Why would this set him off??

My child has recently been diagnosed with a disorder.. so, there is some heartbreak there.. that is beginning to bubble up to the surface. My child was also misbehaving earlier..

So, I am talking to my pisces boyfriend about things.. and hours later, he is in the beginning stages of completely blowing up on me. Why? I have no idea. He can be such a "know it all" -- especially about things he doesn't have any clue about.. He started to slice and dice me with his words when I was able to calm things down before it went any further..

Things have been calm for a little over two weeks (this is huge - he usually blows up weekly)..

Why would conversation that has nothing to do with him and I cause this? I could tell something was up last night... but, I'm not sure what could be causing him upset. I'll only know when the lid blows off and I hear about 100 different things he's been pissed off about.

I am friendly to all... but trust very few.. when he throws things in my face that I confided in him about.. it makes it hard to trust him. I don't get him at all?

Does your boyfriend have a disorder?

I ask this with sincerity. The blowing up weekly seems odd, Bipolar maybe or he's just a straight up and down Narcissistic asshole who must make every single thing about him.

The getting angry part is a ruse, he either has some kind of personality/mental disorder himself or he's USING anger to place the ATTENTION back onto himself which points back to being a selfish Narc.

I noticed since the conversation was about your child, he blew up. Why? Because everything has to be about HIM HIM HIM and the quickest way to get a woman focused on HIM is to appear upset, angry.

Instead of you being focused on your child with you he instead makes it all about HIM. You are now seeing the pathology of a Narcissist.

Let him be mad, angry, who cares, especially if you've done nothing to instigate his anger. Shift the focus back to where it belongs, on your son.

He's old enough to not blow up like a 2 year old. If he's mad let him be mad, once he see you're not in the least interested in coddling his anger, he'll suddenly turn into a new person, a much nice person.

Your boyfriend is not child, he should be able to handle his anger around other adults.

Thanks. The thing is.. I don't know "how" to show him I'm not into coddling his anger. If I stop speaking, it makes it worse.. and will last hours. If I say, I am done with this convo, he freaks even more. So far, all I've got is "ok, lets please change the subject." ... But he still shouldn't slice and dice me..

In situations yours there has to be a level of communication judo. You can affirm his anger, for example I understand your upset/angry/agitated (insert your own word) yet I need you to stay on the subject, it's not about you, me, it's about my child. That's just one example.

You have to keep bringing the subject BACK to you or to your child or to whatever it is your discussing. What you may find is he truly isn't interested in discussing situations unless the spotlight is on him and his anger.

This can be a very exhausting situation for a woman to be in when everything from A to Z is about him, his anger, his feelings and everything is about how flawed you are in some capacity. This kind of behavior is exhausting and tend to be a self esteem kill as well.

You don't have to enable him. You can speak in 2 year old language and put him in time out. You can say I see your angry, agitated etc and I'm going to take a 30 minute break or an hour break or I'll call you back, text you this afternoon.

If he has a personality disorder he'll slice you and dice you every chance he gets. If he's an abuser mentally, emotionally, he'll slice you and dice you every chance he gets, if he isn't any of those thing and just a miserable asshole he'll slice you and dice you.

You can Google Verbal self defense or Verbal Judo which may help you...Also if he has been diagnosed with a personality disorder, mental disorder well I can see him being defensive about that because people (some) with these kind of disorders hate admitting they are not normal/do not think normal.

Men with Bipolar (not medicated) love conflict. Love it

How beta, maybe he's on something. Yelling and raging on a female is soooo weak imo...