Is he interested or just friendly?

There is a pisces guy I am interested in. I meet him everyday in college and it has been now 2 months that we are talking. He is very shy and he is usually approaching people only to ask about classes or help. He doesn't seem to be interested about anyone to have a close friendship.

A month ago we spended a whole day together. I took him to my favourite places, we talked, we went to the shops. I like everything about him. Then after the weekend he didn't even say hello. And then we had a small period that he was one day approaching me to say hello and the other ignoring me.

Lately as we were talking I noticed that he expressed some jealousy against other men talking to me and some posessiveness. He even said to me that it is ok if we talk everyday (without me even mensioning anything!)and that he would like to spend some more time with me. While we were talking he said that he knew that I was looking at him in the class and he has noticed and know whatever I was doing while I was not paying attention to him.

Now he has added me on MSN and everytime he sees me he smiles to me constantly. Though, he still stays quite distant.

I feel so insecure about falling in love with someone. I don't want to get hurt again. But I feel that soon I will fall deeply in love with him. I feel so confused with his on/off attitude.

Is he trully interested in me or is he trying to approach a friendly person?

I find it hard to believe that he showed jealously and possessiveness, for this isn't normally our way .. though, people are different.

Are you sure he did that .. or were you hoping it to be so?
Because you then say that he doesn't pay attention to you all the time and seems distant. A Cancer female looks to get jealous attention from the man of her interest, and often poses the situation to get it. His actions of remaining aloof, don't indicate jealousy and possessiveness.

If I were you .. I would back away now before your feelings get hurt, and they most certainly will since already you are fearing falling, and insecure because the Pisces man will appear as though he is remaining emotionally distant to you, even if you two get together because Pisces male and female don't get attached to intense feelings unless we choose to.

For now, before you fall, you should detach .. let a friendship form first, so you can see whether you can handle his talking of his feelings as though they aren't felt.

Are you sure he did that .. or were you hoping it to be so?

It was really obvious. He was asking me questions about a guy. He wanted to know if there is something going on between us.

He is in general distant and shy.

A Cancer female looks to get jealous attention from the man of her interest

Since the first day I met him I am offering him love, attention. I care for him. I don't want him jealous. I want him to feel comfortable with me and happy.

Once he told me that he was hungry and he didn't have time to go and get something. I was hungry too and I went to the cantine to get a hotdog. By mistake the hotdog was enormous and I wished he was there to share it with me. By pure luck on my way back to college I saw him running and I gave him half. He was really pleased and I felt so nice.

I care for him.

Also, another day in front of him another guy tried to flirt with me and I got very angry. I insulted the other person. I wanted him to know that he would be the one and only in my heart.

"another day in front of him another guy tried to flirt with me and I got very angry. I insulted the other person. I wanted him to know that he would be the one and only in my heart."


:::sighs:::


My words come full circle .. why do you do that? I know it's the female Cancer way .. but why?

This kind of thing is what I refer to .. a Pisces doesn't like this. This feeling like something has to be proven to us, that your heart is with us and not with others who might want you .. this is displaying a mind-set of competition, so the Pisces will know that they are getting a reward by being with you.

Stop it !!!!!!


If you want him .. then don't do this again. To you, this is your way because you are a female Cancer, but, to him .. he will process this as insincere, for IF you have to prove it by means of competing, then it's for impressions, rather than heart-felt.

I'm telling all you Cancer women out there ... the Pisces man will hurt your feelings BAD .. run !!!!

"Lately as we were talking I noticed that he expressed some jealousy against other men talking to me and some posessiveness."

Wow...it's usually the male cancers that are known for doing this! (He may even have cancer as a moon sign?) I would honestly proceed with caution with this one. I've had my experiances with people of a jealous and possessive nature and the relationships never seem to last. There seems to be an insecurity with this guy in knowing how he feels exactly about you. (Or he might be really shy - which I can relate to as well - rejection isn't an easy thing to deal with - though a little confidence can go a long way.) If you were to show him that you are interested in him - it may help improve his overall self confidence enough for him to break out of his shell and eventually tell you how he really feels about you. Some people need a lil motivation to drive themselves to act upon a situation. I mean I'm a shy person myself - and it wasn't easy for my pisces to bring out how I felt about her. Just took a lil reassurance and confidence in knowing that she liked me too. His overall lack of confidence may be eating him up inside causing him to feel a certain way for you - but otherwise having to come off somewhat strong only cause he seems indecisive about his own feelings towards you. Part of him may not want to seem desperate or even interested for that matter (I know male pisceans can come off as uncaring or aloof only cause its just not their style to be submissive to others - may have something to do with losing control of emotion - which is something they're otherwise very good at dealing with - my brother is like that) but to see you with other guys to him (despite not knowing how he feels) may make him feel like he should give up on the chance of you two ever being together - even though he may not want to. Cause I know pisceans aren't ones to come off as desperate for anything. My pisces has mentioned this in the past - if she wants someone and they're interested in someone else or vice versa. They can have each other. Its not worth the effort to influence someone whom isn't otherwise interested. Its a waste of time to her - and there's plenty of opportunities out there to be with other people. But true love is a lil harder to find. Best of luck with you infactuation! But like I said - a lil reassurance can go a long way!

