taurus guy (pseudo-roommate) just laughs off my mood swings & makes me laugh in the process.
LOL like last nite, I was fussing b/c I was hungry (I become SUPER-B!TCH when I haven't eaten...even my mom doesn't want to be around, but I seriously CAN'T help it!) Anyway...he starts laughing and said
"Oh no, (Cancerlady) is in whinig mode again!" (Mockingly) "I'm hungry, It's hot" All I could do is laugh because it was true but he understood I meant no harm. Sometimes I need people to pull outside of myself to realize what I am doing, but not in a critical way.
I think the women here have all said what I personally need from a man, esp. P-Angel, Softy, & SeizetheDay (I really agree with that...you must grow together and if you don't consciously work on that...you will grow apart.)
P-Angel...What sign is your man again? Reason I asked is because my Pisces man is the same way. But the Taurus guy (pseudo-roommate) just laughs off my mood swings & makes me laugh in the process.
LOL like last nite, I was fussing b/c I was hungry (I become SUPER-B!TCH when I haven't eaten...even my mom doesn't want to be around, but I seriously CAN'T help it!) Anyway...he starts laughing and said
"Oh no, (Cancerlady) is in whinig mode again!" (Mockingly) "I'm hungry, It's hot" All I could do is laugh because it was true but he understood I meant no harm. Sometimes I need people to pull outside of myself to realize what I am doing, but not in a critical way.
Lol..I understand Cancerlady...I have two pIsces men in my life...one is my daughters(who is a scorpio)father and and the other one i've been seeing for about three years. They are both very sweet men but I am afraid to say that I believe them to be liars and I think they actually convince themselves that they are telling the truth..so it comes across better....Cancerlady...I get in my crzy moods sometimes and I really appreciate the male friends of mine who can laugh it off and just except it as part of my character.....

They are both very sweet men but I am afraid to say that I believe them to be liars and I think they actually convince themselves that they are telling the truth..so it comes across better....
Can you say that again? LOL I can deal with the little white lies though because I tell them myself, he he he
Cancerlady
Can you say that again? LOL I can deal with the little white lies though because I tell them myself, he he he
Cancerlady
True....The funny thing is that I do dirt myself, but I try to do things in a way that it never surfaces for questioning or I am never looking suspicious enough where I would ever have to lie....I feel like if you and I haven't made a "verbal commitment to each other" then what I do is my business...even if I elude to the fact that I am not doing anything...lol...If your not man enough or "I" am not enough for you to say I want to be with you and you only.........Then in my heart I don't feel I am doing anything wrong..but that is just me.

WOW!
We have so much in common, it's scary! Do you know your full birth chart? If not what is your B-day, time born, & place born...If you don't mind me asking.
Cancerlady
We have so much in common, it's scary! Do you know your full birth chart? If not what is your B-day, time born, & place born...If you don't mind me asking.
Cancerlady
I know this:
Rising Sign: Capricorm
Venus:Gemini
Mars: Aries
My birthday is 7/8/77 9:21pm in Chattanooga TN
Rising Sign: Capricorm
Venus:Gemini
Mars: Aries
My birthday is 7/8/77 9:21pm in Chattanooga TN

