What do you guys make of this...

OK, you've known someone for years as a friend but then out of the blue you both realise you like each other in more of a romantic sense and begin seeing each other.

However there are problems.

They used to date a good friend of yours who they dumped - it ended badly and your friend now pretty much hates them, this was around 7 months ago - your friend has however since moved on and is currently happy with someone else (but still does not bear happy thought towards their ex).

You used to date their friend (and current flatmate) who you dumped after a brief affair but who still holds a torch for you - this goes back around 7-8 months also.

So what do you do, do you keep it quiet for fear of upsetting your friends and no doubt being told "how could you?" and so on, or do you tell them and just get it all over and done with?

Opinions please.

What if neither of these "couples" were proper relationships though SF, as in both only dated for a couple of weeks at best. I could see the point if it had been a serious relationship but I'm thinking surely it's not such a big deal if it were only a brief fling of sorts?

As for my friend well I have told her something happened, and she wasn't happy (mostly because she doesn't like the guy for dumping her - she's not usually the one being dumped so I think it's a pride thing maybe) but said she wasn't really that bothered. It's just kinda progressed since then, but I don't want to flaunt it in front of her, but then I'm thinking what do I do?

I know what you're saying SF. He dumped her because he found her too demanding and hard to handle - which god love her she is lol. I guess my problem is that if it were me I'd be fine with it, especially if I was supposedly so happy with my new man I wouldn't see any problem with it.

And I agree no man is worth ruining a friendship over - I just personally would not have any problem with it if it made my friend happy over one small space in time that was in the past. But she's not me I guess and I suppose she is entitled to feel differently about it.

Yeah I should really have made it clear it was me I was talking about lol, not that I didn't think you guys would guess anyway!

OK, MY friend who briefly dated the guy does not like him because he finished it with her, it really is that simple. As I said before she's quite proud and isn't really used to being dumped. As for his flatmate well we're still friends because it wasn't really anything exciting for it to have been classed as a break-up anyway.

If it were me I wouldn't let my own bitter feelings get in the way of a friend being happy that's all. Besides it may not be anything serious anyway.

And no I'm not a lesbian, at least not anymore. 😛

And I have been honest with my friend, at least I told her that he and I had got close and liked each other.

She's not said anything else on the matter and has been fine with me, in fact I'm having her over for dinner later. I'll probably broach the subject again anyway and see what she says.

I think the problem is more with his flatmate as he may feel as though his pal has "muscled" in on someone he likes.