dont listen to P-angel......sounds to me like u might have something good on your hands.......give it time ....

Male Capricorns are more suited for the female Cancer, for they will nurture your tender feelings .. Pisces men don't normally do this.

For the most part, a Pisces looks at people who display attention seeking kind of emotions as an issue in which we usually swim away, rather than deal with .. unless we choose to. That's not to say that he won't want to fix you, because he might if he cares. Whereas, the male Capricorn will just embrace this without trying to fix, because he would see this as something that needs acceptance.

The Pisces looks for what needs to be fixed within their partners, and this is where they will aim .. this fixing, meaning emotional weaknesses because are experts at seperating what doesn't have to hurt if we don't want it to.

So, he will analyze that you insulted an innocent person for his benefit, as though your aim is to seek a certain kind of emotional attention from him, which would indicate to him that your emotionally weaker than him and IF he cares about you, he will attempt to fix you.

You'll know if he does because he'll ask you why you did that. If he asks you why you felt compelled to yell at an innocent person for just being human ... then you'll know that your path with him will not be easy because his aim will be to free you of letting your emotions control your responses.

If you want a person who will appreciate and feel awed from this kind of display of fierce loyalty by yelling in anger at a person for talking to you .. then try an Aries or Scorpio, or even a Gemini.

There is a big possibility that he is insecure.

It was not a reward for the pisces neither an attack to the "innocent" gemini. I had no other option. He was boasting loudly that I looked at him in a flirty way!

Pisces men will always be nice to women, and usually go shopping and to other places with women with joy.

In my opinion his questions about you talking with another guys is not about posessiveness, but because he doenst like competition, if you have someone he will not try if he really cares about you.

i agree

"I had no other option. He was boasting loudly that I looked at him in a flirty way!"


I expected this to read:


'I had no other option. He was loudly telling lies on me, saying that I looked at him in a flirty way !!! And that was not true.'


Boasting?

And you got angry?

Why anger, if you don't mind me asking?

Pisces guys like attention and to get noticed like any other sign. If you back off too much, he will sense this as disinterest. What's the point of mind-games? ..they can backfire. Just be true to yourself and sincere. And yes, stay patient, kind and optimistic when with him. Pisceans hate drama and pessimism. Keep hope and his spirits alive and he won't run away.. + do things together, pisces likes that.

btw, most pisceans do hate competition - if that's what it was. Fish are human too, with human emotions. He just wants to know where he stands.

*Good Luck* ..

Why anger, if you don't mind me asking?

btw, most pisceans do hate competition - if that's what it was. Fish are human too, with human emotions. He just wants to know where he stands

P-Angel and mystic fish.

I didn't want to give the wrong impression that I was flirting with other guys. I wanted him to know that he is my only choice no matter what. I am not the easy woman. I could be easy for him and only.

I will be patient and I will be friendly and fun while he is around. I will try not to do the first move to talk to him and I will be myself.

We are already doing things together (like studying)from time to time. I am trying not to be clingy and at the same time not to be ignorant. (I feel like joggling!)

I think I ended up into a conclusion.

I would like to thank you all (P-Angel,Capvirgo, DC,cj7, Shattered Dreams, Ms Pisces and mystic fish) for helping me and giving me your opignion. I feel already better.

sweetcancer24

"I didn't want to give the wrong impression that I was flirting with other guys. I wanted him to know that he is my only choice no matter what. I am not the easy woman. I could be easy for him and only."

Sorry about the cross-communication..lol I totally understand, and know you are sincere. I only mean't through (his) own perception of things, that is all. Again good luck to you both.. 🙂

thank you mystic fish 🙂

y/w, sw24 ..

I agree, he's interested. Pisces will not often compete with others for your affection. If there is too much of a crowd, we'll swim off to other waters. 😉 I think he's just looking for some more reassurance that you're into him.