This is you?
Rising Sign is in 24 Degrees Capricorn
You are practical and reserved but very ambitious. An achiever and a hard worker, you respect success. Older looking and very serious as a youth, things lighten up and you relax more as you mature. You have a serious view of the world as being a difficult place to be in. Very envious of those who seem to have an easier life than you have, relaxation and play do not come easily. It is important that you had abundant parental support as a child so that you do not feel lonely and isolated as an adult. Generally, you have a good, earthy sense of humor that can carry you through when times really do get tough. You are purposeful, self-willed, industrious, realistic and responsible.
Sun is in 16 Degrees Cancer.
Very emotional and sensitive, you have an intuitive understanding of the "vibes" around you. You tend to be quite generous, giving, loving and caring, but only when your own needs for emotional support, love and security have been met. If they are not met, you tend to withdraw into yourself and become very insecure and selfish. Your home and family (especially your mother or the person who played that role for you early on) represent security for you and thus assume a larger-than-life importance. Very sentimental, you have vivid and long- enduring memories of the past. No matter how well adjusted you are, you will always need a secret quiet place of your own in order to feel at peace. Feeding others can give you great pleasure you would enjoy being part of a large family.
Moon is in 26 Degrees Aries.
High-spirited and courageous, you are a fighter when your emotions are aroused. The degree of force and drive that you can bring to any effort sometimes surprises others. You have hair-trigger reactions to specific stimuli and tend to "let it all hang out." You sometimes act before you think and do things on the spur of the moment, and that sometimes gets you into trouble. Your moods change quickly -- you have quite a temper, but you don't hold grudges. Very independent, with an extremely strong and forceful personality, you are known for being impulsive, careless, reckless, foolhardy, rash and daring.
Mercury is in 27 Degrees Cancer.
Your emotions tend to rule your thought processes. You have difficulty seeing life objectively. You have an excellent memory, especially about things to which you have formed an emotional bond. You prefer ideas and thoughts that are known and familiar, and therefore tend to dislike fads or radical ideas. The beliefs and traditions of your family and culture are very important to you. Your thinking becomes quite unclear when you are emotionally shaken -- try not to make major decisions when you are upset. Let things calm down first.
Venus is in 02 Degrees Gemini.
You are friendly, warm, open and tolerant toward others. You love variety in relationships, indeed you may even prefer to maintain more than one relationship at a time! Very witty and humorous, you have the ability to amuse and please others. This makes you quite popular. You love to play the field and thus find it difficult to settle down and make any deep emotional commitments. Your innate charm and vivacity makes you welcome most everywhere you go.
Mars is in 23 Degrees Taurus.
Careful, slow and thorough about all that you do, at times you are also willful and stubborn when others try to alter your course. You are definitely not a quitter -- you will work long and hard to get what you want. Your possessions are very important to you. One of your continuing problems is that you tend to regard the significant people in your life much the same way as you do your possessions -- you become overly attached and much too jealous. You repress your anger when you get upset and that is not healthy. Try to learn to show your anger immediately in order to avoid painful explosions later.
Jupiter is in 21
Rising Sign is in 24 Degrees Capricorn
You are practical and reserved but very ambitious. An achiever and a hard worker, you respect success. Older looking and very serious as a youth, things lighten up and you relax more as you mature. You have a serious view of the world as being a difficult place to be in. Very envious of those who seem to have an easier life than you have, relaxation and play do not come easily. It is important that you had abundant parental support as a child so that you do not feel lonely and isolated as an adult. Generally, you have a good, earthy sense of humor that can carry you through when times really do get tough. You are purposeful, self-willed, industrious, realistic and responsible.
Sun is in 16 Degrees Cancer.
Very emotional and sensitive, you have an intuitive understanding of the "vibes" around you. You tend to be quite generous, giving, loving and caring, but only when your own needs for emotional support, love and security have been met. If they are not met, you tend to withdraw into yourself and become very insecure and selfish. Your home and family (especially your mother or the person who played that role for you early on) represent security for you and thus assume a larger-than-life importance. Very sentimental, you have vivid and long- enduring memories of the past. No matter how well adjusted you are, you will always need a secret quiet place of your own in order to feel at peace. Feeding others can give you great pleasure you would enjoy being part of a large family.
Moon is in 26 Degrees Aries.
High-spirited and courageous, you are a fighter when your emotions are aroused. The degree of force and drive that you can bring to any effort sometimes surprises others. You have hair-trigger reactions to specific stimuli and tend to "let it all hang out." You sometimes act before you think and do things on the spur of the moment, and that sometimes gets you into trouble. Your moods change quickly -- you have quite a temper, but you don't hold grudges. Very independent, with an extremely strong and forceful personality, you are known for being impulsive, careless, reckless, foolhardy, rash and daring.
Mercury is in 27 Degrees Cancer.
Your emotions tend to rule your thought processes. You have difficulty seeing life objectively. You have an excellent memory, especially about things to which you have formed an emotional bond. You prefer ideas and thoughts that are known and familiar, and therefore tend to dislike fads or radical ideas. The beliefs and traditions of your family and culture are very important to you. Your thinking becomes quite unclear when you are emotionally shaken -- try not to make major decisions when you are upset. Let things calm down first.
Venus is in 02 Degrees Gemini.
You are friendly, warm, open and tolerant toward others. You love variety in relationships, indeed you may even prefer to maintain more than one relationship at a time! Very witty and humorous, you have the ability to amuse and please others. This makes you quite popular. You love to play the field and thus find it difficult to settle down and make any deep emotional commitments. Your innate charm and vivacity makes you welcome most everywhere you go.
Mars is in 23 Degrees Taurus.
Careful, slow and thorough about all that you do, at times you are also willful and stubborn when others try to alter your course. You are definitely not a quitter -- you will work long and hard to get what you want. Your possessions are very important to you. One of your continuing problems is that you tend to regard the significant people in your life much the same way as you do your possessions -- you become overly attached and much too jealous. You repress your anger when you get upset and that is not healthy. Try to learn to show your anger immediately in order to avoid painful explosions later.
Jupiter is in 21
Thank you Cancerlady....OPPS..I guess my moon is in Aries...got that mixed up!!

AHA!
No wonder we have so much in common...
You are a Cancer double threat (Me Triple)! Sun, Mercury
We both have Earth rising signs (Me Virgo, you Cappy)
We both have Venus-Gemini/ Mars-Taurus so love style s are pretty much the same
The only difference is our moons, jupiter & Saturn and of course Chinese signs...
You are a snake...Yikes!
The SNAKE
Thoughtful, Wise, Shrewd, Intuitive, Guarded, Independent, Sometimes Lazy.
The Snake is the master seducer of the Chinese Zodiac. Always well-liked, Snakes are sociable yet introverted as well as intuitive and blessed with a keen aptitude for business. Although Snakes may not consider money that important, their luck and tendency to be a bit tight with their purse strings ensure they will have more money than they need. Snakes are far more mentally active than they are physically. They tend to analyze events before joining in. Overall Snakes have reserved dispositions and probing minds that make intellectual pursuits far more attractive to them than physical activity.
At their core, Snakes are a little insecure, and can be very jealous and possessive, which can estrange both their friends and family. Despite their imperfections, Snakes can be alluring, munificent and loving. Snakes tend to trust their own intuition over the advice of others.
While sometimes they are seen as lazy, Snakes will work very hard when the need arises. They are not quitters and expect the same commitment from their partners in any venture.
Snakes could often be a little less arrogant, and develop a stronger sense of self.
No wonder we have so much in common...
You are a Cancer double threat (Me Triple)! Sun, Mercury
We both have Earth rising signs (Me Virgo, you Cappy)
We both have Venus-Gemini/ Mars-Taurus so love style s are pretty much the same
The only difference is our moons, jupiter & Saturn and of course Chinese signs...
You are a snake...Yikes!
The SNAKE
Thoughtful, Wise, Shrewd, Intuitive, Guarded, Independent, Sometimes Lazy.
The Snake is the master seducer of the Chinese Zodiac. Always well-liked, Snakes are sociable yet introverted as well as intuitive and blessed with a keen aptitude for business. Although Snakes may not consider money that important, their luck and tendency to be a bit tight with their purse strings ensure they will have more money than they need. Snakes are far more mentally active than they are physically. They tend to analyze events before joining in. Overall Snakes have reserved dispositions and probing minds that make intellectual pursuits far more attractive to them than physical activity.
At their core, Snakes are a little insecure, and can be very jealous and possessive, which can estrange both their friends and family. Despite their imperfections, Snakes can be alluring, munificent and loving. Snakes tend to trust their own intuition over the advice of others.
While sometimes they are seen as lazy, Snakes will work very hard when the need arises. They are not quitters and expect the same commitment from their partners in any venture.
Snakes could often be a little less arrogant, and develop a stronger sense of self.

Here is your doublesign Cancer/Snake Reading...
As Cancers go, the Snake type is more independent of ponderous emotional fetters than his kin. He's familial to be sure, and even clinging - after all, he is both Snake and Cancer! But the Cancer born a Snake, unlike certain other Cancers we all know and love, recognizes his own weaknesses, comprehends his black moods and, because of his cool-headed sagacity, usually manages to slither out of the lunatic coldrums for which Cancers can be so famous.
As Snakes go, the Cancer/Snake will be less cold-blooded than other serpents. Cancer's brooding soulfulness and profound affectivity lend the Snake a blanket, caress his cold exterior and warm the heart into something close to affability. Snakes can be really cool customers. They wiggle and squirm their way in and out of every variety of situation and are clever as snakes at turning most circumstances to their favor. In the Cancerian Snake, this tendency to want the leading role in all of life's movies is tempered by common sense and natural reserve.
All Snakes are created liars. But some are more lying than others. Cancer/Snakes are among the least slippery of serpents. They might not bamboozle their grandmothers just to look good. Nonetheless, even the sensible Cancer/Snake is capable of rank dissimulation and tells ingenious and Byzantine fibs. He can't help it. Prevarication (even to himself) is part of the challenge of seduction and capture. And all Cancer/Snakes want to be thought of as captivating, charming, beautiful to behold, better than their neighbors and taller and hansomer and better dressed than anybody anywhere ever.
These folk are not above name-dropping and label-flaunting either. Picture the splendid home-loving Cancerian/Snake seated on his designer couch, wearing his designer jeans. His tanned and braceleted arms embrace a brood of beautiful towheads in designer frocks and Bermuda shorts. Behind his head, a Picasso. At his feet, a giant Pyrenees hound found only in the furthest darkest caves of Andorra. Everybody knows these huge beasts eat at least one small cow every day, are tres, tres a' la mode and fetch a fortune. Never mind. The image is the message with Cancer/Snakes. No matter the cost or the travail involved, count on your friendly neighborhood Cancer/Snake to own the most chic and fashionable of everything.
Incidentally, if you don't live in an upper-echelon neighborhood, you may never meet one of these gorgeous creatures. Cancerian Snakes don't hang out in scruffy sections. They may come from poverty, but they are determined not to stay there for long. Up and over they go, attending the "right" schools and rubbing shoulders with the "in" crowd, marrying the one person in the whole gang who is sure to become famous and rich, Cancer/Snakes don't only like comfort, they think they invented it.
These people love to entertain, too. Once they have achieved a modicum of security and know a few of the "top" people, count on the Cancer/Snake to throw some of the most lavish and well-attended parties in town. Of course Cancer/Snakes will have catered food and a pair of bartenders, set a team of servants to work shucking the oysters, and then will circulate. The way he sees it, the Cancer/Snake cannot very well move about among his guests, charm the pants off the chancellor of Germany whose press secretary promised he'd put in an appearance, inveigle the secretary of the art museum to give him a private showing of the new upcoming work of the younger artists and serve drinks at the same time - or can he? Well, it doesn't really matter, because he won't. Cancer/Snakes like to be waited on. And as long as they can afford slaves, they will be sure to have them.
These people are extremely artistic. They have a way of embellishing everything that comes their way. And Cancer/Snakes are of good counsel. They really can pu
As Cancers go, the Snake type is more independent of ponderous emotional fetters than his kin. He's familial to be sure, and even clinging - after all, he is both Snake and Cancer! But the Cancer born a Snake, unlike certain other Cancers we all know and love, recognizes his own weaknesses, comprehends his black moods and, because of his cool-headed sagacity, usually manages to slither out of the lunatic coldrums for which Cancers can be so famous.
As Snakes go, the Cancer/Snake will be less cold-blooded than other serpents. Cancer's brooding soulfulness and profound affectivity lend the Snake a blanket, caress his cold exterior and warm the heart into something close to affability. Snakes can be really cool customers. They wiggle and squirm their way in and out of every variety of situation and are clever as snakes at turning most circumstances to their favor. In the Cancerian Snake, this tendency to want the leading role in all of life's movies is tempered by common sense and natural reserve.
All Snakes are created liars. But some are more lying than others. Cancer/Snakes are among the least slippery of serpents. They might not bamboozle their grandmothers just to look good. Nonetheless, even the sensible Cancer/Snake is capable of rank dissimulation and tells ingenious and Byzantine fibs. He can't help it. Prevarication (even to himself) is part of the challenge of seduction and capture. And all Cancer/Snakes want to be thought of as captivating, charming, beautiful to behold, better than their neighbors and taller and hansomer and better dressed than anybody anywhere ever.
These folk are not above name-dropping and label-flaunting either. Picture the splendid home-loving Cancerian/Snake seated on his designer couch, wearing his designer jeans. His tanned and braceleted arms embrace a brood of beautiful towheads in designer frocks and Bermuda shorts. Behind his head, a Picasso. At his feet, a giant Pyrenees hound found only in the furthest darkest caves of Andorra. Everybody knows these huge beasts eat at least one small cow every day, are tres, tres a' la mode and fetch a fortune. Never mind. The image is the message with Cancer/Snakes. No matter the cost or the travail involved, count on your friendly neighborhood Cancer/Snake to own the most chic and fashionable of everything.
Incidentally, if you don't live in an upper-echelon neighborhood, you may never meet one of these gorgeous creatures. Cancerian Snakes don't hang out in scruffy sections. They may come from poverty, but they are determined not to stay there for long. Up and over they go, attending the "right" schools and rubbing shoulders with the "in" crowd, marrying the one person in the whole gang who is sure to become famous and rich, Cancer/Snakes don't only like comfort, they think they invented it.
These people love to entertain, too. Once they have achieved a modicum of security and know a few of the "top" people, count on the Cancer/Snake to throw some of the most lavish and well-attended parties in town. Of course Cancer/Snakes will have catered food and a pair of bartenders, set a team of servants to work shucking the oysters, and then will circulate. The way he sees it, the Cancer/Snake cannot very well move about among his guests, charm the pants off the chancellor of Germany whose press secretary promised he'd put in an appearance, inveigle the secretary of the art museum to give him a private showing of the new upcoming work of the younger artists and serve drinks at the same time - or can he? Well, it doesn't really matter, because he won't. Cancer/Snakes like to be waited on. And as long as they can afford slaves, they will be sure to have them.
These people are extremely artistic. They have a way of embellishing everything that comes their way. And Cancer/Snakes are of good counsel. They really can pu

Sorry Haffo
Got WAY off the subject...We suck but we don't swallow! (At least I dont!)
Cancerlady
Got WAY off the subject...We suck but we don't swallow! (At least I dont!)
Cancerlady
"Best compatable Rooster/Pisces..."
Sorry Softy, but there are too much age difference between you and me 🙂
Its Ok Cancerlady. Next time I will simply kill you (J/K).
Sorry Softy, but there are too much age difference between you and me 🙂
Its Ok Cancerlady. Next time I will simply kill you (J/K).

LMAO Haffo, you are crazy!
I always seem to interrupt your flow huh? First Virgogirl now this...
I always seem to interrupt your flow huh? First Virgogirl now this...
Dang....lol...Thats not ALL good....However I must say that I am VERY SEXY AND ALLURING.....Not to toot my own horn....but TOOT!! TOOT!!...lol
"However I must say that I am VERY SEXY AND ALLURING.....Not to toot my own horn....but TOOT!! TOOT!!"
Really?....DAMN IT!...Arghhh!
Age....Girl
Girl...Age
Age....Girl
..
..
Arghh!
Ok. The egg was first. But it can be? The chicken is the only one who can bring that egg! Ok, then the chicken was first! But how? That chicken came out from the egg. It cant be created first. Ok then egg was first...Agggg! SHUT UP!
Really?....DAMN IT!...Arghhh!
Age....Girl
Girl...Age
Age....Girl
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..
Arghh!
Ok. The egg was first. But it can be? The chicken is the only one who can bring that egg! Ok, then the chicken was first! But how? That chicken came out from the egg. It cant be created first. Ok then egg was first...Agggg! SHUT UP!

Is that frustration because you haven't gotten paid yet?Kidding.Actually being serious now,yes it is a nice pic.Since everyone else is answering for themselves and that was just a general answer from me,except for the goal thing that was a bit more personal.Real honesty.Rudeness,degrading and out of spite critical isn't honesty.Loyalty,sense of humor,good disposition,reasonable and fair in going half and half on everything as far as responiblities go.
If I understood you all correctly, then women simply waits for men to grab her?

Actually branh I don't fall for that type of lying.That is what I consider lying or sucking up,but yeah,I do know alot of girls that are like that so you've got a very good point.

Wow Brahn0913,
If I am being honest with myself, I must say that's true! But then again I am perfect so....
Cancerlady
If I am being honest with myself, I must say that's true! But then again I am perfect so....
Cancerlady
Now that you understand this Brahn- sounds like we'll get along nicely. Now hold my purse while I go shopping for shoes.

I remember when I first came to the boards several months ago and I said things about my husband (Mr. Virgo) that offended some other Virgo's. I said things like, he's whipped, say sit and he sits. But, well . . . look at this - heres Mr. Virgo Branh validating my point.
SIT - now STAY until I tell you you can get up!
SIT - now STAY until I tell you you can get up!
All that means now that women simply try to use men for their advantage and nothing more. All this friendship, grow etc is just a mask. You people are evil.

Evil.What,are you jealous because the voices in my head are talking to me and not you?Bubba says....*kidding*
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